Admission & respect of diverse perspectives,
boundaries & preferences about the human body & massage.
The cumulative years of learning from many different massage schools, courses & teachers, along with my own ongoing self motivated study, learning & growth, naturally contribute to expanding my awareness & appreciation.
Both of massage methods, and of the diversity of perspectives, methods, defaults of appreciation, openness & ways of viewing & healthfully relating to our human body, wellness & consciousness.
Some teachers I studied with were very formal, clinical and cerebral.
Some were very focused on physical therapy, rehabilitative and fitness performance. With a strong anatomical focus. Especially utilizing deep tissue, sports, myofascial, pnf & related methods.
Some women & men teachers were very earthy, affirming natural nurturing ways of being & relating. Some of the women teaching massage classes promoted inclusion of the breasts and abdomen in massage sessions for women, and minimal draping, which apparently is common in European cultures and at places such as Harbin and similar wellness cultures in America.
Which I've learned from experience many women prefer, though some are self-conscious about admitting for fear of social judgement.
Personally I am not that open with how I provide massages generally. Or for most people. Or in most contexts.
But I admit & respect the validity and existence of more than just what I prefer in life, as long as people respect my boundaries and freedom equally & communicate honestly with me.
I've learned such considerations and diverse perspectives are often an elephant in the room so to speak relative to massages. And life generally. Which many people try to pretend doesn't exist or shame into denial.
Admitting this basic fact does not mean I personally agree with or provide massage in certain ways or the ways every person wants. Admitting this is simply being honest. Which some people choose to negatively interpret - project, feel and act offended and abusively falsely accusatory at even the mere honest admission of this fact.
And some even relate in abusively misleadingly passive aggressive manipulative, dishonest ways to pretend to themselves or others that they are victims. Such as by not self-responsibly honestly directly respectfully stating if they have a boundary or preference exactly what when & where it is before expecting it to be understood & thereby equally respected by me, by a massage therapist or whoever else they relate with.
Ignoring the fact that there are many valid interpretations, ways of receiving massage & relating in life generally which may be beyond their own personal preferences, understanding or comfort.
However, I believe that being openly honest with oneself and each other is essential to being integral, loving, mature human beings. And to co-creating mutual clear understanding, respectful and harmonious experiences & relationships of all kinds.
I always have and do respect individuals personal boundaries & preferences during massage sessions, as long as people simply own their equal responsibility for proactively & responsively honestly, directly & respectfully communicating with me and telling me exactly what, where & when their boundaries & preferences are.
As long as people don't abusively negatively project, relate passive aggressively manipulatively & lie.
And I require and only allow relating with people who respect my boundaries.
In order for me to be open to give sessions for people, I require people equally respect my boundaries.
Including simply being mutually respectfully reliable about proactively and responsively directly honestly communicating with me generally and about boundaries, preferences & any questions.
And appreciatively reliably make & show for appointments.
Growing to appreciate varied perspectives, ways of being, relating & supporting unitive wellness. even when seemingly different from ones own comfort zones of understanding, familiarity and preferences, is part of being & relating honestly, lovingly and respectfully.
This is part of maturing & respecting honesty and diversity of thought & living. Not oppressively expecting or demanding life and everyone mind read & default to ones own limits of appreciation, comfort, boundaries and understanding.
This foundation of mutual respect, honesty & appreciation also nourishes trustworthiness, empathy & integrity.
And how we relate with each other & life overall.
Both of massage methods, and of the diversity of perspectives, methods, defaults of appreciation, openness & ways of viewing & healthfully relating to our human body, wellness & consciousness.
Some teachers I studied with were very formal, clinical and cerebral.
Some were very focused on physical therapy, rehabilitative and fitness performance. With a strong anatomical focus. Especially utilizing deep tissue, sports, myofascial, pnf & related methods.
Some women & men teachers were very earthy, affirming natural nurturing ways of being & relating. Some of the women teaching massage classes promoted inclusion of the breasts and abdomen in massage sessions for women, and minimal draping, which apparently is common in European cultures and at places such as Harbin and similar wellness cultures in America.
Which I've learned from experience many women prefer, though some are self-conscious about admitting for fear of social judgement.
Personally I am not that open with how I provide massages generally. Or for most people. Or in most contexts.
But I admit & respect the validity and existence of more than just what I prefer in life, as long as people respect my boundaries and freedom equally & communicate honestly with me.
I've learned such considerations and diverse perspectives are often an elephant in the room so to speak relative to massages. And life generally. Which many people try to pretend doesn't exist or shame into denial.
Admitting this basic fact does not mean I personally agree with or provide massage in certain ways or the ways every person wants. Admitting this is simply being honest. Which some people choose to negatively interpret - project, feel and act offended and abusively falsely accusatory at even the mere honest admission of this fact.
And some even relate in abusively misleadingly passive aggressive manipulative, dishonest ways to pretend to themselves or others that they are victims. Such as by not self-responsibly honestly directly respectfully stating if they have a boundary or preference exactly what when & where it is before expecting it to be understood & thereby equally respected by me, by a massage therapist or whoever else they relate with.
Ignoring the fact that there are many valid interpretations, ways of receiving massage & relating in life generally which may be beyond their own personal preferences, understanding or comfort.
However, I believe that being openly honest with oneself and each other is essential to being integral, loving, mature human beings. And to co-creating mutual clear understanding, respectful and harmonious experiences & relationships of all kinds.
I always have and do respect individuals personal boundaries & preferences during massage sessions, as long as people simply own their equal responsibility for proactively & responsively honestly, directly & respectfully communicating with me and telling me exactly what, where & when their boundaries & preferences are.
As long as people don't abusively negatively project, relate passive aggressively manipulatively & lie.
And I require and only allow relating with people who respect my boundaries.
In order for me to be open to give sessions for people, I require people equally respect my boundaries.
Including simply being mutually respectfully reliable about proactively and responsively directly honestly communicating with me generally and about boundaries, preferences & any questions.
And appreciatively reliably make & show for appointments.
Growing to appreciate varied perspectives, ways of being, relating & supporting unitive wellness. even when seemingly different from ones own comfort zones of understanding, familiarity and preferences, is part of being & relating honestly, lovingly and respectfully.
This is part of maturing & respecting honesty and diversity of thought & living. Not oppressively expecting or demanding life and everyone mind read & default to ones own limits of appreciation, comfort, boundaries and understanding.
This foundation of mutual respect, honesty & appreciation also nourishes trustworthiness, empathy & integrity.
And how we relate with each other & life overall.
