Blog Notes :
Topics directly & indirectly related to meditative embodiment,
consciousness, beliefs, wellness & related aspects of being.
A few hip tension releasing options.
A few hip tension releasing options
Most people tend to be tight, contracted in the anterior hip, chest & shoulder areas. Partly from much time spent sitting, and posture lapses while looking at phones, holding babies, reading and many other activities involving forward movement and posture.
Some causes of lower back pain, hip pain, even discomfort & tension in other areas from compensation, can involve psoas, anterior hip & thigh fascia & muscles being overly contracted & tight. Weakness can also cause compensatory tightness in muscles.
Sometimes that is also caused by weakness in those areas, in which case strengthening these muscles is as important as stretching for balance.
This video shows a few simple options for opening & releasing fascial & muscular contraction in psoas and anterior hip & thigh region.
I will include a couple complimentary hip strengthening options as well in an upcoming video.
Most people tend to be tight, contracted in the anterior hip, chest & shoulder areas. Partly from much time spent sitting, and posture lapses while looking at phones, holding babies, reading and many other activities involving forward movement and posture.
Some causes of lower back pain, hip pain, even discomfort & tension in other areas from compensation, can involve psoas, anterior hip & thigh fascia & muscles being overly contracted & tight. Weakness can also cause compensatory tightness in muscles.
Sometimes that is also caused by weakness in those areas, in which case strengthening these muscles is as important as stretching for balance.
This video shows a few simple options for opening & releasing fascial & muscular contraction in psoas and anterior hip & thigh region.
I will include a couple complimentary hip strengthening options as well in an upcoming video.
Mutual honesty, nurturing friendships & freedom as basis of healthy, authentic relationships of many kinds.
Mutual honesty, nurturing friendships & freedom as basis of healthy, authentic relationships of many kinds.
Recently again several women I've spoke with, who are involved in diverse wellness realms, have varied careers & with broad social networks, shared with me how most to all the women they know generally socially present an image of their lives & intimate relationships including marriages in ways they want others to believe they are.
Yet most to all of them are in fact not truly appreciating their partners, husbands, lives, are having or wanting to have affairs, and lying to keep up pretenses as they want to be seen.
It parallels realities which I've known from experience for many years generally and from experiencing women who come in for massages.
A large percentage of women want and indirectly or directly express desire, openness for varied degrees of affection beyond what is generally considered platonic.
Though most pretend otherwise publicly & to their friends & spouses. Some even lie about honest men to try to hide such and as gaslighting reaction to admission of this & related truths.
Much of the facade so many people waste energy maintaining, is more healthfully shed and replaced with fully honest admission to ourselves & each other about our real being, feelings, behaviors & desires.
Releasing attachment to dogmatic monogamy, marriage, lying & formality.
Personally I believe relating honestly, and sharing authentic loving ongoing friendships both platonic and sensually & sexually affectionately, is far more natural and honestly sustainable. Monogamy is not essential.
Better to be honest & nurturing affectionate lasting friendships with multiple people where sensual & sexual affection ebbs & flows naturally with a foundation of mutual genuine care for ourselves & each other. ☯️💙
This is healthier than lying, suppressing our appreciative emotional & sensual affection, shaming & falsely accusing people to try to maintain facades - lies - social images.
Recently again several women I've spoke with, who are involved in diverse wellness realms, have varied careers & with broad social networks, shared with me how most to all the women they know generally socially present an image of their lives & intimate relationships including marriages in ways they want others to believe they are.
Yet most to all of them are in fact not truly appreciating their partners, husbands, lives, are having or wanting to have affairs, and lying to keep up pretenses as they want to be seen.
It parallels realities which I've known from experience for many years generally and from experiencing women who come in for massages.
A large percentage of women want and indirectly or directly express desire, openness for varied degrees of affection beyond what is generally considered platonic.
Though most pretend otherwise publicly & to their friends & spouses. Some even lie about honest men to try to hide such and as gaslighting reaction to admission of this & related truths.
Much of the facade so many people waste energy maintaining, is more healthfully shed and replaced with fully honest admission to ourselves & each other about our real being, feelings, behaviors & desires.
Releasing attachment to dogmatic monogamy, marriage, lying & formality.
Personally I believe relating honestly, and sharing authentic loving ongoing friendships both platonic and sensually & sexually affectionately, is far more natural and honestly sustainable. Monogamy is not essential.
Better to be honest & nurturing affectionate lasting friendships with multiple people where sensual & sexual affection ebbs & flows naturally with a foundation of mutual genuine care for ourselves & each other. ☯️💙
This is healthier than lying, suppressing our appreciative emotional & sensual affection, shaming & falsely accusing people to try to maintain facades - lies - social images.
Tai chi arching sword flow. ☯️💙 Are you honest?
Is the persona, the image & idea of yourself which you present to society and generally, fully authentic - honest?
Do you tell the full uncensored truth about yourself, your assumptions, behaviors and subjective feelings and your beliefs which create your feelings?
Would you want to be viewed & related with in the same ways you view & relate with me, society and generally?
How can you be more truly consistently appreciative, honest, reliable & thereby trustworthy in your communicating & relating with everyone?
In order to earn & deserve trust? Karma.
Do you tell the full uncensored truth about yourself, your assumptions, behaviors and subjective feelings and your beliefs which create your feelings?
Would you want to be viewed & related with in the same ways you view & relate with me, society and generally?
How can you be more truly consistently appreciative, honest, reliable & thereby trustworthy in your communicating & relating with everyone?
In order to earn & deserve trust? Karma.
Responding to openness & generosity with appreciation & honesty nourishes integrity & maturity.
Responding to honesty, authenticity, openness & generosity in ways with appreciation, honesty & respect is a choice affirming integrity, emotional empathy, maturity and trustworthiness.
Being & prioritizing authenticity, honesty, appreciation & generously nurturing ways of being, offering & relating, is misinterpreted by some people lacking integrity & empathy as weakness, something & someone to use, negatively project onto, exploit & devalue.
Even subconsciously or consciously misinterpreting people kindly open & honest as less attractive because of our honesty & openness.
It is ultimately an unhealthy, distorted reaction bred & supported by superficial, dishonest social, ideological & individual prejudices & projections. By people who respond in such ways being fearful of facing, admitting & transforming their shadow, dishonest, unloving attitudes & behaviors.
When we nourish & relate with integrity, honesty - authenticity, empathy, appreciation & emotional maturity, we only communicate & otherwise relate not in passive aggressive & directly dishonest ways. But in openly honest, appreciative, caring ways. We relate honestly & mean what we say.
Our openness is based in integrity, mutual respect & love of various kinds. Because this is part of what co-creates healthy, worthwhile & nurturing lives & relationships of all kinds. And we trust each other in such ways unless shown by behavior otherwise. Not being mind readers & not expecting others to be future predicting mind readers of our feelings, boundaries, preferences & needs.
We honestly appreciate each others authenticity & generous openness with us in ways of time, presence, listening, sharing, affection, friendship, etc., as something we are privileged - not entitled - to receive, enjoy & share.
And vice versa.
Based in mutuality of sincere honesty, appreciation for our equal humanity and what is given, received & shared. ☯️💙
Being & prioritizing authenticity, honesty, appreciation & generously nurturing ways of being, offering & relating, is misinterpreted by some people lacking integrity & empathy as weakness, something & someone to use, negatively project onto, exploit & devalue.
Even subconsciously or consciously misinterpreting people kindly open & honest as less attractive because of our honesty & openness.
It is ultimately an unhealthy, distorted reaction bred & supported by superficial, dishonest social, ideological & individual prejudices & projections. By people who respond in such ways being fearful of facing, admitting & transforming their shadow, dishonest, unloving attitudes & behaviors.
When we nourish & relate with integrity, honesty - authenticity, empathy, appreciation & emotional maturity, we only communicate & otherwise relate not in passive aggressive & directly dishonest ways. But in openly honest, appreciative, caring ways. We relate honestly & mean what we say.
Our openness is based in integrity, mutual respect & love of various kinds. Because this is part of what co-creates healthy, worthwhile & nurturing lives & relationships of all kinds. And we trust each other in such ways unless shown by behavior otherwise. Not being mind readers & not expecting others to be future predicting mind readers of our feelings, boundaries, preferences & needs.
We honestly appreciate each others authenticity & generous openness with us in ways of time, presence, listening, sharing, affection, friendship, etc., as something we are privileged - not entitled - to receive, enjoy & share.
And vice versa.
Based in mutuality of sincere honesty, appreciation for our equal humanity and what is given, received & shared. ☯️💙
🐯Difference between integral, loving & untrustworthy, narcissistic women.
More red pills of honesty & true equality. Courtesy of meow.
Being & relating honestly, equally & integrally.☯️💙
True in many diverse kinds of relationships, contexts, both platonic & affectionate ...
Be beautiful - be honest & appreciative.
No amount of subjective physical attractiveness, makeup, popularity, money, lying, ideological gaslighting or deflection can compensate for or mask for long the deep ugliness & lack of integrity of people who relate in passive aggressive & directly dishonest, ghosting, narcissistic, entitled, usery, hypocritical double standard & unappreciative ways.
Be better than that to be truly beautiful and deserve trust, kindness & respect.
Being a quality, integral woman & man involves understanding, admitting & respecting this fact in word and behavior.☯️💙
Be better than that to be truly beautiful and deserve trust, kindness & respect.
Being a quality, integral woman & man involves understanding, admitting & respecting this fact in word and behavior.☯️💙
You deserve to be viewed & treated equally.
If you passive aggressively or directly lie, ghost, negatively project, steal from, selfishly use in manipulative 1 sided ways & discard and in other ways view & treat me & men generally in ways you do not want to be consistently viewed & treated, you deserve to be treated equally.
If you view & relate with me & men generally with equal authentic appreciation, open honesty, reliability of your word & agreements, empathy, supportiveness, belief, love and respect as you want to be viewed & related with, you deserve to be treated equally.
This is the foundation of honesty, true equality & karma. ☯️💙 Whether one admits & likes it or not.
"Empowerment" & 1 sided ideologies & people supporting it for themselves & beings of one gender are only relating with & supporting narcissism, hypocrisy, dishonesty & immaturity if not equally appreciatively, honestly reliably viewing & relating with beings of both genders. And if not equally holding themselves ( oneself ) & all beings of both genders to balancing equality of honest unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability generally & for ones attitudes, behaviors & effects of such.
If you view & relate with me & men generally with equal authentic appreciation, open honesty, reliability of your word & agreements, empathy, supportiveness, belief, love and respect as you want to be viewed & related with, you deserve to be treated equally.
This is the foundation of honesty, true equality & karma. ☯️💙 Whether one admits & likes it or not.
"Empowerment" & 1 sided ideologies & people supporting it for themselves & beings of one gender are only relating with & supporting narcissism, hypocrisy, dishonesty & immaturity if not equally appreciatively, honestly reliably viewing & relating with beings of both genders. And if not equally holding themselves ( oneself ) & all beings of both genders to balancing equality of honest unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability generally & for ones attitudes, behaviors & effects of such.
Mellow taiji sword play. More than 1 perspective - reality.
Swords, like other "weapons", are not inherently violent or about harming life. Even in the actual fighting aspect, while some individuals use whatever means & tools they choose to act in non-defensively abusive ways, it's at least true that honest, loving & inherently peaceful individuals can use the same tools to protect - defend their own & other beings lives.
However beyond their fighting - defending usefulness, things like this Chinese jian - sword, can be used as complimentary methods of nurturing embodied meditation, agility, focus, expansion of feeling awareness beyond ones physical body and other neutral to positive, consciousness & life enhancing implements. ☯️💙
However beyond their fighting - defending usefulness, things like this Chinese jian - sword, can be used as complimentary methods of nurturing embodied meditation, agility, focus, expansion of feeling awareness beyond ones physical body and other neutral to positive, consciousness & life enhancing implements. ☯️💙
How are you nurturing your embodying wellness, pleasure, honesty &
freedom of exploration?
How are you nurturing your embodying wellness, pleasure, honesty & freedom of exploration?
And how are respecting that of others equally, both when similar & different than ones own personal preferences, comfort - limits of understanding & appreciation?
For myself this includes tai chi, zhan zhuang & bagua qigong, and nurturing open honesty with myself and in my relating with others & life, as a constant foundation.
And as of recently I'm also enjoying beginning slacklining process.Which involves a lot of falling, getting back on the line for a a few seconds before falling again..over and over. With occasional, gradually increasing moments staying relatively balanced on the line.
Among additional choices - experiences.
And how are respecting that of others equally, both when similar & different than ones own personal preferences, comfort - limits of understanding & appreciation?
For myself this includes tai chi, zhan zhuang & bagua qigong, and nurturing open honesty with myself and in my relating with others & life, as a constant foundation.
And as of recently I'm also enjoying beginning slacklining process.Which involves a lot of falling, getting back on the line for a a few seconds before falling again..over and over. With occasional, gradually increasing moments staying relatively balanced on the line.
Among additional choices - experiences.
Are you being & relating in ways you also want to be related with?
Are you being & relating in ways you also want to be related with?
Karma isn't simply a fantastical idea.
It is a spiritual principle which expresses its echoing effects multi-dimensionally.
We deserve to be treated how we treat people. That doesn't mean we always will be treated with honesty, mutual appreciation & respect even if / though we treat others in such ways.
But we do deserve kindredly to how we relate. And increase the likelihood of it.
People of true honesty, integrity, respect for true equality, love & authenticity of caring relationships of many kinds, are more likely to recognize in us & nurture mutually openly honest, caring friendships, professional, affectionate & other quality relationships with us if we are being & relating in such ways generally and with each other.
While people who are & relate in unloving passive aggressive, dishonest, hypocritical, usery, negative projecting ways tend to subconsciously or consciously feel uncomfortable, offended, and sooner or later will be repulsed, ghost or otherwise fade away from relating with us & others who are are honest, authentic & loving.
It is essential to deeply fully honestly investigate our own beliefs, attitudes, behaviors - ways of being & relating. Admitting how we are & relate and choosing to relate with the qualities we want to be related with as well.
☯️💗💙
Karma isn't simply a fantastical idea.
It is a spiritual principle which expresses its echoing effects multi-dimensionally.
We deserve to be treated how we treat people. That doesn't mean we always will be treated with honesty, mutual appreciation & respect even if / though we treat others in such ways.
But we do deserve kindredly to how we relate. And increase the likelihood of it.
People of true honesty, integrity, respect for true equality, love & authenticity of caring relationships of many kinds, are more likely to recognize in us & nurture mutually openly honest, caring friendships, professional, affectionate & other quality relationships with us if we are being & relating in such ways generally and with each other.
While people who are & relate in unloving passive aggressive, dishonest, hypocritical, usery, negative projecting ways tend to subconsciously or consciously feel uncomfortable, offended, and sooner or later will be repulsed, ghost or otherwise fade away from relating with us & others who are are honest, authentic & loving.
