Honest open exploratory communication, sincerity, curiosity rather than dogmatic beliefs, appreciation, loving embodiment and integrity = qualities of integral, loving & lasting relationships of all kinds.

One commonality I have noticed is shared among the people who remain in my life with mutually appreciative regard and relating, whether as massage clients, more unitively affectionate platonic & unpaid massage friendships and / or intimate companions, which is not present in those who I am no longer in touch with.

This main commonality which is present in my long standing human connections of all kinds, is a mutually appreciative choice to remain proactively openly honest and explorationally communicative with ( rather than deafly at or gossipingly about or ghosting ) me, each other.

Rather than expecting me to be a mind reader of their subjective interpretations, boundaries and preferences, even when they try to avoid owning their equal responsibility for first proactively honestly directly stating their interpretations, boundaries & preferences to me before expecting me to know even after I clearly honestly state this is one of my boundaries.
And rather than choosing to feel & act offended or otherwise assuming negatively if I dont know what they don't first honestly directly respectfully state to & with me, including about ways of expressing & exploring loving & authentically intentioned being, relating & communicating which I've learned many other people of both genders view as natural, appreciative, interesting, loving, beautiful, integral, etc..

And their willingness to own their choice of feeling negative or appreciative ( and healthfully accurately choosing the latter ) about my real or assumed loving nondogmatic curiosity and openness to exploring each others subjective interpretations, appreciative openness & preferences up to directly honestly respectfully stated boundaries & preferences.

Along with an appreciation for authenticity, vulnerability, quietly appreciative, meditatively sensually embodying ways of exploring creating being and relating with life & each other.
Ebbing & flowing of solitude and interconnectedness.

And they are also integral, empathically considerate and trustworthy enough to reliably, proactively make time to honestly communicate & appreciatively relate in one way or another with each other in these ways. Whether occasionally or more often.

Quality is not always found in a overall quantity of people who appreciate us.

And we can also share this with more than one being.
We can share this too with whoever we meet and relate with in each now, simply by being appreciatively present, openly honestly communicating with each other in an exploratory rather than knee jerk negatively assumptive way about our boundaries, feelings, ideas, intentions and preferences.

By also speaking up honestly in equal respect of ourselves if we are misjudged, slandered or otherwise treated disrespectfully - dishonestly, without bowing under or tiptoeing around others attempts at oppressive shaming, blaming and offense they project onto their ideas about us,

By being curious rather then oppressively knee jerk offended and shaming and blaming at various expressions of kindness, curiosity, freedom, subjective meanings associated with something someone does or is assumed to have done so long as not suppressing anothers freedom and honestly stated boundaries.

Some of these connections have lasted decades. Some more recent.
Most, though some do, have no social media presence or public display, yet are still genuinely appreciatively, honestly present with each other when in person and through private forms of communicating.
I experience these ways of being & relating, whether explored in platonic or more affectionately embodying ways of relating or some blending, as equally  deeply beautiful, integral, enriching and worthwhile.
All I deeply appreciate.

For these are the ways we co-create true empathy, understanding & integrity.
Giving in essence & expressions the honesty, kindness, open minded curiosity, appreciation & consideration we likely prefer to receive from people for our equal humanity.
Which is also necessary for co-creating mutually peacefully respecting freedom & harmonious co-existence.