Privacy, Secrecy, Honesty Excerpts.
Privacy, Secrecy, Honesty excerpts. Pathwork.
"...to explore the concepts of privacy and secrecy. Much confusion exists about these two concepts. This confusion prevents you from fulfilling all your needs and attaining true expansion. It also makes closeness and intimacy impossible, and closeness is surely one of your legitimate needs. So is privacy. If privacy and secrecy are being confused, either the need for closeness or the need for privacy must be shortchanged.
Privacy is a legitimate need of the soul. You need to be by and with yourself. You need time alone in which you can delve into your depths and find new levels of inner reality, undisturbed by even the most favorable influences and vibrations from others.
However, every divine reality also has a distorted, diabolic counterpart, and if privacy is being sought in order to avoid contact, a distortion is at hand. If you avoid privacy because the true meaning of the anxiety it may at first produce is not explored and understood, again, a distortion is at work.
Many people are completely oblivious to their own need for privacy. They may, at times, be alone as a result of circumstances beyond their control, but even then, they manage to clutter up their inner being with surface thoughts, with outer or inner noise, to avoid the deep inner contact the soul craves.
Now what about secrecy?
Secrecy is never positive, at least not in its real sense. We are not talking of the so-called secret one keeps to prepare a lovely surprise for a loved one. This is not really a secret, for it is finally joyfully revealed. Secrets always hide something negative, otherwise they would not be kept secret.
This is very important. Although the truth here is quite obvious, it is surprisingly often totally overlooked. Whatever the secret may be, if you look closely, it will not be difficult to discern the wish to hide something that is unpalatable to someone. Either you wish to keep something hidden from others, or another person wishes to involve you in hiding something negative or destructive.
If these secrets were revealed, they could be dealt with, they could be totally dissolved so that a beautiful, positive creation could take their place. But by keeping the secret, you maintain and nurture negative thoughts, dishonest actions, and destructive behavior patterns.
The person who has a stake in keeping something secret -- either alone or in conjunction with others -- is perfectly aware of hiding something negative; otherwise it would be unnecessary to keep it secret. To plead righteousness about keeping a secret is therefore absurd. But what usually happens is that privacy is used to camouflage the intent to keep secrets.
In other words, secretive people will use the right and need for privacy to conceal that they really are keeping something secret. The weapon of the forces of darkness is always to confuse by using a truth to cover up a lie.Keeping secrets also avoids the effort and responsibility of finding an equitable, honest solution in which others can participate.
Secrets are always antithetical to relationship, to intimacy, to real and fulfilling contact.They keep a wall of separation between themselves and others and then wonder why they feel so alone and misunderstood. It never occurs to them to put two and two together.
They often even blame others for this state and use it to justify their secretiveness, instead of doing the only valid, meaningful and intelligent thing: spill out all secrets and make themselves as transparent as possible. This is not an easy or quick thing to achieve. It requires patience, time, effort, and all the good will that can be mustered.The new man and the new woman are incapable of harboring secrets.
Secrets cannot be carried in the newly emerging consciousness. They are experienced as an unbearable burden, which they actually are. The spiritual form of a secret is exactly that: a heavy burden.If your self-revealing seems to elicit more criticism and censure than love and understanding, I would say to you, my friends, that you must surely have revealed yourself in a distorted way. It is easy to confuse the real way with the false one.
The real way is the absolute willingness to follow the will of God; to let go of every cherished attitude, action, or goal that proves damaging and contrary to divine law; to use those to whom you reveal yourself as mirrors that help you see and reconsider some of your previous patterns.
Their reaction should not be your inflexible rule to abide by but should make you thoughtful and truly willing to reconsider those aspects of yourself that you now see more clearly.
The false way of self-revealing is the childish, lower-self way that says, in effect, "If I show you my secrets, I demand that you approve of them and of me regardless of how destructive they may be. If you do not, I will accuse you of letting me down, and I will use this as proof that it does not pay to be open.
"The word "friendship" becomes a farce if you feel there is anything between yourself and the friend that has to be hidden. You will never really know whether you are loved and accepted. You must always fear and distrust, as long as you fail to take the risk of showing the friend all you are, all you have kept hidden.
But this, of course, always includes the basic willingness to change a lower-self action, a lower-self goal, or a lower-self attitude. It requires the trust that higher-self goals and activities will provide much better what you need. If the trust is lacking, then this is what you need to share and perhaps receive help with...