It is essential to deeply fully honestly investigate our own beliefs, attitudes, behaviors - ways of being & relating. Admitting how we are & relate and choosing to relate with the qualities we want to be related with as well.
☯️💗💙
Tai chi qigong, nature, motorcycle riding, horses....
It is deeply nourishing to choose to be, do & relate with what, how & who we healthfully mutually appreciate, enjoy and are nourished by. Growing in healthy ways by being & relating with.
Although I don't own horses, I love visiting & relating with them during motorcycle rides and generally. Am interested in learning & including giving horse massage or some kind of relating with horses as a side vocation- service as well.
Anyone know of such programs in the SF north bay and have any suggestions, anything you want to share - feel free to message me?.
Although I don't own horses, I love visiting & relating with them during motorcycle rides and generally. Am interested in learning & including giving horse massage or some kind of relating with horses as a side vocation- service as well.
Anyone know of such programs in the SF north bay and have any suggestions, anything you want to share - feel free to message me?.
How are you living?
💙Do you prioritize living your life according to what you truly are healthfully resonant with, enjoy and indirectly or directly contributes positively in some way to other kindredly appreciative beings?
Do you respect the equal humanity, rights & freedom of men & women additional to yourself to have different defaults of openness, to enjoy, be, offer, share & relate in ways similar & different from your own personal subjective preferences, safe space limits of appreciation, comfort & understanding?
And do you own your equal personal responsibility for directly honestly proactively & responsively stating your personal boundaries & expectations with whoever you relate with before expecting then to understand & thereby equally respect such along with their own equal rights and freedom?
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👹Or do you do what you think is required of you & deemed "appropriate" & "nonoffensive" by dogmatic self righteous, hypocritical & oppressive individuals, ideologies and social beliefs? Do you expect everyone else to mind readingly share, know & default to your personal & ideological biased beliefs, limits of appreciation & comfort - boundaries and preferences?
And do you negatively project, manipulatively passive aggressively and / or directly lie? Do you react with hateful, negative accusations and offense when encountering the fact that natural life, peoples rights, freedom & defaults of openness exist beyond the limits of ones own or ideological "safe spaces", subjective boundaries and preferences?
💙The former is a life worth living. A life lived without hypocritical double standards. A life lived honestly & lovingly. 💗💙☯️
Do you respect the equal humanity, rights & freedom of men & women additional to yourself to have different defaults of openness, to enjoy, be, offer, share & relate in ways similar & different from your own personal subjective preferences, safe space limits of appreciation, comfort & understanding?
And do you own your equal personal responsibility for directly honestly proactively & responsively stating your personal boundaries & expectations with whoever you relate with before expecting then to understand & thereby equally respect such along with their own equal rights and freedom?
🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
👹Or do you do what you think is required of you & deemed "appropriate" & "nonoffensive" by dogmatic self righteous, hypocritical & oppressive individuals, ideologies and social beliefs? Do you expect everyone else to mind readingly share, know & default to your personal & ideological biased beliefs, limits of appreciation & comfort - boundaries and preferences?
And do you negatively project, manipulatively passive aggressively and / or directly lie? Do you react with hateful, negative accusations and offense when encountering the fact that natural life, peoples rights, freedom & defaults of openness exist beyond the limits of ones own or ideological "safe spaces", subjective boundaries and preferences?
💙The former is a life worth living. A life lived without hypocritical double standards. A life lived honestly & lovingly. 💗💙☯️
Are you appreciating the simple pleasures of being?
A practical choice to nourish healthy consciousness is intentionally cultivating appreciation throughout every day. Every now.
Rather than taking for granted & gradually becoming jaded & less grateful for the many things, experiences and beings we are able to relate with, we choose to regenerate appreciation.
There is always so much to be grateful for. The option to be honest and treat ourselves & each other with equal honesty, respect for freedom and love we want to receive in principle. Thereby being integral, trustworthy & loving beings.
Spacious air. Lungs to breathe in & breathe out air and be alive in our body.
An abundance of diverse human and nonhuman beings which populate the earth. Expanding consciousness in many creative, unique ways.
The ability to expand our own mind & feelings beyond narrow dogmatic knee jerk & offended assumptions, beliefs and reactions to the fact the limits of equally valid options for being, relating and creating are not the limits of ones own, or any other persons or ideologies subjective ideas, boundaries, safe space feelings of comfort & appreciation.
Which means the ability to grow in creativity, understanding & love continues to expand beyond oppressive dogmatic mind boxes.
The fact that there exist so many minds creating & exploring ever growing ideas, inventions, ways of being & enjoying being. Including our own.
Horses. 🐴💗 Mmmhhmmm...
A practical choice to nourish healthy consciousness is intentionally cultivating appreciation throughout every day. Every now.
Rather than taking for granted & gradually becoming jaded & less grateful for the many things, experiences and beings we are able to relate with, we choose to regenerate appreciation.
There is always so much to be grateful for. The option to be honest and treat ourselves & each other with equal honesty, respect for freedom and love we want to receive in principle. Thereby being integral, trustworthy & loving beings.
Spacious air. Lungs to breathe in & breathe out air and be alive in our body.
An abundance of diverse human and nonhuman beings which populate the earth. Expanding consciousness in many creative, unique ways.
The ability to expand our own mind & feelings beyond narrow dogmatic knee jerk & offended assumptions, beliefs and reactions to the fact the limits of equally valid options for being, relating and creating are not the limits of ones own, or any other persons or ideologies subjective ideas, boundaries, safe space feelings of comfort & appreciation.
Which means the ability to grow in creativity, understanding & love continues to expand beyond oppressive dogmatic mind boxes.
The fact that there exist so many minds creating & exploring ever growing ideas, inventions, ways of being & enjoying being. Including our own.
Horses. 🐴💗 Mmmhhmmm...
Moments of tai chi qigong & brief zhan zhuang. And making new friends.
1 simple balancing option for times spent sitting.
A simple option to help balance from time spent with hips contracted such as sitting when riding motorcycles, horses, bicycles, in chairs, etc..
Slow, focused glute driven bridging movement. Using the glutes to move hips up - open helps inhibit & relax the anterior hip - thigh muscles.
So not only do we relax the contracted anterior hip area, we help strengthen the balancing poster hip - gluteal muscles which contributes to overall harmonious postural & tone balance.
Can also do a 1 leg variation, with 1 leg remaining down and other crossing ankle over distal thigh near knee of grounded leg, and alternating after 1 or a few repetitions.
And slow kick backs when face down.
Slow, focused glute driven bridging movement. Using the glutes to move hips up - open helps inhibit & relax the anterior hip - thigh muscles.
So not only do we relax the contracted anterior hip area, we help strengthen the balancing poster hip - gluteal muscles which contributes to overall harmonious postural & tone balance.
Can also do a 1 leg variation, with 1 leg remaining down and other crossing ankle over distal thigh near knee of grounded leg, and alternating after 1 or a few repetitions.
And slow kick backs when face down.
One must accept feeling offended & uncomfortable, to learn, grow, be honest, trustworthy & loving.
To be truly honest, trustworthy, loving & integral, to learn & grow beyond the blinders of ones false, ideological & personal assumptions, beliefs & feelings, one must accept feeling uncomfortable & offended. One must not be blinded by ones confirmation bias & cognitive dissonance, including that indoctrinated in at schools & by ideological movements.
One must respect the fact that the equal validity & freedom of life & people exists outside the walls of ones "safe space" mental / emotional box.
One must stop lying to oneself and others.
Without attempting to abusively oppressively shun, censor, gaslight & blame the people & facts revealing such. 💙☯️
One must respect the fact that the equal validity & freedom of life & people exists outside the walls of ones "safe space" mental / emotional box.
One must stop lying to oneself and others.
Without attempting to abusively oppressively shun, censor, gaslight & blame the people & facts revealing such. 💙☯️
Long overdue tiny step into balancing, honest admission of common abusive,
"toxic" female attitudes & behaviors.
Honest, true equality supportive, healthfully strong & integral men ( and women ) do not meekly tolerate abusive,
narcissistic, passive aggressive manipulative, male victim blaming & shaming,
lying & gynocentric entitled attitudes & behaviors committed by females against males.
We unapologetically hold females to true equality of equal unbiased honest investigation, admission,
responsibility & accountability for their attitudes, behaviors & effects of such.
And we equally listen to, believe, love & protect boys & men from such females
and from anyone and any ideology who "empowers" such abusive females.
The idea of toxic masculinity and abusive males is constantly promoted and males blamed for by people & aspects of society indoctrinated with feminist & related biased ideology & beliefs.
What they routinely ignore, censor & even attempt to abusively manipulatively falsely blame males for, are the common forms of "toxic" abusive attitudes & behaviors committed by females against males.
So in respect of long overdue balancing honesty & harmony being contributed to understanding of gender, individuals & relational experiences, this post explores some common examples of "toxic", abusive attitudes & behaviors expressed by many ( not all ) females and related ideologies.
This doesn't mean I hate women or am sexist.
It simply is because I prioritize honesty, true equality and am not hypocritically sexist against males.
A few guaranteed ways to quickly discern if someone embodies & relates with toxic, shadow abusive femininity -
* They believe in and even promote the idea of "toxic masculinity", that there are many abusive males and a "patriarchy" in a negative way.
But they deny the equal existence & abusiveness of "toxic femininity". Or if they even admit a shadow side of females, they attempt to gaslighting & deflect by pretending it is mostly that females don't speak up about supposedly being abused & oppressed enough.
In other words, they don't really admit their own - females - abusive, dishonest manipulative behaviors. Even as they express them.
They are female supremacists, the gender equivalent of race supremacists.
* They make foundationally misandric sexist, truth censoring demands to "just believe women".
And in other ways they indirectly or directly believe & assert that females are mostly oppressed, innocent victims and males are mostly abusive oppressive beings.
Yet they feel & react offended, uncomfortable, make false accusations of "misogyny", "creep", "rape apologist", "victim blaming" and other negative accusations at men ( and maybe even women ) who are honest & true equality supportive enough to admit the at least equal presence of abusive, "toxic" manipulative, lying females & femininity in western societies.
* They are the ( misandric ) sexist, hateful abusive traits they project onto men & masculinity. Hypocritically pretending it isn't so & is not abusive because they are female and commit such against male human beings.
* They feel offended, angry, vindictive and make negative accusations at the idea & reality of boys & men receiving equality of uncensored listening to, belief, due process, love & protection from abusive, manipulative lying females & gynocentric chivalrous & feminist attitudes & policies.
* They get mad, vindictive & falsely accusatory at being recognized, honestly called out & held to equality of unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability for such & generally.
Some of the most common forms of toxic femininity, of abusive attitudes & behaviors females commit against males, include emotionally, sexually & socially passive aggressive and directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory behaviors.
And manipulatively claiming offense, feeling "unsafe", making false accusations, etc., as an attempted gaslighting deflection if they feel they may be held accountable for such. If they believe their own toxic, double standard, manipulative, lying, negatively projecting & similar attitudes & behaviors may be recognized, called out honestly and not tolerated by honest, integral men.
Relational aggression, negatively projecting, lying, playing the victim role & passive aggressiveness tend to be preferred forms of abusiveness by females.
Including the attempt at making truth censoring demands to "just believe women".
Some examples include relating passive aggressively manipulatively by not self responsibly directly honestly stating if they have a boundary with a man exactly what, when & where such boundary is before expecting to have it understood & respected.
Even when directly told by a man to simply honestly proactively & responsively state if they have a boundary while relating with each other in any way exactly what, when & where their boundary is so it can be clearly known & equally respected given the diversity of individual women's subjective interpretations, defaults of openness and appreciation.
Another example is women relating passive aggressively by negatively projecting. And by relating in open ways with men such as exposing themselves and acting like they are open to whatever is happening by not stating a boundary but then turning around and abusively blaming, falsely accusing men for trusting women's apparent openness, being mislead by such and relating kindly trustingly accordingly.
And relating in sensually and / or sexually open, or even assertive, ways with men but turning around later and trying to blame - falsely accuse men in attempt to hide their behaviors, their affairs or attempted sexual experiences, to pretend to themselves or others they didn't do what they did.
Or simply because females feel differently afterward and blame men for not being future predicting psychic mind readers.
Attempting to falsely accuse males as a vindictive reaction for men declining women's sexual openness & desires.
Attempting to prevent males from recording females behaviors, manipulatively making claims of feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, etc.. Which only reveals they "fear" & try to oppressively censor the truth of their attitudes & behaviors and their effects from being honestly revealed. They fear being found out.
They attempt to perpetuate the myth of female innocence.
Because they know that holding females to true equality of unbiased equal investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability for their attitudes, behaviors & effects of such, reveals more often than not that such females are the real, manipulative lying abusers of males.
Thankfully some women, such as Sydney Watson who made this and other videos, are honest, balanced and true equality supportive.
Different than the "toxic" females who often associate with & promote female supremacist, female idolizing innocence & victim-hood assuming but male demonizing, censoring, shaming & guilt assuming feminist attitudes, ideology & propaganda.
Janice Fiamengo and Karen Straughan are a couple other integral, true equality supportive, honest, healthfully strong women who are honest about the equal shadow nature of females and support boys & mens equal humanity, rights, uncensored listening to, belief and protection.
And as such are women who therefore deserve equal listening to, love, respect, support and appreciation.
What they routinely ignore, censor & even attempt to abusively manipulatively falsely blame males for, are the common forms of "toxic" abusive attitudes & behaviors committed by females against males.
So in respect of long overdue balancing honesty & harmony being contributed to understanding of gender, individuals & relational experiences, this post explores some common examples of "toxic", abusive attitudes & behaviors expressed by many ( not all ) females and related ideologies.
This doesn't mean I hate women or am sexist.
It simply is because I prioritize honesty, true equality and am not hypocritically sexist against males.
A few guaranteed ways to quickly discern if someone embodies & relates with toxic, shadow abusive femininity -
* They believe in and even promote the idea of "toxic masculinity", that there are many abusive males and a "patriarchy" in a negative way.
But they deny the equal existence & abusiveness of "toxic femininity". Or if they even admit a shadow side of females, they attempt to gaslighting & deflect by pretending it is mostly that females don't speak up about supposedly being abused & oppressed enough.
In other words, they don't really admit their own - females - abusive, dishonest manipulative behaviors. Even as they express them.
They are female supremacists, the gender equivalent of race supremacists.
* They make foundationally misandric sexist, truth censoring demands to "just believe women".
And in other ways they indirectly or directly believe & assert that females are mostly oppressed, innocent victims and males are mostly abusive oppressive beings.
Yet they feel & react offended, uncomfortable, make false accusations of "misogyny", "creep", "rape apologist", "victim blaming" and other negative accusations at men ( and maybe even women ) who are honest & true equality supportive enough to admit the at least equal presence of abusive, "toxic" manipulative, lying females & femininity in western societies.
