There are always two equal requirements for us all to be able to be understood, understand & thus respect each others personal boundaries, preferences, openness & perspectives.
The first is clearly knowing and owning ones own ( person A ) adult responsibility for mutually respectfully, honestly directly verbally telling whoever ( person B ) one ( person A ) is relating with in any way, what specifically ones ( person A ) boundaries & preferences are in the present moment of relating, as this is the only way another ( person B ) can truly understand and respect them ( person A ).
Since of course different people ( even we at other moments & places ) have different feelings, boundaries and appreciative openness to things we or others may not at a specific moment. And vice versa.
The second requirement can only be fulfilled if and after the first is fulfilled by the person ( person A ) with the relative boundaries & preferences has done their part by mutually respectfully verbally expressing them at the moment to who ( person B ) they are relative to. And this second requirement - responsibility is for person B, after hearing & understanding another persons ( person A ) communicated personal boundaries & preferences, to then either change how they ( person B ) are relating & giving to person A to accommodate person As now expressed & understood boundaries &preferences. Or if felt by one or both to simply not be a mutually compatible alignment of paths & relationship of whatever context, to stop relating and mutually respectfully simply go own ways and connect with others who share more mutually compatible preferences, boundaries, comfort & types of appreciative openness.
This simple choice to be & relate without accusatory blame, fear and hate, but with mutual kindness, respect for diversity & freedom with each other - with people who simply have differing comfort, appreciative openness & boundaries than we or others, transforms us from being abusively hypocritically judgmental and misguidedly blaming of each other - people for having different comfort & preferences than ours at the moment while expecting our preferences, boundaries & perspectives which are different than others to be respected. Transforms us into truly mature, self responsible & mutually respectful & honest adults. Doing our part to contribute to personal and world peace, harmonious coexistence and love in a naturally diverse world.