A note about the subjective nature of interpretations, feelings & the human body.
Including recognizing and respecting the equal validity of diverse perspectives and each persons subjective personal boundaries, preferences, interpretations, openness and appreciation in these realms.
As long as we each mutually respectfully, directly honestly communicate our subjective personal boundaries & preferences to each other, to anyone we relate with, before expecting such to be understood & thereby respected among the vast ranges of interpretations and appreciation, and we each respect such boundaries & preferences once clearly communicated with about them, all are equally valid.
Even though I may not be comfortable with, and may choose to have boundaries for myself relative to some experiences such as how I give massage sessions for pay and in varied contexts, or otherwise relate with people & situations, I have matured to recognize & respect the equal freedom & rights of people to enjoy and find meaning, health & love in ways they choose to be open to, offer & explore. Even when different than my boundaries, preferences, comfort & openness for myself.
As long as once I respectfully honestly communicate my boundaries to them and they know them, they respect this in how they relate with me.
And likewise I always do & will respect what each person seems to be appreciatively open to up to mutual resonance and context, & what I am respectfully directly honestly told about what ones own boundaries and preferences are.
This is one core reason why I always directly tell people when first meeting for massage sessions that my boundary requires that they, whoever receives massages from me, directly, honestly & mutually respectfully tell me what & where their specific boundaries are at any point during their massages.
Since I am trusting each person to own their adult responsibility to do this for mutual clarity & comfort, not communicating such to me or doing so passive aggressively & vaguely is misleading - making one seem to be open to & appreciate what some find natural, comfortable and helpful, even if I would not have considered it otherwise. And what may be beyond what I am open to giving in the context of paid sessions.
An example of the range of subjective interpretations of what people choose to view and feel as comfortable or uncomfortable, kind or offensive, natural or sinful -
I have met some people with personal & religious views who feel not covering their entire body when in public, or baring their belly, chest, neck or other aspect of their body around anyone but their spouse, to be a sinful, immoral, inappropriate or at least uncomfortable experience.
Then I have also met many people, especially people who have moved here from European and some other cultures, who view being totally nude and uncovered while sunbathing, lounging around with friends, receiving massages, being in public or other natural settings to be totally natural, healthy, respectful and loving.
And they feel being told or inferred that they must cover and hide themselves or be judged as bad, immoral, creepy or wrong, is an abusive, intrusively shaming, oppressive experience. And is a way of suggesting that there is something unnatural, creepy or bad about the way nature made them and humans generally. Which contributes to much normalized shame, stress and tension due to a lack of acceptance and comfort about ones body.
While my own comfort and boundaries tend to range somewhere in the middle of those two examples, I have matured to respect all of these diverse ranges for their equal validity. And no longer act abusively offended & judgmentally controlling of people whose boundaries, comfort & openness differs from my own in either direction, as long as they communicate their boundaries & preferences honestly clearly & respectfully to me before expecting me to know & respect theirs.
And as long as my boundaries & preferences are equally respected once I communicate them.
This is essential for all of us to coexist with genuine mutual empathy, understanding, and the freedom & respect we also want to receive for ourselves from people similar and diverse from us.
Honesty is one of the purest forms of love, integrity, trustworthiness and respectfulness.
Having worked as a private investigator, combined with meditative background, I also have learned that being fully straightforward honest with ourselves and each other directly before expecting to be understood & respected, is the safest, sanest way of being & relating. And the whole truth comes out eventually anyway.
This also relates to massage and qigong arts. Since our bodies & feelings take on the effects of our beliefs, our attitudes, interpretations ( accurate as well as inaccurate projections ) and expressions.
Loving deeply and relating honestly, non-dogmatically with equal respect for ourselves and each other in our kindredness and our diversity, allows our body and emotions to relax and find homeostasis much easier.
And allows us to co-create a peacefully sane, harmonious and freedom respecting society and world together.