* They are the ( misandric ) sexist, hateful abusive traits they project onto men & masculinity. Hypocritically pretending it isn't so & is not abusive because they are female and commit such against male human beings.
* They feel offended, angry, vindictive and make negative accusations at the idea & reality of boys & men receiving equality of uncensored listening to, belief, due process, love & protection from abusive, manipulative lying females & gynocentric chivalrous & feminist attitudes & policies.
* They get mad, vindictive & falsely accusatory at being recognized, honestly called out & held to equality of unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability for such & generally.
Some of the most common forms of toxic femininity, of abusive attitudes & behaviors females commit against males, include emotionally, sexually & socially passive aggressive and directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory behaviors.
And manipulatively claiming offense, feeling "unsafe", making false accusations, etc., as an attempted gaslighting deflection if they feel they may be held accountable for such. If they believe their own toxic, double standard, manipulative, lying, negatively projecting & similar attitudes & behaviors may be recognized, called out honestly and not tolerated by honest, integral men.
Relational aggression, negatively projecting, lying, playing the victim role & passive aggressiveness tend to be preferred forms of abusiveness by females.
Including the attempt at making truth censoring demands to "just believe women".
Some examples include relating passive aggressively manipulatively by not self responsibly directly honestly stating if they have a boundary with a man exactly what, when & where such boundary is before expecting to have it understood & respected.
Even when directly told by a man to simply honestly proactively & responsively state if they have a boundary while relating with each other in any way exactly what, when & where their boundary is so it can be clearly known & equally respected given the diversity of individual women's subjective interpretations, defaults of openness and appreciation.
Another example is women relating passive aggressively by negatively projecting. And by relating in open ways with men such as exposing themselves and acting like they are open to whatever is happening by not stating a boundary but then turning around and abusively blaming, falsely accusing men for trusting women's apparent openness, being mislead by such and relating kindly trustingly accordingly.
And relating in sensually and / or sexually open, or even assertive, ways with men but turning around later and trying to blame - falsely accuse men in attempt to hide their behaviors, their affairs or attempted sexual experiences, to pretend to themselves or others they didn't do what they did.
Or simply because females feel differently afterward and blame men for not being future predicting psychic mind readers.
Attempting to falsely accuse males as a vindictive reaction for men declining women's sexual openness & desires.
Attempting to prevent males from recording females behaviors, manipulatively making claims of feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, etc.. Which only reveals they "fear" & try to oppressively censor the truth of their attitudes & behaviors and their effects from being honestly revealed. They fear being found out.
They attempt to perpetuate the myth of female innocence.
Because they know that holding females to true equality of unbiased equal investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability for their attitudes, behaviors & effects of such, reveals more often than not that such females are the real, manipulative lying abusers of males.
Thankfully some women, such as Sydney Watson who made this and other videos, are honest, balanced and true equality supportive.
Different than the "toxic" females who often associate with & promote female supremacist, female idolizing innocence & victim-hood assuming but male demonizing, censoring, shaming & guilt assuming feminist attitudes, ideology & propaganda.
Janice Fiamengo and Karen Straughan are a couple other integral, true equality supportive, honest, healthfully strong women who are honest about the equal shadow nature of females and support boys & mens equal humanity, rights, uncensored listening to, belief and protection.
And as such are women who therefore deserve equal listening to, love, respect, support and appreciation.
Karma☯️.
May you be viewed & treated with equal presence or lack of uncensored listening to, belief, empathy, protection from abusive hypocritical negatively projecting, passive aggressive manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory humans of both genders, support and love with which you
view & relate with me and boys & men generally.
For you reveal by such how you likewise deserve to be viewed & treated.
So be it. So it is.
- Karma.
view & relate with me and boys & men generally.
For you reveal by such how you likewise deserve to be viewed & treated.
So be it. So it is.
- Karma.
Honesty, clarity & authentic love require evolving beyond confirmation biased hive mind & ideological group think.
One of the biggest oppressors of honesty, truth & clear understanding ( and thereby healthy balanced love ), is created & perpetuated by people who assume, feel, believe & relate based in a hive mind, ideological & related group think mentality.
Such as the biased inclination, willingness & demands to "just believe" accusations, assumptions & an inherent superiority, innocence, victim-hood & purity of individuals & groups of individuals simply because they are of a certain gender.
And / or because they whip themselves and perhaps others into an emotional hysteria, display waterworks of tears and hyper emotionalism, which they attempt to manipulate people with.
Even falsely accusing people of "victim-blaming", being insensitive, offensive or otherwise being "inappropriate" & abusive for not sheepishly blindly believing & being manipulated into supporting those who feel, think & relate in such ways.
It's a common abusive, passive aggressive manipulative tactic often used by people who may be ( or are simply assumed to be ) less physically strong than those they abuse through emotional, sexual & social manipulation, lying, falsely accusatory behaviors.
It doesn't mean they don't also use direct physical & sexual abuse against others. They often do so, relying on 1 sided, false stereotypes and social conditioning demands to get away with doing so. Such as the myth of female innocence, "there is no excuse for men to hit women", "believe women", etc., but not equal social demands for full honest unbiased investigation & condemnation of females abusively, manipulatively dishonestly relating to boys & men.
Censoring, victim blaming & shaming boys & men subjected to such by females, ideological & social attitudes, policies and people who empower them.
Such manipulative tactics are used to perpetuate confirmation biased ways of looking, "researching", making claims and promoting feelings & social attitudes.
Often reinforced by people conditioned into such mindsets being unwilling to truly look, empathize & grow beyond the discomfort & blinders of their cognitive dissonance.
Such hive mind addicted beings are more invested in seeking feelings of inclusion in, belonging, support & "empowerment" from similarly ideologically possessed people, institutions & other groups, than they are in unbiased awareness, honesty & truth.
Their, perhaps subconscious, aversion to ostracization from a biased collective "sisterhood" mindset, to maturing beyond an in group preferential knee jerk emotionalism & tribalism, keeps them blindly recycling 1 sided deflections, lies and double standards.
It keeps beings infected with such attitudes, feelings & beliefs, disassociated from inclusively balanced awareness, honesty & trustworthiness.
Thereby incapable of viewing & relating with true love, clarity & harmony.
While it may not be popular to admit this, popularity is irrelevant to truth.
Only beings willing to be truly autonomous, free of biased assumptive beliefs, feelings, ways of perceiving & relating, and of desire for or use of identity politics, popularity & group preferences, can be clear, balanced & honest enough to be truly healthfully strong, free, trustworthy & loving. 💙
Such as the biased inclination, willingness & demands to "just believe" accusations, assumptions & an inherent superiority, innocence, victim-hood & purity of individuals & groups of individuals simply because they are of a certain gender.
And / or because they whip themselves and perhaps others into an emotional hysteria, display waterworks of tears and hyper emotionalism, which they attempt to manipulate people with.
Even falsely accusing people of "victim-blaming", being insensitive, offensive or otherwise being "inappropriate" & abusive for not sheepishly blindly believing & being manipulated into supporting those who feel, think & relate in such ways.
It's a common abusive, passive aggressive manipulative tactic often used by people who may be ( or are simply assumed to be ) less physically strong than those they abuse through emotional, sexual & social manipulation, lying, falsely accusatory behaviors.
It doesn't mean they don't also use direct physical & sexual abuse against others. They often do so, relying on 1 sided, false stereotypes and social conditioning demands to get away with doing so. Such as the myth of female innocence, "there is no excuse for men to hit women", "believe women", etc., but not equal social demands for full honest unbiased investigation & condemnation of females abusively, manipulatively dishonestly relating to boys & men.
Censoring, victim blaming & shaming boys & men subjected to such by females, ideological & social attitudes, policies and people who empower them.
Such manipulative tactics are used to perpetuate confirmation biased ways of looking, "researching", making claims and promoting feelings & social attitudes.
Often reinforced by people conditioned into such mindsets being unwilling to truly look, empathize & grow beyond the discomfort & blinders of their cognitive dissonance.
Such hive mind addicted beings are more invested in seeking feelings of inclusion in, belonging, support & "empowerment" from similarly ideologically possessed people, institutions & other groups, than they are in unbiased awareness, honesty & truth.
Their, perhaps subconscious, aversion to ostracization from a biased collective "sisterhood" mindset, to maturing beyond an in group preferential knee jerk emotionalism & tribalism, keeps them blindly recycling 1 sided deflections, lies and double standards.
It keeps beings infected with such attitudes, feelings & beliefs, disassociated from inclusively balanced awareness, honesty & trustworthiness.
Thereby incapable of viewing & relating with true love, clarity & harmony.
While it may not be popular to admit this, popularity is irrelevant to truth.
Only beings willing to be truly autonomous, free of biased assumptive beliefs, feelings, ways of perceiving & relating, and of desire for or use of identity politics, popularity & group preferences, can be clear, balanced & honest enough to be truly healthfully strong, free, trustworthy & loving. 💙
Consistency, honesty & appreciation.
Consistency blending with appreciation, open exploration & honesty provides a healthy foundation for most anything worthwhile.
Applicable not only to qigong practice and other meditative, fitness & wellness arts, but also to relationships with ourself, each other and how we live & relate to consciousness.
Applicable not only to qigong practice and other meditative, fitness & wellness arts, but also to relationships with ourself, each other and how we live & relate to consciousness.
☯️💙 Diversity. Interpretations. Appreciation. Honesty. Massage & Life.
A fact often ignored by many people & ideologies, is that the limit of their chosen appreciation, boundaries, comfort & understanding relative to ways of being, relating & other life experiences, are not the only valid or default choices & interpretations.
Anyone expecting life & everyone else in it to automatically share, know & default to ones own personal limits of appreciation - boundaries, comfort, life & relational preferences, is living & relating dishonestly.
Creating misunderstandings by such passive aggressiveness, selfish & false assumptions & negative projections.
And disrespecting the equal validity of other, diverse ways of appreciative interpreting & more open defaults and people relating accordingly.
It takes a tiny amount of awareness & honesty to admit that that what some people choose to feel unappreciative, uncomfortable & offended by, many other men & women interpret & thus experience neutrally to appreciatively. As something natural, healthy, diversity affirming and loving.
An example includes perspectives about the natural body, massages, human relating and men & women.
Some people choose to interpret the natural body as something to hide most or all areas of from anyone other than a husband or wife. Even during massages.
Which is anyone's right, as long as the fact it is not the only valid option is equally respected.
It is not the default limit of openness & comfort for many healthy, honest women & men.
I've attended 4 massage schools & additional related courses. The first one in late 1990s. During classes from & with the women ( mostly ) who taught them, some were very conservative and dogmatic relative to the human body & massage.
But many women & some men who taught & attended massage classes defaulted to a much more open, comfortable perspective.
Breast massage for example, was taught & promoted as a normal part of massage both for its physical & emotional nurturing benefits.
Some were strict about draping. Many were much more relaxed, similar to esalen or lomi lomi with draping being treated as optional.
Some publicly or privately expressed feeling excluding areas of the body when both people are open with each other, is unnatural, unhealthfully shaming & contributes to excess but socially normalized emotional & mental tension.
And including full body in massages, up to any directly verbally expressed boundary if honestly told & known, promotes a deeper loving acceptance, healthy energy flow & naturalness. Affirming our embodying unity with the rest of life - nature.
Some even mentioned being open to including what I would consider sexual experiences with some people they give to.
Each person and their opinions for their own life & relationships are correct.
I choose to have certain boundaries for how I'm willing to give during paid massages, generally.
And while my personal preferences, boundaries & comfort likely abide somewhere in the middle of the range of what I've experienced from others, I still respect others equally.
Provided people own their equal adult responsibility for simply honestly proactively & responsively directly stating any boundaries & preferences they have with me at any time before expecting me to understand & thereby equally respect theirs.
And as long as people respect my boundaries ( which the former is one of my eternal boundaries ), don't negatively project, passive aggressively or directly lie to or about me.
I've met many women who indirectly or directly express desire for including breasts as part of their massages.
Many even express preferring a lot of time - focus given for them in this area.
Some say its because it usually is neglected.
Or due to it helping release back, neck & shoulder pain - tension from forward rounding & contracted pectoral - chest area.
As a healing heart opening process. Simply because it feels deeply nurturing. Or some blend.
Many women express feeling hesitant about admitting such due to negative judgements from others with an oppressive, shaming & hateful attitude about such & other humans ( men & women equally ) equal rights & freedom to be open to & kindly nurtured by what offended people choose to feel offended by.
Many women I've experienced wanting much more even during paid sessions. I don't shame them, even when I'm not comfortable with or open to what they want or them in that or other contexts.
Because reacting accusatory & shaming to such is a hateful, unloving and narcissistic reaction.
Even though what I would consider more intimate ( pelvic genitals, kissing, mutual affection...) I prefer to reserve for a woman I'm trusting I'd open to at least mutually creating an honest, loving ongoing affectionate friendship with at least.
Even my comfort including breast massage for women, I'm fairly reserved about generally. Preferring a basis of what I trust is mutual respect, comfort, human friendliness and honesty with each other.
And as part of ongoing sessions for deepening rapport & 💗 emotional openness.
I respect the fact that people aren't mind readers, so can't be expected to know the limits of my openness & comfort - my boundaries - with them before I tell them clearly.
And in a healthy freedom affirming, loving world we humans naturally meet and develop all kinds of relationships in all kinds of contexts, places and times. Not oppressed by the negative projections, fears & unnatural shame of others who attempt to force everyone else into their suffocating emotional - spiritual box.
A few of the women & men who owned and / or taught at massage schools I've attended, and many cmts I've known, met & developed personal intimate relationships with men & women they met as clients.
Which grew from them being open with each other initially in massage contexts.
Since they are adults, not toddlers, they know they are free to choose however they wish to relate & with whom in any context.
No one is forcing anyone to relate. If someone has a boundary with someone, if they are honest & mutually respectful they own their equal responsibility to simply honestly state what, when & where their boundaries are so they can be known & respected equally.
Including if its relative to specific contexts or generally.
I've met many women, often from European countries, who even at spas I've worked at view draping their bodies as a strange, unnatural thing to do.
And many women, before I could even leave the massage room between intake meeting & massage, who suddenly removed their clothing. Or positioned themselves while facing me in ways which caused their robes to open - exposing their whole anterior nude body.
And I've met some women & men who chose to react with hateful, negative false accusations and shaming at my even simply honestly admitting these facts.
And at my respecting the equal validity of the spectrum of peoples boundaries & openness even when different from my own.
Well, I don't apologize for being loving & honest enough to not cower beneath the attempted oppressive tyranny of beings who pretend their view & limits of appreciative openness in life to be the only valid, "appropriate & healthy default option.
