How we see & what we feel about each other, life and embodying consciousness - the natural body, is related to our multi-layered assumptions, beliefs & limits - capacity of appreciation.
A revealing practice, process of awareness, is to more honestly, deeply pay attention to & examine our own, societal & related assumptions, beliefs, interpretations & resulting feelings we subconsciously or consciously choose about ourselves. About each other. About being & seeing a natural, nude body in a depiction or in person. Our body is sensuous nature, it is our home while human. Our unadorned body is intimately a part of us, of Life. It is soul fleshing.
Appreciatively embracing our naturally sensuous nature and nurturing sensual experiences is vital to being fully alive & open hearttedly embodying our consciousness
Naturally sensuous experiences such as enjoying feeling our body gracefully move & relax in stillness during exercise & embodied meditations,
savoring hydrating our selves with pure water,
feeling the cosmic yin - yang pulsing of prana flowing intimately through our lungs as we breath,
relishing the warmth of life blood flowing throughout our body from our faithful hearts,
appreciatively relaxing into enjoying slow attentively nurturing massages & other kinds of loving affection,
lingering in the nuanced spacing between silence & varied sounds,
along with so many other ways of appreciating the beautifully sensual nature of freely living as embodying beings,
are not impure, sinful or creepy.
Even though they are often devalued, viewed with emotional & tension creating suspicion & shame or only as "acceptable" in very narrow contexts, by some beliefs and people clinging to them.
In significant ways, our depth of nurturing appreciation, comfort or discomfort with loving sensuality is a type of holographic expression of our attitudes toward Life itself. About authentic feeling and being with or without pretense.
( For clarity, I do not provide sexual relating for paid massage sessions for various reasons. I am addressing this in awareness of individuals diversity of assumptions, projections & interpretations generally and of sensuality and sexuality.
Sexual relating is something I am only open to giving or sharing individually based on authentic natural mutual synergy, appreciation & openness. Not something which I am open to selling or buying.
Though I respect the freedom of people to choose what they desire for their own individual life & relationships, both similar and different from my own preferences.
Talking non-judgmentally, honestly & openly about these aspects of life and directly & indirectly associated beliefs, feelings & experiences, is simply something I have learned over the years of giving for and listening to many people, is helpful in supporting mutual understanding, loving self & mutual acceptance & appreciation and more fully relaxing into our beautifully divine human nature..
And of people expanding assumptions, beliefs & associated interpretations of their own or acquired via gossip, into more mutually respectful, loving, kind, relaxed and healthfully natural ways of being & relating. Not only related to massage sessions, but to all aspects of life. )
If we interpret, feel & judge negatively, interpret as creepy or impure, feel shame, guilt, suspicion, discomfort or fear toward our own and / or another human beings appreciative & shame free ways of perceiving & relating with the sensual world ( which includes ones own and others healthy natural embodying being, nurturing affection and wellness ) such feelings are reflections of unresolved, perception distorting assumptive beliefs & conditioning.
Even if normalized.
As is misinterpreting real or imagined openness or offers by people, as if they were expectations. And passive aggressively or directly dishonestly - misleadingly refusing to directly honestly mutually respectfully communicate ones subjective feelings, interpretations and boundaries - preferences to people before expecting them to know & thereby be able to respect such equally.
Such attitudes often also manifest in mentally and physically unbalanced, tight, armored, knee jerk hostile, suspicious and unappreciative attitudes and reactions to ways of being & relating involving slowing down, feeling nurturing and quiet experiences. Including experiences such as massage, standing meditation & slow moving qigong, being lovingly kind & affectionate with more than just one other person.
When we quiet our awareness beyond the noise of negative assumptions & projections, of socially normalized fearful, shaming and suspicious conditioning, we purify our mind - heart. Nurturing more integrity, natural honesty, appreciation & love for our own & each others natural embodying soul - being & nature.
Creating spaciousness to more clearly perceive & respect the natural beauty, integrity, harmony & love inherent in this earthly world, our natural body, diverse ways of being & sharing loving kindness, appreciation & wellness.
This is one of the benefits, even if challenging in ways for some people, of types of massage which include a slower, nourishing pace. Of relaxing into stretches - opening movements for more than a few seconds.
And of Tai Chi Qigong with the deliciously slow, attentively present embodying movement. And Zhan Zhuang with meditative standing in stillness.
When you imagine or see an image of a nude - natural body ( simply the truth of part of who we are while human ), when you see or relate in any way with your own or another beings natural body in person, when you are presented with opportunities to slow down, to breathe & feel the pleasures of lovingly relaxed presence more deeply, pay attention to the nature of your beliefs, attitudes & resulting feelings about such.
For such are the attitudes one holds & emanates to & about Life itself.
We are born, and innately are, divine, godly, naturally good & pure including our naturally unadorned body. Although it is somewhat normalized in aspects of modern american culture, feeling ashamed, fearful, guilty or angry at the thought or actual experiences of not hiding our body from ourself or others when mutually open, of slowing down & taking time for quiet nurturing experiences, is unnatural.
A fact many other cultures, and growing numbers of people in this culture, understand and respect. And at varied times in history was much more common.
This does not mean that we "should" or must be totally unclothed or relate in any way in any situation, context or around specific people we choose not to, of course.
As long as we know and directly honestly mutually respectfully communicate our specific personal boundaries to anyone we relate with so that such can be known & thereby respected for mutual comfort, especially when relating through or with the body, our personal boundaries & preferences are valid.
What is beneficial & healthy is to question our own negative, uncomfortable or shame tinted acquired beliefs, assumptions & projections about our own & others embodying being.
Unnatural shaming, unloving, suspicious, negatively projecting & guilt laden attitudes tend to create feelings of constriction, nervousness, disgust, fear & hate. Which creates blockages in ones own emotions & body. And desensitizes ones heart & empathy, even if outward behaviors are extroverted, "positive" and gregarious in ways.
Do you choose to embody & give out kind, appreciative & loving regard for the physicalizing home which is your own body? And of others?
In a deep way we are Life, God, Love manifesting & playing & loving in fleshing ways.
Pure and totally appropriate as we naturally are & tend to our embodying being healthfully. Lovingly.
When we make this, maybe subtle, adjustment in our perceptions & interpretations, subconscious or conscious layers of tension, disassociation & stress developed by in a way being at war with our own & our shared naturally sensual humanity are able to gradually release & transform into deeper relaxation, appreciation, quiet minded clear awareness & Love. Whether we are fully clothed in any context or not.
The purpose of sharing this is not to suggest we should do anything, be nude to any degree, or relate with anyone in any way we don't want to.
The purpose of sharing this is simply in respect of recognizing & owning our attitudes and beliefs. Including those we assume are "normal", those acquired via gossip and ideological prejudices. And recognizing how deeply they effect our interpretations and feelings of ourself, each other and natural embodying life.
Are we kind, straightforward honest, loving & appreciative to our whole embodying being? To life as such?
And in our regard of & communicating with each other? Do we relax into experiences of more deeply slowing down to appreciate feeling being in our body and nourishing experiences?
This honest self-exploration when approached with equal love, kindness, honesty and respect for freedom of ourself and each other - all beings to be similar & diverse, will greatly heal & deepen the integrity, maturity & lovingly expanding nature of our interpretations, ways of being and relating & experiences of living. Of our health, relationships and soul development.
And help us relax with more freedom, mutual respect, appreciation, love and enjoyably nourishing presence into our human experiences. "
- Aaron Irons