It is such an example of subjectivity and how we all make up our ideas, interpretations and thus feelings about people & experiences. How some people choose ( even if not recognized as such it is a choice, as many others choose to interpret & feel differently about the same thing ) to feel put off or "triggered" by someone simply offering something, and / or following up with communicating about times available for something that many people appreciate. Even if they've expressed interest in receiving but have yet to choose and follow through with a firm time.
If we always worry about and defaultingly defer, or expect others to do so, to perspectives that choose to feel triggered, to not like, to negatively judge and not want, we will never do, reach out to offer any type of kind human connection, communication, sharing of our unique ways of loving, learning, supporting and appreciating with each other as humans.
Which is a major disservice and denial of our and others unique light, love and related ways of positively contributing to life and those of us who are appreciative of such. Since this is how we learn & meet people who are appreciatively open to us, what we are willing to share and the learning, enjoyment & kindness available through relating.
Because guaranteed whatever you and anyone does, whatever you appreciate, feel is natural, "appropriate", kind, genuinely integral in intention and experience, there will always be some people who choose to interpret such offerings, experiences and ways of being through their chosen unappreciative, "triggered", suspicious & generally negative lens. Who will choose to feel offended, regardless of your intentions and that many others interpret you, your expression and whatever experience it is with gratitude for daring to be vulnerable enough to reach out to offer & share kindness, love & being in unique ways and risk the negativity of those who choose to react that way.
It is likewise a form of blind arrogance & suppressive abuse of the natural freedom & rights of others & of life itself to expect ones' own limits of appreciation for & choice to feel upset, offended or "triggered" by equally valid, diverse ways of being, communicating & offering relating that one may not appreciate or want, to be precognitively known, defaulted in deference to and respected by others in how they relate with one before first mutually respectfully, honestly and clearly communicating ones personal subjective preferences & boundaries to them so they can understand how ones interpretations & preferences are different from other peoples.
I tend to be very straightforward honest, and offer & give what I do out of authentic loving kindness, empathy for our shared humanity and the healthfulness of meditative nurturing experiences & learning.
So I tend to trust people will also communicate mutually respectfully, straightforward honestly with me before expecting me to know if they prefer something different than what I offer or share, and I relate accordingly. Once I am clearly, respectfully communicated with about this, I appreciatively respect peoples preferences as this is caring and ultimately most mutually comfortable.
An example - many people I know have told me that even though they did not initially reply to invitations - messages I have shared with them about massage & qigong offers, connecting generally or other things, they were interested but timing was off for them, they had something else preoccupying them or they just forgot to reply. But they are grateful I shared what i did / do and that I sometimes followed up with other offers or additional available times.
Because it helps them plan, and remember about it sometimes as they can get so caught up in being busy.
Or something changes in their life, their perspectives and if they were not interested before but never said so directly, they discover they now are and are grateful for the follow up.
And as people sometimes reach out to me via social & professional networks, email & other routes, offering to connect & relate based in artistic, personal, professional or a combination of experience & interests, I sometimes offer to people new to me as well at times. As it is an effective & efficient way of meeting people we may not meet otherwise, to share our insights, experiences, talents, human friendships & other mutually kind & supportive ways of relating with each other. Some connections simply remain virtual, sharing articles, opportunities, insights, etc through posts to our network. And some connections I have met through these invitations have developed into long term friendships, clients, trade partners and other types of mutually nourishing in-person relationships.
Rather than choosing to feel triggered, offended, suspicious or put off by someone sharing diverse expressions of care, kindness, communication, connection, generosity and openness, it is healthier, more respectful and clearer to pause, breath and recognize that there are many at least as valid alternative, appreciative perspectives, intentions and ways of interpreting and thus feeling about such. As with most everything in life. One can still have & communicate ones own preferences to be known & thereby respected, while respecting equally other perspectives, ways of being & sharing and people open to them.
And many people choose to interpret and feel positively, appreciatively about the same experiences because they choose to look for & perceive the love, kindness, trust and authenticity ( thereby contributing such positive energy themselves into life and their ways of relating ) in people's motivations for diverse, even refreshingly unconventional ways of being, sharing and relating.