Because diversity, freedom & love isn't only for those who think & feel one way. It isn't only for people with the most knee jerk offended, uncomfortable, conservative, fearful interpretations, feelings, boundaries & preferences.
Indeed, even our own continuing healthy growth maturity, awareness & love requires an expansiveness beyond dogmatic attitudes & assumptions.
An admission that the limits of ones own & anyone's beliefs, comfort, boundaries, lifestyle & relational preferences are only 1 option of many additional creative & nuanced possibilities.
Obviously this applies not only to how we interpret, feel & relate with the natural human body, massages and such.
It applies to what we choose to find meaningful & worth our time - attention. What hobbies we choose.
The vocation we choose.
Whether we are more solitary or gregarious.
Where we live.
What kinds of friends, companions, work mates, etc we prefer.
The kinds of exercise, if any, we do.
What kind of music we find enjoyable.
What foods we enjoy.
And most anything else.
How can you admit & equally respect the equal validity of perspectives, defaults of boundaries & openness, relational & other preferences and people open to them, even when diverse from your own defaults, comfort & awareness at the moment?
As you would like others do for you as well without expecting you to know their boundaries, what they feel offended & uncomfortable by before they directly honestly tell you even when its things you feel are totally natural and kind.
How can you respect your own & each others freedom & humanity equally? ☯️💙
Anyone expecting life & everyone else in it to automatically share, know & default to ones own personal limits of appreciation - boundaries, comfort, life & relational preferences, is living & relating dishonestly.
Creating misunderstandings by such passive aggressiveness, selfish & false assumptions & negative projections.
And disrespecting the equal validity of other, diverse ways of appreciative interpreting & more open defaults and people relating accordingly.
It takes a tiny amount of awareness & honesty to admit that that what some people choose to feel unappreciative, uncomfortable & offended by, many other men & women interpret & thus experience neutrally to appreciatively. As something natural, healthy, diversity affirming and loving.
An example includes perspectives about the natural body, massages, human relating and men & women.
Some people choose to interpret the natural body as something to hide most or all areas of from anyone other than a husband or wife. Even during massages.
Which is anyone's right, as long as the fact it is not the only valid option is equally respected.
It is not the default limit of openness & comfort for many healthy, honest women & men.
I've attended 4 massage schools & additional related courses. The first one in late 1990s. During classes from & with the women ( mostly ) who taught them, some were very conservative and dogmatic relative to the human body & massage.
But many women & some men who taught & attended massage classes defaulted to a much more open, comfortable perspective.
Breast massage for example, was taught & promoted as a normal part of massage both for its physical & emotional nurturing benefits.
Some were strict about draping. Many were much more relaxed, similar to esalen or lomi lomi with draping being treated as optional.
Some publicly or privately expressed feeling excluding areas of the body when both people are open with each other, is unnatural, unhealthfully shaming & contributes to excess but socially normalized emotional & mental tension.
And including full body in massages, up to any directly verbally expressed boundary if honestly told & known, promotes a deeper loving acceptance, healthy energy flow & naturalness. Affirming our embodying unity with the rest of life - nature.
Some even mentioned being open to including what I would consider sexual experiences with some people they give to.
Each person and their opinions for their own life & relationships are correct.
I choose to have certain boundaries for how I'm willing to give during paid massages, generally.
And while my personal preferences, boundaries & comfort likely abide somewhere in the middle of the range of what I've experienced from others, I still respect others equally.
Provided people own their equal adult responsibility for simply honestly proactively & responsively directly stating any boundaries & preferences they have with me at any time before expecting me to understand & thereby equally respect theirs.
And as long as people respect my boundaries ( which the former is one of my eternal boundaries ), don't negatively project, passive aggressively or directly lie to or about me.
I've met many women who indirectly or directly express desire for including breasts as part of their massages.
Many even express preferring a lot of time - focus given for them in this area.
Some say its because it usually is neglected.
Or due to it helping release back, neck & shoulder pain - tension from forward rounding & contracted pectoral - chest area.
As a healing heart opening process. Simply because it feels deeply nurturing. Or some blend.
Many women express feeling hesitant about admitting such due to negative judgements from others with an oppressive, shaming & hateful attitude about such & other humans ( men & women equally ) equal rights & freedom to be open to & kindly nurtured by what offended people choose to feel offended by.
Many women I've experienced wanting much more even during paid sessions. I don't shame them, even when I'm not comfortable with or open to what they want or them in that or other contexts.
Because reacting accusatory & shaming to such is a hateful, unloving and narcissistic reaction.
Even though what I would consider more intimate ( pelvic genitals, kissing, mutual affection...) I prefer to reserve for a woman I'm trusting I'd open to at least mutually creating an honest, loving ongoing affectionate friendship with at least.
Even my comfort including breast massage for women, I'm fairly reserved about generally. Preferring a basis of what I trust is mutual respect, comfort, human friendliness and honesty with each other.
And as part of ongoing sessions for deepening rapport & 💗 emotional openness.
I respect the fact that people aren't mind readers, so can't be expected to know the limits of my openness & comfort - my boundaries - with them before I tell them clearly.
And in a healthy freedom affirming, loving world we humans naturally meet and develop all kinds of relationships in all kinds of contexts, places and times. Not oppressed by the negative projections, fears & unnatural shame of others who attempt to force everyone else into their suffocating emotional - spiritual box.
A few of the women & men who owned and / or taught at massage schools I've attended, and many cmts I've known, met & developed personal intimate relationships with men & women they met as clients.
Which grew from them being open with each other initially in massage contexts.
Since they are adults, not toddlers, they know they are free to choose however they wish to relate & with whom in any context.
No one is forcing anyone to relate. If someone has a boundary with someone, if they are honest & mutually respectful they own their equal responsibility to simply honestly state what, when & where their boundaries are so they can be known & respected equally.
Including if its relative to specific contexts or generally.
I've met many women, often from European countries, who even at spas I've worked at view draping their bodies as a strange, unnatural thing to do.
And many women, before I could even leave the massage room between intake meeting & massage, who suddenly removed their clothing. Or positioned themselves while facing me in ways which caused their robes to open - exposing their whole anterior nude body.
And I've met some women & men who chose to react with hateful, negative false accusations and shaming at my even simply honestly admitting these facts.
And at my respecting the equal validity of the spectrum of peoples boundaries & openness even when different from my own.
Well, I don't apologize for being loving & honest enough to not cower beneath the attempted oppressive tyranny of beings who pretend their view & limits of appreciative openness in life to be the only valid, "appropriate & healthy default option.
Because diversity, freedom & love isn't only for those who think & feel one way. It isn't only for people with the most knee jerk offended, uncomfortable, conservative, fearful interpretations, feelings, boundaries & preferences.
Indeed, even our own continuing healthy growth maturity, awareness & love requires an expansiveness beyond dogmatic attitudes & assumptions.
An admission that the limits of ones own & anyone's beliefs, comfort, boundaries, lifestyle & relational preferences are only 1 option of many additional creative & nuanced possibilities.
Obviously this applies not only to how we interpret, feel & relate with the natural human body, massages and such.
It applies to what we choose to find meaningful & worth our time - attention. What hobbies we choose.
The vocation we choose.
Whether we are more solitary or gregarious.
Where we live.
What kinds of friends, companions, work mates, etc we prefer.
The kinds of exercise, if any, we do.
What kind of music we find enjoyable.
What foods we enjoy.
And most anything else.
How can you admit & equally respect the equal validity of perspectives, defaults of boundaries & openness, relational & other preferences and people open to them, even when diverse from your own defaults, comfort & awareness at the moment?
As you would like others do for you as well without expecting you to know their boundaries, what they feel offended & uncomfortable by before they directly honestly tell you even when its things you feel are totally natural and kind.
How can you respect your own & each others freedom & humanity equally? ☯️💙
Upper back stiff & painful? Tennis balls can help. ☯️💙
Upper back stiff & painful? Tennis balls can help. ☯️💙
Tennis balls are a simple, helpful option for helping release excess muscular & fascial tension, constriction & pain in some instances.
The balance of some firmness with resilient springy quality provides an effective pressure while still being comfortable.
Rolling slowly, attentively along outside ( not on ) spine, releasing spinal erectors, trapezoids, rhomboids, lats, elevator scapula, serratus & other muscles & surrounding fascia provides welcome relief.
Aiding release of stiffness, pain & adhesions developed from poor posture, injuries, workout soreness, etc..
Tennis balls are a simple, helpful option for helping release excess muscular & fascial tension, constriction & pain in some instances.
The balance of some firmness with resilient springy quality provides an effective pressure while still being comfortable.
Rolling slowly, attentively along outside ( not on ) spine, releasing spinal erectors, trapezoids, rhomboids, lats, elevator scapula, serratus & other muscles & surrounding fascia provides welcome relief.
Aiding release of stiffness, pain & adhesions developed from poor posture, injuries, workout soreness, etc..
Nature is naturally harmonious.
Nature is naturally harmonious. It is innately naturally sensual, honest & beautiful. Earthly life is sensually embodying natural spiritual principles.
Religious, social, political & individual often normalized unnatural guilt, shame, fear, hate, inhibitions, discomfort, offendedness and dogmatic attitudes, feelings & reactions to the many permutations of this fact does not change the fact.
It simply reveals areas of unnatural, unloving, negatively projecting & unhealthfully controlling - dogmatic consciousness.
Which honestly investigating, recognizing, admitting & transforming allow for embodying & living a more healthfully natural, honest, loving & beautiful life.
☯️🌿🌲💙🦋
Religious, social, political & individual often normalized unnatural guilt, shame, fear, hate, inhibitions, discomfort, offendedness and dogmatic attitudes, feelings & reactions to the many permutations of this fact does not change the fact.
It simply reveals areas of unnatural, unloving, negatively projecting & unhealthfully controlling - dogmatic consciousness.
Which honestly investigating, recognizing, admitting & transforming allow for embodying & living a more healthfully natural, honest, loving & beautiful life.
☯️🌿🌲💙🦋
Shoulder, neck & torso release option. 💙
Shoulder, neck & torso release option. 💙
Allow more time than sped up video shows, to move slowly & pause in places desired to release excess holding - tension deeply.
You may also notice after doing these, that breathing is deeper & easier. Especially when doing variation of rotating spine - torso inward toward wall & back as well.
Allow more time than sped up video shows, to move slowly & pause in places desired to release excess holding - tension deeply.
You may also notice after doing these, that breathing is deeper & easier. Especially when doing variation of rotating spine - torso inward toward wall & back as well.
Bagua qigong squat coil kick flow ☯️💙🦋🌲
Why move slowly? Those of us who do so attentively, appreciatively & honestly, understand.
Harmonizing expansive spaciousness of consciousness with naturally sensually grounding, embodying presence. ☯️💗
Transforming stressful sympathetic mode of being into healthy calming, harmonizing parasympathetic nervous system quality of being.
Harmonizing expansive spaciousness of consciousness with naturally sensually grounding, embodying presence. ☯️💗
Transforming stressful sympathetic mode of being into healthy calming, harmonizing parasympathetic nervous system quality of being.
Spontaneous bagua flowing ☯️💙🌲
One of many ways of nurturing healthy, loving, honest & open minded present moment harmonious embodiment.
Taiji qigong flow, natural bee & Bandit in 🌲☯️.
Grateful for the beauty, wellness, appreciation & freedom.
Appreciating & honesty nourishes healthy pleasure ☯️💗💙.
Including enjoying vibrant nature & flowing motorcycle rides. 💙
Quietly calm, spacious open spirit, mind & 💗, earthly rooted body.
Transforming rushing into harmonious focus & relaxed supple embodiment in the present.
Transforming rushing into harmonious focus & relaxed supple embodiment in the present.
For the love of qigong, horses, motorcycle riding & nature.
Honesty - diversity - true equality - love. ☯️💙
The first two signs shown in this video, I made & have prominently posted in my office. Which when first meeting people I point out & state my boundaries with everyone at all times include they relate accordingly with me for mutual understanding, respect, freedom & harmony.
Unfortunately in society its popular among some to rail against so called "toxic masculinity" and men. Yet to ignore, dismiss and even blame males for the abusive, selfish, manipulative & lying behaviors of the many females who subject boys & men to such.
An "inconvenient truth" is that while there are unfortunately some abusive males, at least equally there are also many abusive, "toxic" dishonest girls & women. Including the females Ive encountered who have chosen to violate my directly stated boundaries. Relating in abusively misandric sexist negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying ways in attempt to act out their selfish, abusive & professional victim complex mindset.
It is sadly not at all rare that females choose to relate in abusively gynocentric double standard, emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressive & directly manipulative, lying & assaultive ways against honest, loving boys & men.
Contrary to certain gynocentric gender biased ideologies & those blindly viewing through the distorted lens of & promoting such.
Desire for, openness to & experiences of affection whether platonic, sensual or sexual isn't wrong.
As long as both people involved own their equal adult responsibility for directly proactively & responsively stating if they have specific boundaries & expectations exactly what, where & when such are before expecting to have such known & respected while relating with each other. As long as people don't lie.
Although I have my own boundaries & preferences, which include reserving sexual affection for someone who I trust to be fully openly honest, respect my boundaries & shares openness to mutually nurturing at least a genuine, lasting loving friendship.
Simultaneously I am mature & respectful enough to not shame & negatively accuse peoples feelings & desires for sensual and sexual affection and the natural body, even when I am not personally open to individuals in that way, as long as they don't try to lie to our about me and their own behaviors, falsely accuse or directly force me to relate in ways i am not open to.
What is abusive & wrong is negatively projecting, passive aggressive & direct lying, manipulatively acting sexually open ( including not clearly stating boundaries & intentions or saying what isn't true - is dishonest ) with someone then turning around and abusively blaming them for being mislead by such, threatening false accusations to try to commit such & other abusive, thieving & lying behaviors & misandric hypocrisy.
Such as I have experienced from many females in my life, as have countless boys & men.
My first few sexual experiences as a child were being raped by 3 different, older women before I was even 15. One who directly threatened me with false accusations if I didn't let her rape me. Unfortunately there are many, many, many females who think & relate in similar ways to her - they are usually the same females making misandric sexist truth censoring demands to "just believe women". Ive encountered many as an adult since then, though I have learned to take precautions and will no longer meekly tolerate such abusive lying behaviors from females and anyone who supports them.
There are many honest, loving, integral men like myself who are unwilling to remain meekly quiet, oppressively censored & shamed into chivalrously female idolizing & innocence assuming / male vilifying & guilt assuming pretense, silence & dishonesty about such facts.
Because I & others like me choose to only be, support and relate with full honesty, authenticity & equal love & respect for boys & mens equal humanity, rights, protection & freedom.
Because I & we support true equality - equal, never extra, rights & belief of females balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability of females in all ways & contexts.
Generally & for females abusive, hypocritical double standard, negatively projecting, emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressive & directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, assaultive, thieving, entitled, male victim censoring mocking & blaming attitudes & behaviors.
