Please note - I mostly provide only clothed massages for new clients now.
Table massage is available to receive wearing loose, comfortable clothing.
Most of the men & women I've met & given sessions for so far, are honest, good people who respect my boundaries.
I am respectful of men & women equally. Including respecting the fact that neither women nor men are a homogenous group of humans who all think, interpret and want the same in life. An example - in my life personally & during decades as a massage therapist, I've experienced a very wide range of attitudes, comfort & preferences of women relative to what they want, are comfortable with & prefer for their massage sessions.
From women who prefer sports & deep tissue, clinical, or more spa type & relaxation massage, or chair massage. To women have a more naturalist perspective, wanting no or minimal draping, and preferring inclusion of their breasts ( as also taught & promoted by some women at some massage schools I attended ). And more than a few women wanting overtly sexual massages & more intimate affection as part of their sessions.
To some women preferring light or deep touch, mostly clothed sessions, etc..
I always do my best to respect the diverse ranges of subjective personal comfort, preferences, boundaries & openness individual women and men have for their massage sessions and life generally, even when it is beyond my own personal comfort, boundaries & openness generally and / or personally.
I respect such, as long as my boundaries are equally respected.
Which is one reason I always require clients to simply own their equal responsibility & accountability for their choices of behaviors & for knowing & proactively & responsively directly honestly telling me what, when & where their boundaries, preferences & comfort is at any time before & during their sessions before expecting me to understand & respect such, so I can clearly understand & respect such as I always then do.
This is one of my boundaries for all people at all times & contexts - I require fully direct open honesty & honest communicating to me of individuals personal boundaries, preferences & generally for mutual clarity & comfort.
Especially since I am not a psychic mind reader, and I know from experience how diversely people interpret the same experiences, ways of massage, draping, how much or little verbal conversation preferred during sessions, etc..
While I respect the many preferences & desires of women & men who request & receive sessions from me when its compatible with me & even when it is different from what I am open to providing & participating in, I also respect myself & my boundaries as an equal human being.
Unfortunately, due to some experiences with some women choosing to disrespect my boundaries, relate dishonestly & lie to try to hide their abusively passive aggressively & directly manipulative, negatively projecting, dishonest & sexual behaviors and react vindictively when I declined them, and some people reacting abusively & falsely accusing me even for my simply honestly admitting some of these experiences instead of being bullied into parroting a divisively sexist & dishonest confirmation-biased attitude pretending women are all honest faultless angels but men are evil based in mere accusations & gender, I now mostly only provide clothed massage sessions for new clientele.
I do not deserve & do not tolerate women - people of either gender, who violate my boundaries, abusively manipulatively passive aggressively or directly lie, negatively project, and threaten false accusations to try to hide their own sexual, negatively projecting, biased & dishonest behaviors & attitudes toward me. Nor people who hypocritically act like because I am male I don't deserve equal respect, belief & protection from abusively dishonest people when they are female as much as if they are male.
The amount of women abusively manipulatively lying ( by omission & commission ) & falsely accusing boys and men like this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gQ3SxOG18A - and variations of it for a myriad of predatory selfish dishonest motivations, are not rare. What is rare is abusive dishonest women & gender confirmation-biased female idolizing / male vilifying propaganda admitting such women abuse, assault, steal from, manipulatively falsely accuse, lie to & about men and about women's own behaviors.
I, and many men I've met, know from personal experience that some women choose to abusively lie and threaten false accusations both as a form of negatively projecting power-tripping abuse & in order to try to get away with physically and sexually assaulting, stealing from and punishing men for declining women's sexual & related desires & demands, to try to hide & avoid accountability for their abusive negative projecting, sexual, hypocritical misandric sexist & manipulative attitudes & behaviors toward boys & men. And out of vindictiveness at boys & men honestly admitting experiencing such abusive, lying treatment by females.
I prioritize honesty & true equality - equal rights balanced by equal honest unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility and accountability of females in all ways & contexts generally & for their attitudes, behaviors & effects of such.
And true equality including equal uncensored listening to, belief, love, and protection of myself & other male human beings from abusive dishonest, manipulative, disrespectful people even when they are females.
For this reason, for my comfort I now mostly provide only clothed sessions for new clients.