"...to explore the concepts of privacy and secrecy. Much confusion exists about these two concepts. This confusion prevents you from fulfilling all your needs and attaining true expansion. It also makes closeness and intimacy impossible, and closeness is surely one of your legitimate needs. So is privacy. If privacy and secrecy are being confused, either the need for closeness or the need for privacy must be shortchanged.
Privacy is a legitimate need of the soul. You need to be by and with yourself. You need time alone in which you can delve into your depths and find new levels of inner reality, undisturbed by even the most favorable influences and vibrations from others.
However, every divine reality also has a distorted, diabolic counterpart, and if privacy is being sought in order to avoid contact, a distortion is at hand. If you avoid privacy because the true meaning of the anxiety it may at first produce is not explored and understood, again, a distortion is at work.
Many people are completely oblivious to their own need for privacy. They may, at times, be alone as a result of circumstances beyond their control, but even then, they manage to clutter up their inner being with surface thoughts, with outer or inner noise, to avoid the deep inner contact the soul craves.
Now what about secrecy?
Secrecy is never positive, at least not in its real sense. We are not talking of the so-called secret one keeps to prepare a lovely surprise for a loved one. This is not really a secret, for it is finally joyfully revealed. Secrets always hide something negative, otherwise they would not be kept secret.
This is very important. Although the truth here is quite obvious, it is surprisingly often totally overlooked. Whatever the secret may be, if you look closely, it will not be difficult to discern the wish to hide something that is unpalatable to someone. Either you wish to keep something hidden from others, or another person wishes to involve you in hiding something negative or destructive.
If these secrets were revealed, they could be dealt with, they could be totally dissolved so that a beautiful, positive creation could take their place. But by keeping the secret, you maintain and nurture negative thoughts, dishonest actions, and destructive behavior patterns.
The person who has a stake in keeping something secret -- either alone or in conjunction with others -- is perfectly aware of hiding something negative; otherwise it would be unnecessary to keep it secret. To plead righteousness about keeping a secret is therefore absurd. But what usually happens is that privacy is used to camouflage the intent to keep secrets.
In other words, secretive people will use the right and need for privacy to conceal that they really are keeping something secret. The weapon of the forces of darkness is always to confuse by using a truth to cover up a lie.Keeping secrets also avoids the effort and responsibility of finding an equitable, honest solution in which others can participate.
Secrets are always antithetical to relationship, to intimacy, to real and fulfilling contact.They keep a wall of separation between themselves and others and then wonder why they feel so alone and misunderstood. It never occurs to them to put two and two together.
They often even blame others for this state and use it to justify their secretiveness, instead of doing the only valid, meaningful and intelligent thing: spill out all secrets and make themselves as transparent as possible. This is not an easy or quick thing to achieve. It requires patience, time, effort, and all the good will that can be mustered.The new man and the new woman are incapable of harboring secrets.
Secrets cannot be carried in the newly emerging consciousness. They are experienced as an unbearable burden, which they actually are. The spiritual form of a secret is exactly that: a heavy burden.If your self-revealing seems to elicit more criticism and censure than love and understanding, I would say to you, my friends, that you must surely have revealed yourself in a distorted way. It is easy to confuse the real way with the false one.
The real way is the absolute willingness to follow the will of God; to let go of every cherished attitude, action, or goal that proves damaging and contrary to divine law; to use those to whom you reveal yourself as mirrors that help you see and reconsider some of your previous patterns.
Their reaction should not be your inflexible rule to abide by but should make you thoughtful and truly willing to reconsider those aspects of yourself that you now see more clearly.
The false way of self-revealing is the childish, lower-self way that says, in effect, "If I show you my secrets, I demand that you approve of them and of me regardless of how destructive they may be. If you do not, I will accuse you of letting me down, and I will use this as proof that it does not pay to be open.
"The word "friendship" becomes a farce if you feel there is anything between yourself and the friend that has to be hidden. You will never really know whether you are loved and accepted. You must always fear and distrust, as long as you fail to take the risk of showing the friend all you are, all you have kept hidden.
But this, of course, always includes the basic willingness to change a lower-self action, a lower-self goal, or a lower-self attitude. It requires the trust that higher-self goals and activities will provide much better what you need. If the trust is lacking, then this is what you need to share and perhaps receive help with...