True equality also = equal listening to, belief, due process, love & protection of boys & men from abusive lying females & those who "just believe" & empower them.
Beings who are kindredly awake & embody true equality, love & honesty fully respect & support this. And as such deserve equal respect & appreciation. 💙
Unfortunately in society its popular among some to rail against so called "toxic masculinity" and men. Yet to ignore, dismiss and even blame males for the abusive, selfish, manipulative & lying behaviors of the many females who subject boys & men to such.
An "inconvenient truth" is that while there are unfortunately some abusive males, at least equally there are also many abusive, "toxic" dishonest girls & women. Including the females Ive encountered who have chosen to violate my directly stated boundaries. Relating in abusively misandric sexist negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying ways in attempt to act out their selfish, abusive & professional victim complex mindset.
It is sadly not at all rare that females choose to relate in abusively gynocentric double standard, emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressive & directly manipulative, lying & assaultive ways against honest, loving boys & men.
Contrary to certain gynocentric gender biased ideologies & those blindly viewing through the distorted lens of & promoting such.
Desire for, openness to & experiences of affection whether platonic, sensual or sexual isn't wrong.
As long as both people involved own their equal adult responsibility for directly proactively & responsively stating if they have specific boundaries & expectations exactly what, where & when such are before expecting to have such known & respected while relating with each other. As long as people don't lie.
Although I have my own boundaries & preferences, which include reserving sexual affection for someone who I trust to be fully openly honest, respect my boundaries & shares openness to mutually nurturing at least a genuine, lasting loving friendship.
Simultaneously I am mature & respectful enough to not shame & negatively accuse peoples feelings & desires for sensual and sexual affection and the natural body, even when I am not personally open to individuals in that way, as long as they don't try to lie to our about me and their own behaviors, falsely accuse or directly force me to relate in ways i am not open to.
What is abusive & wrong is negatively projecting, passive aggressive & direct lying, manipulatively acting sexually open ( including not clearly stating boundaries & intentions or saying what isn't true - is dishonest ) with someone then turning around and abusively blaming them for being mislead by such, threatening false accusations to try to commit such & other abusive, thieving & lying behaviors & misandric hypocrisy.
Such as I have experienced from many females in my life, as have countless boys & men.
My first few sexual experiences as a child were being raped by 3 different, older women before I was even 15. One who directly threatened me with false accusations if I didn't let her rape me. Unfortunately there are many, many, many females who think & relate in similar ways to her - they are usually the same females making misandric sexist truth censoring demands to "just believe women". Ive encountered many as an adult since then, though I have learned to take precautions and will no longer meekly tolerate such abusive lying behaviors from females and anyone who supports them.
There are many honest, loving, integral men like myself who are unwilling to remain meekly quiet, oppressively censored & shamed into chivalrously female idolizing & innocence assuming / male vilifying & guilt assuming pretense, silence & dishonesty about such facts.
Because I & others like me choose to only be, support and relate with full honesty, authenticity & equal love & respect for boys & mens equal humanity, rights, protection & freedom.
Because I & we support true equality - equal, never extra, rights & belief of females balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability of females in all ways & contexts.
Generally & for females abusive, hypocritical double standard, negatively projecting, emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressive & directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, assaultive, thieving, entitled, male victim censoring mocking & blaming attitudes & behaviors.
True equality also = equal listening to, belief, due process, love & protection of boys & men from abusive lying females & those who "just believe" & empower them.
Beings who are kindredly awake & embody true equality, love & honesty fully respect & support this. And as such deserve equal respect & appreciation. 💙
One option to help people who sit for long durations. 💙☯️
Sitting is obviously common for most people. Given sitting for hours a day can compress lumbar vertebrae, shorten psoas, contribute to or cause back, hip, thigh...pain & weakness, its helpful to support balancing such with movement & opening of pelvis, thighs & lower back.
This is 1 option to help with this.
This is 1 option to help with this.
Gentle chest, mid thoracic, heart 💗 opening passive release.
Gentle chest, mid thoracic, heart 💗 opening passive release.
Relaxing into this position with a bolster or pillow folded underneath spine, allows fascia, muscles & mind to gradually release excess holding & forward hunching. Breathe slowly & deeply.
This allows emotions & physiology to calm. And gently massages thoracic cavity from the inside.
This also supports a gradual reversal of forward rounding of shoulders, caving inward & over contraction - shortening of pectoral & anterior torso muscles & fascia. Improving whole body alignment, deepening of breathing. Which allows other areas of body to release excess compensatory excess tension.
Some sources of neck pain & jaw tension & pain can also be alleviated with consistent opening of chest and resulting improved alignment through body, when forward head positions are brought back into neutral by this.
Nourishing a smoother, whole being unity, loving & harmonious energy flow through ones whole being. 💗☯️
Bolster can also be aligned vertically from between pelvis under spine to head.
Relaxing into this position with a bolster or pillow folded underneath spine, allows fascia, muscles & mind to gradually release excess holding & forward hunching. Breathe slowly & deeply.
This allows emotions & physiology to calm. And gently massages thoracic cavity from the inside.
This also supports a gradual reversal of forward rounding of shoulders, caving inward & over contraction - shortening of pectoral & anterior torso muscles & fascia. Improving whole body alignment, deepening of breathing. Which allows other areas of body to release excess compensatory excess tension.
Some sources of neck pain & jaw tension & pain can also be alleviated with consistent opening of chest and resulting improved alignment through body, when forward head positions are brought back into neutral by this.
Nourishing a smoother, whole being unity, loving & harmonious energy flow through ones whole being. 💗☯️
Bolster can also be aligned vertically from between pelvis under spine to head.
Creating space - time for appreciation & meditative embodiment processes ☯️💙
Do you enjoy creating - finding moments & places to enjoy embodied meditative being & processes?
While relative alone in nature is my preferred space to enjoy qigong, some urban spaces suffice as well at times.
While relative alone in nature is my preferred space to enjoy qigong, some urban spaces suffice as well at times.
💗☯️ Taiji qigong bow brief zhan zhuang & flow.
A few basic hip adductor strengthening & releasing options. 💙
Friendships. Taiji qigong flow nestled in a tree grove ☯️💚.
Do you value being & relating with genuine open direct honesty, authenticity & appreciation generally and in nurturing friendships?
How do we do our part to be & contribute to authenticity, open honesty & love in how we communicate & otherways relate with ourself and each other?
By being & relating accordingly, of course.
Not relating by abusively negatively projecting, being misleadingly passive aggressively and / or directly dishonest, insincere, manipulative, falsley accusatory & blaming toward people who are subjected to & mislead by such.
Being honest generally. And about the fact that there are many equally valid ways of loving, expressing & receiving kindness, learning, creating beauty, etc., additional to & beyond our own or any other individuals or ideologies "safe space" comfort zones - limits of appreciation, understanding, familiarity and preferences.
In my opinion, sharing mutually vulnerably openly honest, appreciative, loving friendship with people is the most valuable kind of human relationship.
Relationships based in sexual affection, casual hang out buddies, people to chat with, work mates, transactional relationships, etc., can be worthwhile when honest & a base line of mutual care is present.
Though genuine openly honest, loving friendships are uniquely enriching, in my opinion.
With or without inclusion of the other types of relating.
These kinds of relationships, like with much of life, thrive with a harmonious balance of not attempting to force / make such connections with people such synergy is not genuinely shared with.
While also respecting in our choices that even when such synergy is present - available with specific people, it still needs & thrives with mutual choosing to show up authentically, honestly & appreciatively.
To be vulnerable.
To be open to the mystery of life.
To be present in relative stillness, silence & activity.
To be loving...☯️💙
How do we do our part to be & contribute to authenticity, open honesty & love in how we communicate & otherways relate with ourself and each other?
By being & relating accordingly, of course.
Not relating by abusively negatively projecting, being misleadingly passive aggressively and / or directly dishonest, insincere, manipulative, falsley accusatory & blaming toward people who are subjected to & mislead by such.
Being honest generally. And about the fact that there are many equally valid ways of loving, expressing & receiving kindness, learning, creating beauty, etc., additional to & beyond our own or any other individuals or ideologies "safe space" comfort zones - limits of appreciation, understanding, familiarity and preferences.
In my opinion, sharing mutually vulnerably openly honest, appreciative, loving friendship with people is the most valuable kind of human relationship.
Relationships based in sexual affection, casual hang out buddies, people to chat with, work mates, transactional relationships, etc., can be worthwhile when honest & a base line of mutual care is present.
Though genuine openly honest, loving friendships are uniquely enriching, in my opinion.
With or without inclusion of the other types of relating.
These kinds of relationships, like with much of life, thrive with a harmonious balance of not attempting to force / make such connections with people such synergy is not genuinely shared with.
While also respecting in our choices that even when such synergy is present - available with specific people, it still needs & thrives with mutual choosing to show up authentically, honestly & appreciatively.
To be vulnerable.
To be open to the mystery of life.
To be present in relative stillness, silence & activity.
To be loving...☯️💙
2 basic adductor openers. Can help relieve hip tension.
One cause of hip tension & pain, including in the periformis muscle(s), is tight hip abductors.
Of course there can be other causes. This is just one.
When hip adductors are overly contracted & tight, they can cause hip external rotater like periformis to be overly stretched. Which creates discomfort, strain often felt in the hip, thigh area.
These 2 inner thigh opening variations help release hip adductors. Releasing some of the strain on periformis, gluteal area.
This video is sped up multiple times to fit in shorter video. Allowing at least a couple minutes to open through each opening positions creates deeper benefits. 💙☯️
Of course there can be other causes. This is just one.
When hip adductors are overly contracted & tight, they can cause hip external rotater like periformis to be overly stretched. Which creates discomfort, strain often felt in the hip, thigh area.
These 2 inner thigh opening variations help release hip adductors. Releasing some of the strain on periformis, gluteal area.
This video is sped up multiple times to fit in shorter video. Allowing at least a couple minutes to open through each opening positions creates deeper benefits. 💙☯️
Slow attentive appreciative movement nurtures harmonious embodiment ☯️💙
Slow attentive appreciative movement nurtures harmonious embodiment ☯️💙
Slow movement & standing in relative stillness as is often done with tai chi & related kinds of qigong, has many benefits, including -
* Refining sensory motor control.
* Increasing embodied sensitivity.
* Calming nervous system & emotions.
* Opening deeply into the present now.
* Transforming stressful sympathetic to calmer parasympathetic quality.
* Nourishing integrated movement & strength.
* Quieting mind - emotions & perceiving and feeling more clearly. Nurturing harmonious blending of spacious & focused awareness.
Among additional benefits. Enjoy being in the only time that exists - now. ☯️💗
Slow movement & standing in relative stillness as is often done with tai chi & related kinds of qigong, has many benefits, including -
* Refining sensory motor control.
* Increasing embodied sensitivity.
* Calming nervous system & emotions.
* Opening deeply into the present now.
* Transforming stressful sympathetic to calmer parasympathetic quality.
* Nourishing integrated movement & strength.
* Quieting mind - emotions & perceiving and feeling more clearly. Nurturing harmonious blending of spacious & focused awareness.
Among additional benefits. Enjoy being in the only time that exists - now. ☯️💗
Taiji grasping sparrows tail & deer observers.
Varied pace taiji qigong flow ☯️💙🌲
Taiji single whip variation flow ☯️💙.
Evolve beyond dogmatic biases to grow, be honest & loving☯️💙🌲
Evolve beyond dogmatic biases to grow, be honest & loving☯️💙🌲
An essential aspect of being sane, trustworthy, loving, clear & non-hypocritical beings, is evolving, viewing & relating with life,
oneself & each other fully openly honestly.
Beyond dogmatic personal, ideological, religious, political & related biased beliefs, projections & behaviors.
Not bound by the blinders of hypocritically sexist & racist identity politics projections & knee jerk offended attitudes,
Healthy, natural life is far more nuanced, fluid, explorational, freedom affirming and loving.
And individuals are individuals of course.
We are not the distorting projections of identity politics, personal & ideological biases, fears, feelings of offense & assumptions.
The greatest, most real minority is the individual. ☯️💙
An essential aspect of being sane, trustworthy, loving, clear & non-hypocritical beings, is evolving, viewing & relating with life,
oneself & each other fully openly honestly.
Beyond dogmatic personal, ideological, religious, political & related biased beliefs, projections & behaviors.
Not bound by the blinders of hypocritically sexist & racist identity politics projections & knee jerk offended attitudes,
Healthy, natural life is far more nuanced, fluid, explorational, freedom affirming and loving.
And individuals are individuals of course.
We are not the distorting projections of identity politics, personal & ideological biases, fears, feelings of offense & assumptions.
The greatest, most real minority is the individual. ☯️💙
Natural birthright.
💚💚💚☯️ We need no other humans' or organizations "permission" to freely be in & a part of nature.
It is our natural human birthright.
It is our natural human birthright.
Grateful...
Grateful for natural free nature.
Grateful for honesty and those of us who choose to be & relate openly honestly.
Grateful for appreciation.
Grateful for love 💗 which is the result & expression of these choices.
Grateful for honesty and those of us who choose to be & relate openly honestly.
Grateful for appreciation.
Grateful for love 💗 which is the result & expression of these choices.
Desperately white knuckling the dogma of ideological favored goddesses & gods...
Desperately white knuckling the dogma of ideological favored goddesses & gods
While screeching defiantly at shadows of inconveniently honest boogeymen cast by their pseudo divinely biased breath
Proves not their infallible, pure & honest nature.
Grasping divisive, 1 sided polarizing convictions tighter to ones sense of self
Only muffles the sounds of clarity crumbling into hazy dust.
Spaciousness of 💙 mind nourishes fertile ground for healthier, honest, harmoniously transformational being.
While screeching defiantly at shadows of inconveniently honest boogeymen cast by their pseudo divinely biased breath
Proves not their infallible, pure & honest nature.
Grasping divisive, 1 sided polarizing convictions tighter to ones sense of self
Only muffles the sounds of clarity crumbling into hazy dust.
Spaciousness of 💙 mind nourishes fertile ground for healthier, honest, harmoniously transformational being.
Judging individuals based in 1 sided, identity politics fueled assumptions, ideas, projections & related feelings & ideological propaganda that categorizes individuals in negative or positive ways according to their gender or skin tone, is innately sexist, racist, hateful, divisive and blinding.
Equally when it's done & promoted by people, groups, politicians, taught as part of marxist ideological indoctrination ( feminism, blm, sjw ) in schools & universities, political parties and organizations that hypocritically claim to be against "sexism", "racism", for "diversity", "inclusion" & "tolerance".
Equally when it's done as so often is against souls born in male or light skin bodies, and committed by beings born in female and / or noncaucasoan bodies.