People who respect honesty, true equality & human beings of both genders equally, will fully understand & respect what I am referring to & me for being honest about it & my boundaries.
I am respectful of men & women equally. Including respecting the fact that neither women nor men are a homogenous group of humans who all think, interpret and want the same in life. An example - in my life personally & during decades as a massage therapist, I've experienced a very wide range of attitudes, comfort & preferences of women relative to what they want, are comfortable with & prefer for their massage sessions.
From women who prefer sports & deep tissue, clinical, or more spa type & relaxation massage, or chair massage. To women have a more naturalist perspective, wanting no or minimal draping, and preferring inclusion of their breasts ( as also taught & promoted by some women at some massage schools I attended ). And more than a few women wanting overtly sexual massages & more intimate affection as part of their sessions.
To some women preferring light or deep touch, mostly clothed sessions, etc..
I always do my best to respect the diverse ranges of subjective personal comfort, preferences, boundaries & openness individual women and men have for their massage sessions and life generally, even when it is beyond my own personal comfort, boundaries & openness generally and / or personally.
I respect such, as long as my boundaries are equally respected.
Which is one reason I always require clients to simply own their equal responsibility & accountability for their choices of behaviors & for knowing & proactively & responsively directly honestly telling me what, when & where their boundaries, preferences & comfort is at any time before & during their sessions before expecting me to understand & respect such, so I can clearly understand & respect such as I always then do.
This is one of my boundaries for all people at all times & contexts - I require fully direct open honesty & honest communicating to me of individuals personal boundaries, preferences & generally for mutual clarity & comfort.
Especially since I am not a psychic mind reader, and I know from experience how diversely people interpret the same experiences, ways of massage, draping, how much or little verbal conversation preferred during sessions, etc..
While I respect the many preferences & desires of women & men who request & receive sessions from me when its compatible with me & even when it is different from what I am open to providing & participating in, I also respect myself & my boundaries as an equal human being.
Unfortunately, due to some experiences with some women choosing to disrespect my boundaries, relate dishonestly & lie to try to hide their abusively passive aggressively & directly manipulative, negatively projecting, dishonest & sexual behaviors and react vindictively when I declined them, and some people reacting abusively & falsely accusing me even for my simply honestly admitting some of these experiences instead of being bullied into parroting a divisively sexist & dishonest confirmation-biased attitude pretending women are all honest faultless angels but men are evil based in mere accusations & gender, I now mostly only provide clothed massage sessions for new clientele.
I do not deserve & do not tolerate women - people of either gender, who violate my boundaries, abusively manipulatively passive aggressively or directly lie, negatively project, and threaten false accusations to try to hide their own sexual, negatively projecting, biased & dishonest behaviors & attitudes toward me. Nor people who hypocritically act like because I am male I don't deserve equal respect, belief & protection from abusively dishonest people when they are female as much as if they are male.
The amount of women abusively manipulatively lying ( by omission & commission ) & falsely accusing boys and men like this - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gQ3SxOG18A - and variations of it for a myriad of predatory selfish dishonest motivations, are not rare. What is rare is abusive dishonest women & gender confirmation-biased female idolizing / male vilifying propaganda admitting such women abuse, assault, steal from, manipulatively falsely accuse, lie to & about men and about women's own behaviors.
I, and many men I've met, know from personal experience that some women choose to abusively lie and threaten false accusations both as a form of negatively projecting power-tripping abuse & in order to try to get away with physically and sexually assaulting, stealing from and punishing men for declining women's sexual & related desires & demands, to try to hide & avoid accountability for their abusive negative projecting, sexual, hypocritical misandric sexist & manipulative attitudes & behaviors toward boys & men. And out of vindictiveness at boys & men honestly admitting experiencing such abusive, lying treatment by females.
I prioritize honesty & true equality - equal rights balanced by equal honest unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility and accountability of females in all ways & contexts generally & for their attitudes, behaviors & effects of such.
And true equality including equal uncensored listening to, belief, love, and protection of myself & other male human beings from abusive dishonest, manipulative, disrespectful people even when they are females.
For this reason, for my comfort I now mostly provide only clothed sessions for new clients.
People who respect honesty, true equality & human beings of both genders equally, will fully understand & respect what I am referring to & me for being honest about it & my boundaries.
A sign I have posted in my office,
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