It is reflective & perpetuating of a huge amount of confirmation bias, cognitive dissonance, dishonesty & hateful projections for people & groups to think, feel, view & relate in such ways. And to pretend they are not embodying the very qualities, attitudes & behaviors they claim to be against & want to eliminate.
People who do such are projecting & futiley fighting against their own disowned, unadmitted shadow. ☯️
Be better. Be honest. Be accountable for ones own beliefs, feelings, projections, behaviors and effects of such.
Treat all beings with equal love, respect, freedom as one wants in principle to receive.
Equally when it's done & promoted by people, groups, politicians, taught as part of marxist ideological indoctrination ( feminism, blm, sjw ) in schools & universities, political parties and organizations that hypocritically claim to be against "sexism", "racism", for "diversity", "inclusion" & "tolerance".
Equally when it's done as so often is against souls born in male or light skin bodies, and committed by beings born in female and / or noncaucasoan bodies.
It is reflective & perpetuating of a huge amount of confirmation bias, cognitive dissonance, dishonesty & hateful projections for people & groups to think, feel, view & relate in such ways. And to pretend they are not embodying the very qualities, attitudes & behaviors they claim to be against & want to eliminate.
People who do such are projecting & futiley fighting against their own disowned, unadmitted shadow. ☯️
Be better. Be honest. Be accountable for ones own beliefs, feelings, projections, behaviors and effects of such.
Treat all beings with equal love, respect, freedom as one wants in principle to receive.
Be & appreciate people of both genders & all skin tones who are truly honest, appreciative & loving💙☯️
Be & appreciate people of both genders & all skin tones who are truly honest, appreciative & loving💙☯️
As long as we are truly honest & lovingly intentioned with people we relate with, we need not take personally the choice of the many people who pretend, negatively project, manipulatively passive aggressively & directly lie and even turn around and falsely blame those they treat in such misleading, unloving ways for doing so & the effects of it.
The thing about negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly lying - it is lying. It is lying to oneself and others to ineffectively try to excuse such & the manipulative effects of doing so.
As such it's a healthy choice to not do such & no longer include such beings in our lives.
To lose such beings is no real loss, as it frees up space, trust & energy to be with oneself and relate with others who choose to share trustworthy - openly honest, mutually appreciative, loving - authentic ways of being & relating. A foundation for integrity, spiritual maturity, beauty & genuine friendships.
We only have control over our own choices, of course.
We integral beings of both genders & all skin tones choose genuine open honesty & loving intentions in how we are, how we communicate & relate with people. Because it's the foundation of being trustworthy, sane & beautiful beings.
Along with co-creating space for mutual understanding, respect & harmonious relationships of all kinds.
💙☯️
As long as we are truly honest & lovingly intentioned with people we relate with, we need not take personally the choice of the many people who pretend, negatively project, manipulatively passive aggressively & directly lie and even turn around and falsely blame those they treat in such misleading, unloving ways for doing so & the effects of it.
The thing about negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly lying - it is lying. It is lying to oneself and others to ineffectively try to excuse such & the manipulative effects of doing so.
As such it's a healthy choice to not do such & no longer include such beings in our lives.
To lose such beings is no real loss, as it frees up space, trust & energy to be with oneself and relate with others who choose to share trustworthy - openly honest, mutually appreciative, loving - authentic ways of being & relating. A foundation for integrity, spiritual maturity, beauty & genuine friendships.
We only have control over our own choices, of course.
We integral beings of both genders & all skin tones choose genuine open honesty & loving intentions in how we are, how we communicate & relate with people. Because it's the foundation of being trustworthy, sane & beautiful beings.
Along with co-creating space for mutual understanding, respect & harmonious relationships of all kinds.
💙☯️
Taiji qigong circular sink & rise flow ☯️💙.
When we slow our movement we can either feel bored, distracted, uncomfortable & frustrated & falsely blame it on the pace of movement or stillness.
Or we can strengthen our appreciative attentiveness, loving embodying presence, pleasurable sensitivity in the now. And therefore enjoy being & process even when relatively slow. Nourishing harmonious embodiment. ☯️💗
I often move slower than this. But its video, soo...There is no one "perfect" or most correct pace of course.
Being loving playful, focused & enjoy process is healthy.
Or we can strengthen our appreciative attentiveness, loving embodying presence, pleasurable sensitivity in the now. And therefore enjoy being & process even when relatively slow. Nourishing harmonious embodiment. ☯️💗
I often move slower than this. But its video, soo...There is no one "perfect" or most correct pace of course.
Being loving playful, focused & enjoy process is healthy.
Taiji qigong rear shift & rise flow ☯️💚🌲
What happens when we replace assumptions & projections with non-biased, open minded inquisitiveness & honesty?
Clarity, love & harmony are nourished.
How can you embody this more fully now, in all aspects of life, ways of looking, feeling & relating?
Clarity, love & harmony are nourished.
How can you embody this more fully now, in all aspects of life, ways of looking, feeling & relating?
Beautiful nature 🌲, Taiji qigong rotating stance sword & motorcycle flow ☯️💙
How are you enjoying nourishing beauty of appreciatively, honestly sensually embodying now?
In private autonomous & relational living.
Now is the time.
In private autonomous & relational living.
Now is the time.
A bit of sensual slow flow embodiment ☯️💙🌲
Slow movement & stillness when attentively, honestly & appreciatively embodied nurtures our harmonious embodiment.
Though not flashy like fast or super bendy movements, slowness & stillness with appreciation nourishes in it's own ways. 💗☯️
Deepening our whole body sensual feeling awareness & presence, loving grounding, sensitivity and calm centeredness.
Providing spaciousness to recognize & evolve beyond negative knee jerk assumptions, projections, feelings & ways of relating.
Strengthening qualities of appreciation, wonder, honesty, beauty and love. Of course it is not slowness or stillness itself which develops & affirms these qualities.
Stillness & slowness simply provide an amplification of our mind - emotions, the beliefs and feelings resulting from such.
Creating a cauldron of sorts, bringing into more direct focus the quality of our consciousness - our attitude, beliefs, feelings & projections.
Which we feel more fully when we are not rushing through life and movement. If we feel uncomfortable, agitated, bored, numb, distracted or similar negative feelings when moving slowly and abiding in stillness at times, it is not the fault of the speed but a reflection of our mind.
We clarify, strengthen & harmonize our mind, thoughts, feelings & soul when we embrace the present moment with an open, honest, inquisitive & appreciative awareness even in stillness & slow movement.
Honing such at relatively slow paces and stillness, nourishes a well of sorts from which such graceful, honest, harmonious & loving presence also flows into & through the rest of our life, movements, relations.
Among additional healthful benefits.
We bring these 💗☯️ harmonious, loving & honest qualities to the rest of our life as well.
To our relationships with ourself, each other & life.
To how we are. How we touch & share affection of all kinds.
To how we learn & explore...
Though not flashy like fast or super bendy movements, slowness & stillness with appreciation nourishes in it's own ways. 💗☯️
Deepening our whole body sensual feeling awareness & presence, loving grounding, sensitivity and calm centeredness.
Providing spaciousness to recognize & evolve beyond negative knee jerk assumptions, projections, feelings & ways of relating.
Strengthening qualities of appreciation, wonder, honesty, beauty and love. Of course it is not slowness or stillness itself which develops & affirms these qualities.
Stillness & slowness simply provide an amplification of our mind - emotions, the beliefs and feelings resulting from such.
Creating a cauldron of sorts, bringing into more direct focus the quality of our consciousness - our attitude, beliefs, feelings & projections.
Which we feel more fully when we are not rushing through life and movement. If we feel uncomfortable, agitated, bored, numb, distracted or similar negative feelings when moving slowly and abiding in stillness at times, it is not the fault of the speed but a reflection of our mind.
We clarify, strengthen & harmonize our mind, thoughts, feelings & soul when we embrace the present moment with an open, honest, inquisitive & appreciative awareness even in stillness & slow movement.
Honing such at relatively slow paces and stillness, nourishes a well of sorts from which such graceful, honest, harmonious & loving presence also flows into & through the rest of our life, movements, relations.
Among additional healthful benefits.
We bring these 💗☯️ harmonious, loving & honest qualities to the rest of our life as well.
To our relationships with ourself, each other & life.
To how we are. How we touch & share affection of all kinds.
To how we learn & explore...
Mixed pace taiji flow in nature.
Freedom from bias in order to be, perceive & relate clearly - honestly.
Affirming true equality, harmony & love.
☯️💙 Boys & girls, men & women are equal. In both light & shadow aspects.
The most hypocritically abusive, oppressively truth censoring sexist & racist attitudes, ideologies, projections, demands and policies are embodied & expressed by those who prejudicely "just believe" & demand "just believe" in the innocence, victim-hood, purity, honesty and goodness of & accusations made by humans of one gender ( such as females ) or skin tone ( such as non Caucasians ).
But the supposed guilt by mere accusation & negative assumptive projection, "toxicity", evil, oppressiveness, negative intent and abusiveness of beings of the "other", complimentary gender ( such as male human beings) or skin tone ( such as Caucasians ).
This is understood & admitted by all honest, sane, true equality supportive humans of both genders & all skin tones.
Abusive hypocritical, sexist, racist, lying, oppressive & entitled beings are clearly revealed by their desire & demands for "equal ( & extra ) rights" & belief for one gender. But not equally demanding ( & even resisting ) such gender be held to equal unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability generally & for their abusive lying, selfish, sexually socially & emotionally manipulative & entitled, hateful, assaultive and thieving attitudes toward humans of complimentary gender & other skin tones.
And trying to gaslight & deny the equal humans rights, uncensored listening to, belief, freedom, love & protection of the complimentary gender & other skin tones from abusive, falsely accusatory, bigoted treatment.
Abusive, sexist, lying, sociopathic & oppressively truth censoring gender & race bigots create, spread indoctrination of, virtue signaling promote and screechingly try to impose such abusively hypocritically biased ideologies, beliefs, propaganda & projections onto their interpretations & resultant feelings of & accusations about life, people and experiences.
Often cloaked in Orwellian, deflecting language such as politically correct, "social justice", "equality", "toxic masculinity", "patriarchy", "white male".
Such beings are utterly lacking in honesty, self awareness, balance and sanity. Who project their own hate, bigotry & lies outward.
They are abusers, misandric sexists and racists who attempt to deflect awareness of, perpetuate & empower such by ignoring, gaslighting, censoring, shaming & victim blaming everyone & everything who & which are abusively subjected to & reveal the 1 sided, dishonest, hypocritical abusive, unbalanced nature of their beings - minds, behaviors, ideological propaganda & policies. Be & give better - equal, to deserve better - equal.
One of the reasons for my interest and training in private investigation years ago, is honesty. Uncovering & exposing abusive passive aggressive & direct lies and holding such liars to equality of accountability. Including those who attempt to falsely accuse or use threats of false accusations against people. As that is one of the most insidious, unloving & manipulatively demented forms of abuse.
I chose to not continue with private investigation as a career, partly because spending more time focused on what others are doing rather than oneself is generally not a healthy, centered choice. One of the most common requests from potential clients involved investigating whether someone is relating intimately with or having an "affair" with another person.
In my opinion, meddling in other peoples personal intimate relationships is not something I want to be involved with. And such issues are better resolved by the individuals directly involved communicating mutually openly honestly with each other and respecting their natural affectionate feelings & relationships. Or separating if that is not happening.
The unnatural oppressive attempts to control, negatively project, fear, lie to & about & shame oneself and / or others natural feelings, desires, expressions of openness & sharing loving emotional & affectionate relating only creates disharmony, hate and an unhealthy society. Warping into something negative in the minds & interpretations of those who do so, one of the most healthy, natural & loving aspects of being alive.
What other people do and with who, especially intimately, is not something worth investigating, in my opinion.
There are far more productive, healthy ways of focusing & nourishing ones own life & relationships.
In my personal life, and in the realm of my giving massages, I have met & meet many women who indirectly or directly express openness & desire for sensual and / or sexual affectionate nurturing from me. In ways or contexts they may not want to admit publicly.
Just because I may not be open to such with any individual or in certain contexts, does not make such desires & openness wrong, bad or something I react with offense or negative accusations about.
I equally respect peoples' diverse perspectives, feelings & interests as long as people also respect any boundary I express with them. Including my boundary requiring whoever i relate with communicate & relate self-responsibly respectfully openly honestly with me generally & about any boundaries, expectations & preferences they have with me before expecting me to know & respect such.
Aside from the genuine evil abusiveness of women & men who attempt to knowingly force someone to relate in certain ways against their directly honestly stated boundaries. Including people who relate in negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying ways & threaten to or attempt to make false accusations of abuse as a form of abuse and to try to hide their additional abusive, thieving, lying & other behaviors.
Such people I wholeheartedly support holding to full unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability.
People who lie often relate in negatively projecting, manipulatively passive aggressive and / or direct open ways with a person(s), then turn around and abusively falsely accuse the person(s) they relate with for being mislead by them into trustingly, kindly relating accordingly. Or for doing nothing at all.
Such manipulative people even go so far as violating directly verbally and / or written expressed boundaries of people in attempt to lie to themselves and / or others and pretend to be "victims". Such as violating a persons expressed boundary requiring they simply directly honestly communicate with them if they have preferences, boundaries & expectations exactly what, when & where they are before expecting to have such understood & respected so that they may be.
Honest, sane, true equality supportive humans will not meekly tolerate such abusive, lying, negatively projecting, hypocritical attitudes, behaviors & people who commit them. We will honestly speak up about & treat such beings to true equality of equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts.
Although through my lifetime I have met many women ( and some men ) who relate in shadow, abusive manipulative dishonest, selfish ways, thankfully I also have met, meet & relate with women who are genuinely mutually respectful, loving, self responsibly openly honest & trusthworthy.
Women who view & relate with boys & men in principle & practice equally appreciatively, self responsibly honestly & communicatively, supportively and lovingly to how they want themselves and females generally to be viewed & treated.
Women who appreciate men and our kindred & unique ways of being, of expressing, offering & sharing kindness & learning equally with women.
Such integral, beautiful women co-create space for mutually respectful, harmonious, freedom affirming & loving relational experiences of many diverse kinds. And as such have my equal respect & appreciation.
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The most hypocritically abusive, oppressively truth censoring sexist & racist attitudes, ideologies, projections, demands and policies are embodied & expressed by those who prejudicely "just believe" & demand "just believe" in the innocence, victim-hood, purity, honesty and goodness of & accusations made by humans of one gender ( such as females ) or skin tone ( such as non Caucasians ).
But the supposed guilt by mere accusation & negative assumptive projection, "toxicity", evil, oppressiveness, negative intent and abusiveness of beings of the "other", complimentary gender ( such as male human beings) or skin tone ( such as Caucasians ).
This is understood & admitted by all honest, sane, true equality supportive humans of both genders & all skin tones.
Abusive hypocritical, sexist, racist, lying, oppressive & entitled beings are clearly revealed by their desire & demands for "equal ( & extra ) rights" & belief for one gender. But not equally demanding ( & even resisting ) such gender be held to equal unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability generally & for their abusive lying, selfish, sexually socially & emotionally manipulative & entitled, hateful, assaultive and thieving attitudes toward humans of complimentary gender & other skin tones.
And trying to gaslight & deny the equal humans rights, uncensored listening to, belief, freedom, love & protection of the complimentary gender & other skin tones from abusive, falsely accusatory, bigoted treatment.
Abusive, sexist, lying, sociopathic & oppressively truth censoring gender & race bigots create, spread indoctrination of, virtue signaling promote and screechingly try to impose such abusively hypocritically biased ideologies, beliefs, propaganda & projections onto their interpretations & resultant feelings of & accusations about life, people and experiences.
Often cloaked in Orwellian, deflecting language such as politically correct, "social justice", "equality", "toxic masculinity", "patriarchy", "white male".
Such beings are utterly lacking in honesty, self awareness, balance and sanity. Who project their own hate, bigotry & lies outward.
They are abusers, misandric sexists and racists who attempt to deflect awareness of, perpetuate & empower such by ignoring, gaslighting, censoring, shaming & victim blaming everyone & everything who & which are abusively subjected to & reveal the 1 sided, dishonest, hypocritical abusive, unbalanced nature of their beings - minds, behaviors, ideological propaganda & policies. Be & give better - equal, to deserve better - equal.
One of the reasons for my interest and training in private investigation years ago, is honesty. Uncovering & exposing abusive passive aggressive & direct lies and holding such liars to equality of accountability. Including those who attempt to falsely accuse or use threats of false accusations against people. As that is one of the most insidious, unloving & manipulatively demented forms of abuse.
I chose to not continue with private investigation as a career, partly because spending more time focused on what others are doing rather than oneself is generally not a healthy, centered choice. One of the most common requests from potential clients involved investigating whether someone is relating intimately with or having an "affair" with another person.
In my opinion, meddling in other peoples personal intimate relationships is not something I want to be involved with. And such issues are better resolved by the individuals directly involved communicating mutually openly honestly with each other and respecting their natural affectionate feelings & relationships. Or separating if that is not happening.
The unnatural oppressive attempts to control, negatively project, fear, lie to & about & shame oneself and / or others natural feelings, desires, expressions of openness & sharing loving emotional & affectionate relating only creates disharmony, hate and an unhealthy society. Warping into something negative in the minds & interpretations of those who do so, one of the most healthy, natural & loving aspects of being alive.
What other people do and with who, especially intimately, is not something worth investigating, in my opinion.
There are far more productive, healthy ways of focusing & nourishing ones own life & relationships.
In my personal life, and in the realm of my giving massages, I have met & meet many women who indirectly or directly express openness & desire for sensual and / or sexual affectionate nurturing from me. In ways or contexts they may not want to admit publicly.
Just because I may not be open to such with any individual or in certain contexts, does not make such desires & openness wrong, bad or something I react with offense or negative accusations about.
I equally respect peoples' diverse perspectives, feelings & interests as long as people also respect any boundary I express with them. Including my boundary requiring whoever i relate with communicate & relate self-responsibly respectfully openly honestly with me generally & about any boundaries, expectations & preferences they have with me before expecting me to know & respect such.
Aside from the genuine evil abusiveness of women & men who attempt to knowingly force someone to relate in certain ways against their directly honestly stated boundaries. Including people who relate in negatively projecting, passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying ways & threaten to or attempt to make false accusations of abuse as a form of abuse and to try to hide their additional abusive, thieving, lying & other behaviors.
Such people I wholeheartedly support holding to full unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability.
People who lie often relate in negatively projecting, manipulatively passive aggressive and / or direct open ways with a person(s), then turn around and abusively falsely accuse the person(s) they relate with for being mislead by them into trustingly, kindly relating accordingly. Or for doing nothing at all.
Such manipulative people even go so far as violating directly verbally and / or written expressed boundaries of people in attempt to lie to themselves and / or others and pretend to be "victims". Such as violating a persons expressed boundary requiring they simply directly honestly communicate with them if they have preferences, boundaries & expectations exactly what, when & where they are before expecting to have such understood & respected so that they may be.
Honest, sane, true equality supportive humans will not meekly tolerate such abusive, lying, negatively projecting, hypocritical attitudes, behaviors & people who commit them. We will honestly speak up about & treat such beings to true equality of equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts.
Although through my lifetime I have met many women ( and some men ) who relate in shadow, abusive manipulative dishonest, selfish ways, thankfully I also have met, meet & relate with women who are genuinely mutually respectful, loving, self responsibly openly honest & trusthworthy.
Women who view & relate with boys & men in principle & practice equally appreciatively, self responsibly honestly & communicatively, supportively and lovingly to how they want themselves and females generally to be viewed & treated.
Women who appreciate men and our kindred & unique ways of being, of expressing, offering & sharing kindness & learning equally with women.
Such integral, beautiful women co-create space for mutually respectful, harmonious, freedom affirming & loving relational experiences of many diverse kinds. And as such have my equal respect & appreciation.
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Taiji sword flow among forest beauty.
An important aspect of sanity, love, honesty & harmony is appreciating diverse offers, expressions & experiences of kindness.
Owning ones' own negative, unappreciative interpretations & feelings instead of projecting them. 💗☯️
💚🌲 Sharing grace with earth. An important aspect of sanity, love, honesty & harmony is appreciating diverse offers, expressions & experiences of kindness, intimacy, nurturing affection, friendship & other kindly intentioned ways of relating.
Even when / if such is not desired with a specific person or moment, that doesn't make it a negative offer, expression or experience.
That doesn't mean that we or someone else must be or remain open to something or someone if its not desired generally or at a specific moment, of course.
As long as we & another own ones' own equal individual responsibility & accountability for simply proactively & responsively directly honestly stating if we have boundaries & preferences exactly what, when & where such is with whoever we want such respected by, so they can be mutually understood & thereby respected.
And we and others own any negative interpretations, projections & related feelings, rather then abusively knee jerk assumptively projecting such onto the neutral to kindly intentioned intentions, offers, expressions & being of people who express such.
One of the most abusive, mentally & emotionally unbalanced and unloving ways of being & relating, is the subconscious knee jerk reaction or conscious choice to negatively project, misinterpret and misrepresent as offensive, bad or otherwise negative, kindly intentioned offers & expressions of openness, friendship, affection, personal relating and related natural human experiences.
Confusing ones negative feelings resulting from such negative projections for the reality of neutrally to kindly intentioned offers, experiences & expressions, is ultimately an expression of a narcissistic, manipulative and unloving mind. Lacking empathy.
Reacting to natural, loving, affectionate, freedom affirming, diverse and kind expressions & beings, with abusive fear, false accusations, contempt & other negative projections, is hateful, dishonest and abusive. Even if interpreting and relating in such negatively projecting, unappreciative, entitled and falsely accusatory ways is promoted & supported by some people, ideologies & beliefs, such as some do against honest, loving men who vulnerably express & respond with honest, loving openness, affection, friendship, etc with some women.
Including when men respond trustingly, kindly to women's seeming or directly expressed openness to & appreciation for such at some point.
When men offer various kinds of loving, nurturing, platonic or affectionate relating with women for instance, it is not out of demand, oppression, selfishness or anything negative as some negative minded people project onto & misrepresent.
It is because we men know from experience that many honest, loving & healthy women appreciate such. We are loving, integral, honest & respectful enough to offer, give & share such at times. And we trust women's seeming & expressed appreciation & openness along with trusting women to simply own their equal individual responsibility to directly proactively and responsively state if they have boundaries at any specific time exactly what, when & where they are with us before expecting us to know and thereby equally respect such. And to not passive aggressively or directly lie. To be decent, honest, sane human beings.
Integral, mutually respectful, mature and emotionally balanced women appreciate & respect this without feeling entitled to, negatively projecting onto nor taking for granted mens kindly intentioned attention, offers & expressions of affection, friendship or anything else.
Thankfully we can choose to be & relate sanely. With love & gratitude.
It co-creates mutually beneficial, harmonious, respectful & loving consciousness & relating to choose instead to respect & appreciate each other & diverse kindly intentioned offers, expressions & experiences of loving, affectionate, nurturing human relating with people.
And the beauty, vulnerability & generosity of such and beings who offer and are open to it.
Not confusing or misrepresenting such openness & expressions for abuse or anything negative.
If we have specific boundaries, expectations or preferences with any individual at any time, simply mutually respectfully self responsibly directly honestly stating such with them before expecting them to know & thereby be able to respect such at the moment.
Not expecting people to be mind readers. As one likely prefers others not expect one to be future predicting mind reader nor to be blamed for the negative projections, feelings of others especially for something one intends neutrally to kindly or didn't even occur.
Being sane. Balanced. Loving. Self responsible for ones feelings and for equally communicating to co-create mutual understanding.
Appreciating kindness in its varied expressions. 💗☯️
Even when / if such is not desired with a specific person or moment, that doesn't make it a negative offer, expression or experience.
That doesn't mean that we or someone else must be or remain open to something or someone if its not desired generally or at a specific moment, of course.
As long as we & another own ones' own equal individual responsibility & accountability for simply proactively & responsively directly honestly stating if we have boundaries & preferences exactly what, when & where such is with whoever we want such respected by, so they can be mutually understood & thereby respected.
And we and others own any negative interpretations, projections & related feelings, rather then abusively knee jerk assumptively projecting such onto the neutral to kindly intentioned intentions, offers, expressions & being of people who express such.
One of the most abusive, mentally & emotionally unbalanced and unloving ways of being & relating, is the subconscious knee jerk reaction or conscious choice to negatively project, misinterpret and misrepresent as offensive, bad or otherwise negative, kindly intentioned offers & expressions of openness, friendship, affection, personal relating and related natural human experiences.
Confusing ones negative feelings resulting from such negative projections for the reality of neutrally to kindly intentioned offers, experiences & expressions, is ultimately an expression of a narcissistic, manipulative and unloving mind. Lacking empathy.
Reacting to natural, loving, affectionate, freedom affirming, diverse and kind expressions & beings, with abusive fear, false accusations, contempt & other negative projections, is hateful, dishonest and abusive. Even if interpreting and relating in such negatively projecting, unappreciative, entitled and falsely accusatory ways is promoted & supported by some people, ideologies & beliefs, such as some do against honest, loving men who vulnerably express & respond with honest, loving openness, affection, friendship, etc with some women.
Including when men respond trustingly, kindly to women's seeming or directly expressed openness to & appreciation for such at some point.
When men offer various kinds of loving, nurturing, platonic or affectionate relating with women for instance, it is not out of demand, oppression, selfishness or anything negative as some negative minded people project onto & misrepresent.
It is because we men know from experience that many honest, loving & healthy women appreciate such. We are loving, integral, honest & respectful enough to offer, give & share such at times. And we trust women's seeming & expressed appreciation & openness along with trusting women to simply own their equal individual responsibility to directly proactively and responsively state if they have boundaries at any specific time exactly what, when & where they are with us before expecting us to know and thereby equally respect such. And to not passive aggressively or directly lie. To be decent, honest, sane human beings.
Integral, mutually respectful, mature and emotionally balanced women appreciate & respect this without feeling entitled to, negatively projecting onto nor taking for granted mens kindly intentioned attention, offers & expressions of affection, friendship or anything else.
Thankfully we can choose to be & relate sanely. With love & gratitude.
It co-creates mutually beneficial, harmonious, respectful & loving consciousness & relating to choose instead to respect & appreciate each other & diverse kindly intentioned offers, expressions & experiences of loving, affectionate, nurturing human relating with people.
And the beauty, vulnerability & generosity of such and beings who offer and are open to it.
Not confusing or misrepresenting such openness & expressions for abuse or anything negative.
If we have specific boundaries, expectations or preferences with any individual at any time, simply mutually respectfully self responsibly directly honestly stating such with them before expecting them to know & thereby be able to respect such at the moment.
Not expecting people to be mind readers. As one likely prefers others not expect one to be future predicting mind reader nor to be blamed for the negative projections, feelings of others especially for something one intends neutrally to kindly or didn't even occur.
Being sane. Balanced. Loving. Self responsible for ones feelings and for equally communicating to co-create mutual understanding.
Appreciating kindness in its varied expressions. 💗☯️
☯️💙 Sane, honest, true equality supportive humans shun gender & skin tone biased personal, ideological, political assumptions, beliefs & propaganda.
☯️💙 Sane, honest, true equality supportive humans shun gender & skin tone biased personal, ideological, political assumptions, beliefs & propaganda.
We know & admit that ways of looking, interpreting, projecting, feelings and accusations which assume or promote the belief - assumption of the guilt or innocence, abusiveness or victim-hood, honesty or dishonesty, unintegral or integral, unloving or loving nature, behaviors & being of anyone based in beliefs about their gender or skin tone, are inherently sexist & racist equally no matter which gender or skin tone they are directed toward.
That equally includes even when such biased propaganda, beliefs & feelings are promoted by some individuals, ideologies, politicians and organizations which are viewed and promoted as popular, for "social justice", the "greater good" or other gaslighting attempts to normalize hypocritical truth censoring, confirmation biased sexist & racist assumptions, beliefs, related feelings, accusations, reactions & policies.
And censorship is another form of oppression committed by those who try to avoid equal revelation, admission & accountability of their own abusive lying behaviors & that of groups & people they favor.
Whether it's one flavor or another, the poison is equally poison.
Be better to deserve better. To be sane, balanced, honest & true equality ( equal, never extra, rights & belief balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts for all beings of both genders & all skin tones ) & love affirming. ☯️💙
We know & admit that ways of looking, interpreting, projecting, feelings and accusations which assume or promote the belief - assumption of the guilt or innocence, abusiveness or victim-hood, honesty or dishonesty, unintegral or integral, unloving or loving nature, behaviors & being of anyone based in beliefs about their gender or skin tone, are inherently sexist & racist equally no matter which gender or skin tone they are directed toward.
That equally includes even when such biased propaganda, beliefs & feelings are promoted by some individuals, ideologies, politicians and organizations which are viewed and promoted as popular, for "social justice", the "greater good" or other gaslighting attempts to normalize hypocritical truth censoring, confirmation biased sexist & racist assumptions, beliefs, related feelings, accusations, reactions & policies.
And censorship is another form of oppression committed by those who try to avoid equal revelation, admission & accountability of their own abusive lying behaviors & that of groups & people they favor.
Whether it's one flavor or another, the poison is equally poison.
Be better to deserve better. To be sane, balanced, honest & true equality ( equal, never extra, rights & belief balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts for all beings of both genders & all skin tones ) & love affirming. ☯️💙
Honesty, kindness, self responsibility, mood swings, interpretations, projection & relating. ☯️💙
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A core value of mine is honesty. As an aspect of love. Giving massages is and has for many years been one way of giving & promoting natural, healthful embodying nurturing, love and authenticity for mutually appreciative, compatible people.
It is beautiful when healthy, self responsible, honestly communicative, appreciative people appreciatively receive and relax into deepening 💗 embodying presence through massages. As a compliment to additional fitness, self care processes. And generally.
There is a flip, more challenging side to relating with people in these ways which is not often discussed honestly by many people. And generally in some senses.
Which includes that no matter how honest, loving, trusting, asking for & respectful of self responsibly honestly directly communicated boundaries & preferences, and accepting of peoples diverse defaults of openness & comfort I am, I am only responsible for myself.
And unfortunately there are many people in the world who even though they may seem sane, attractive & "normal" initially, have mental & emotional issues.
Whether their state of mind could be labelled bipolar, schizophrenic, manic depressive, sociopathic, narcissistic, chronic lying, etc., they may seem fine one moment but then flip the next. Suddenly I or whoever they direct such to, becomes a target of their negative projections & feelings, even about something innately neutral to positive and they expressed appreciation & desire for more just prior.
Or about something they've totally made up in their mind.
They can take what is intended as and appreciated by others ( and even by themselves when in a different state of mind ) as a natural, loving, trusting & honest comment, offer, expression and / or experience(s), and distort and falsely reframe it as something negative, abusive, uncomfortable, annoying or otherwise less positive than the actual nature & intention of such & those expressing it.
Being honest, loving & trusting others to be kindredly honest, appreciative & self responsible about their feelings & communicating any boundaries, preferences & feelings they have before expecting such to be understood & thereby mutually respected, is no guarantee we won't meet & be subjected to people who dont relate in such mutually honest, respectful, clarifying & harmonious ways.
I'm well aware many such people exist. And that sadly their negative ways of being, interpreting & relating are even promoted by some ideologies.
I've experienced many such women and a few men in my years giving massages, in my previous private investigation phase and generally.
Yet at some level it can still feel a bit surreal to discover someone we trust and are kindly open with, or at least have been honest & neutral with, reveals themselves to be less than honest.
That they relate as if they have multiple personalities, and maybe dont even admit how they influence relational experiences, their intepretations & feelings.
One of many examples was another massage therapist who expressed desire to trade massages with me. She worked at the same high end luxury hotel spa with me.
She asked to receive first & I agreed. Before I could leave the massage room for her to get undressed, she quickly took off her clothes in front of me.
As I always do I mentioned one of my boundaries with everyone is that they simply own their equal responsibility to directly verbally tell me if they have specific boundaries & preferences exactly what, when & where they are before expecting me to know.
So I can know & respect such, for mutual clarity & comfort. She said no problem, she is totally comfortable and open.
Since it was our first massage with each other I gave somewhat conservatively even though she mentioned wanting her breasts included, didn't need draping & was acting in ways many women do when they have wanted more intimate affection than I give for paid sessions.
After her massage she said it was amazing and she loved it. It was one of the best massages shes received. And she said she will massage me in return a few days later.
The next day when I and another male cmt were in the breakroom, she came in and suddenly took off all of her clothes a couple feet in front of both of us. I looked away when she started removing her clothes, and I continued talking with the other guy. She put her clothes back on then walked out.
A few days later when the day came for her to return the massage trade, she texts me asking if I was wanting to be sexual with her.
I replied, admitting I dont have that expectation though I wondered if she was wanting more intimate affection given how she had been relating with and around me. But friendship is primary to me, whether platonic or more inclusively affectionate.
She then turned it around in her mind, saying she thinks I may have some sexual interest so she is unwilling to uphold her part of the trade.
I later heard she had related in similar manipulative ways with others.
Whether she chose to do so to get free massages, as a passive aggressive manipulative sexual power trip, to boost her ego, to falsley vilify honest & kind men, or other bipolar mood projections, being on the receiving end of such manipulative, dishonest minds & treatment can challenge our trust in humans.
It challenges my willingness to stay lovingly vulnerably open, trusting and generous with people. Even waiting longer to get to know people is no guarantee we wont be subjected to such, as some people only express such later on in relationships of varied kinds.
How do we balance being honest, loving, appreciative and vulnerable open, trusting others to also meet & relate with us in such honest, trustworthy & loving ways?
While protecting ourselves from abusive negatively projecting, passive aggressively manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory ways of relating & people who do so.
I continue to do my part by being reliably honest & loving, yet not a meek doormat who apologizes for & tolerates abusive negatively projecting, passive aggressive, lying behaviors from anyone.
And close off to people if I discover they dont reliably share honest, appreciative ways of being & relating.
While appreciating deeply the people who do share such. ☯️💙💗
What about you? ☯️💙
Tai chi rotating stepping slow flow. ☯️💚
Savoring the present ...no rush needed.
☯️💚💙 And here we are now
☯️💚💙 And here we are now. No matter how fast or slow we move, we always are now until we are not at all.
☯️💙 To be, see & relate clearly, eschew ideological, gender & skin tone bias
☯️💙 To be, see & relate clearly, eschew ideological, gender & skin tone bias
One of the most abusive forms of lying, racism & sexism is the pretense that racist & sexist attitudes, behaviors & policies are only or more so when committed by beings of one specific skin tone or gender against others.
While gaslightingly ignoring, censoring, dismissing, blaming the victims of and even celebrating as "empowerment", "equality" or other deflecting pc buzzwords, abusive emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, negatively projecting, discriminatory, hateful, assaultive, censoring, victim blaming & thieving attitudes, behaviors & policies against individuals & groups of humans born with skin tone or gender being promoted by divisive, genuinely racist & sexist beings, ideologies & policies as inherently "toxic", "oppressive", guilty by mere accusation, etc..
It is a blatantly ( & sometimes subtly ) divisive, racist, sexist, hateful & truth censoring way of being, looking, interpreting & relating.
Which all honest, genuinely non racist & non sexist, sane humans of all skin tones & both genders understand and admit. And avoid doing and supporting people, ideologies & groups doing & promoting such regardless of what smiley face pc slogans it is masked under.
We are all individuals. There is equally light & shadow, loving and honest or abusively lying and manipulative ways of being & relating among beings of all skin tones & both genders.
Any ideology, group, politician or person who pretends & demands 1-sided ways of looking & discussing, such as demonizing individuals of one skin tone and / or gender as "toxic", guilty by default & accusation, racist & sexist, but promotes individuals of the other gender or skin tones as pure, mere innocent victims by mere claim, loving, superior...is the genuinely racist & sexist.
Attempting to hide & perpetuate their abusive, lying, hateful attitudes & behaviors behind their deflecting, gaslighting, confirmation biased & cognitive dissonant fueled propaganda.
Relying on gullible & kindred hypocritical racist & sexist, lying beings & politicians.
Be better.☯️💙
One of the most abusive forms of lying, racism & sexism is the pretense that racist & sexist attitudes, behaviors & policies are only or more so when committed by beings of one specific skin tone or gender against others.
While gaslightingly ignoring, censoring, dismissing, blaming the victims of and even celebrating as "empowerment", "equality" or other deflecting pc buzzwords, abusive emotionally sexually & socially passive aggressively & directly manipulative, lying, falsely accusatory, negatively projecting, discriminatory, hateful, assaultive, censoring, victim blaming & thieving attitudes, behaviors & policies against individuals & groups of humans born with skin tone or gender being promoted by divisive, genuinely racist & sexist beings, ideologies & policies as inherently "toxic", "oppressive", guilty by mere accusation, etc..
It is a blatantly ( & sometimes subtly ) divisive, racist, sexist, hateful & truth censoring way of being, looking, interpreting & relating.
Which all honest, genuinely non racist & non sexist, sane humans of all skin tones & both genders understand and admit. And avoid doing and supporting people, ideologies & groups doing & promoting such regardless of what smiley face pc slogans it is masked under.
We are all individuals. There is equally light & shadow, loving and honest or abusively lying and manipulative ways of being & relating among beings of all skin tones & both genders.
Any ideology, group, politician or person who pretends & demands 1-sided ways of looking & discussing, such as demonizing individuals of one skin tone and / or gender as "toxic", guilty by default & accusation, racist & sexist, but promotes individuals of the other gender or skin tones as pure, mere innocent victims by mere claim, loving, superior...is the genuinely racist & sexist.
Attempting to hide & perpetuate their abusive, lying, hateful attitudes & behaviors behind their deflecting, gaslighting, confirmation biased & cognitive dissonant fueled propaganda.
Relying on gullible & kindred hypocritical racist & sexist, lying beings & politicians.
Be better.☯️💙
☯️💙Extreme polarizing ideologies, beliefs, policies, ways of looking & interpreting, accusations & reactions are abusive, truth censoring, oppressive & divisive.
☯️💙Extreme polarizing ideologies, beliefs, policies, ways of looking & interpreting, accusations & reactions are abusive, truth censoring, oppressive & divisive.
Regardless of whether they are considered "left" or "right", one political affiliation or another.
This of course includes those which idolize, assume & demand assumptions of innocence, victim-hood and purity of beings of one gender, skin tone or other demographic but demonize, assume & demand assumption of guilt, abusiveness & "toxicity" of individuals of "the other" gender, skin tone or other demographic.
As such is inherently sexist, racist, truth censoring & divisive. No matter how popular, masked such is behind slick slogans, virtue signaling or endorsed by corrupt politicians, organizations and the abusive liars who try to profit from & perpetuate abusive lying, divisiveness & sheepish submissiveness of the masses through such hypocrisy.
☯️💙 Truth, true equality ( equal, never extra, rights & belief balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts ), clear awareness and harmony is only possible & present in the middle space of non biased, nonassumptive, true equality supportive ways of being, looking & relating.
Spaciousness. Honesty.
#love #honesty #nature #truth #freedomisntjustforyou #freedom #beauty #diversity #diversityofthought #taichiqigong #qigong #yogajournal #yoga #fitness #embodiedmeditation #goldengatebridge #petaluma #taoistlove #tao #zen #harmonious #dogma #cult #assumptions #ideology #wuji
Regardless of whether they are considered "left" or "right", one political affiliation or another.
This of course includes those which idolize, assume & demand assumptions of innocence, victim-hood and purity of beings of one gender, skin tone or other demographic but demonize, assume & demand assumption of guilt, abusiveness & "toxicity" of individuals of "the other" gender, skin tone or other demographic.
As such is inherently sexist, racist, truth censoring & divisive. No matter how popular, masked such is behind slick slogans, virtue signaling or endorsed by corrupt politicians, organizations and the abusive liars who try to profit from & perpetuate abusive lying, divisiveness & sheepish submissiveness of the masses through such hypocrisy.
☯️💙 Truth, true equality ( equal, never extra, rights & belief balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts ), clear awareness and harmony is only possible & present in the middle space of non biased, nonassumptive, true equality supportive ways of being, looking & relating.
Spaciousness. Honesty.
#love #honesty #nature #truth #freedomisntjustforyou #freedom #beauty #diversity #diversityofthought #taichiqigong #qigong #yogajournal #yoga #fitness #embodiedmeditation #goldengatebridge #petaluma #taoistlove #tao #zen #harmonious #dogma #cult #assumptions #ideology #wuji
Honesty. Love. Intimacy.
Honesty. Love. Intimacy. Individual & social dishonesty, hate & unnatural shame is often directed by many people, social & religious ideologies at the totally natural human body, and / or aspects & experiences of sensual & sexual affection.
Certain belief systems, ideologies & individuals who people who identify with such as their ways of interpreting, feelings & relating, choose to feel appreciative and comfortable or unappreciative and uncomfortable relative to the same experiences.
Same experience - different interpretations and resulting feelings & reactions.
When I began giving massages years ago, I discovered that a large percentage of women ( the majority of people who request & receive massages from me tend to be women ) take a much more open attitude & desires about their natural body & affection than my own default boundaries & comfort at the time, generally or in that context or with them. Or is generally considered "appropriate" or "normal" by more conservative minded people & social attitudes.
Some such women are respectful of my boundaries even when I choose to maintain certain boundaries with them in massage context & generally.
Some unfortunately choose to relate with less integrity, by attempting to make threats, passive aggressively manipulate & lie to try to get what they want and / or hide their behaviors.
Some negatively project, misinterpret & misrepresent as something "offensive" or negative, my loving & integrity affirming mutually respectful open honesty about such facts, about the diversity of perspectives, boundaries & openness and my expressing my boundary requiring mutual open honest communicating generally & about their boundaries & expectations with me before expecting me to understand & thereby equally respect such so that I may.
And some understand & respect my open honesty & request for such about this as the mutually clarifying, respectful, freedom affirming & loving way of being & relating it actually is.
Just because I am not knee jerk negatively reactive to people who express openness to & desires from me for ways of sensual & sexual affection that I may not be open to with them or generally, doesn't mean I choose to give or relate in such ways in massage or any context. With them or anyone.
As long as people are mature & mutually respectfully honest enough to own their projections, feelings, not violate my stated boundaries & attempt to lie ( which I will not tolerate ), I am respectful of many diverse perspectives & people who have them even when different from my own.
Being appreciative of & not reacting negatively, accusatory to offers & ways of relating even such ways are different from ones own personal preferences, boundaries and comfort in any moment, context or with specific person, is a foundational choice of being a sane, non-hypocritical, diversity respecting, loving human being.
And its wise to remember the fact that whatever we choose to believe & feel is natural, good, appropriate, kind to offer, do, experience & explore in specific contexts, there are people who view such as offensive, wrong, uncomfortable, weird, etc..
Do you want them to react with arrogant oppressive hate, negative accusations and demands that you be censored, punished or otherwise negatively treated for daring to be comfortable and open to what they are not?
Likely not.
Likely you want them to respect your freedom?. And for them to own their individual equal responsibility to simply proactively & responsively directly tell you if they have a boundary or preference while relating with you in any way exactly what, when & where it is before expecting you to understand & equally respect such?.
While equally respecting your freedom & not expecting you to be a future predicting mind reader.
Are we relating with such basic open honesty & respect for each others freedom & as we want to receive? In principle. As this is what earns kindred treatment. ☯️💗
This is why I sometimes openly share about topics like honesty, sensuality, sexuality, freedom and even in connection with massages. Not because I have no personal boundaries generally & with individuals.
I do have boundaries for how I relate & give massages & time I charge & accept money for. Generally and relative to synergy with specific individuals.
Such as for anything I consider overtly sexual relating, I prefer reserving giving for & sharing such openness with someone I'm open to & trust is mutually into at least nurturing an ongoing affectionate, honest friendship with me.
Even what I consider sensual relating, still there needs to be some baseline of mutual respect, appreciation, honesty & nurturing an ongoing connection even if primarily in massage contexts.
Open honest, exploratory communicating, discussions & mutual respect for each others equal humanity & freedom is far more healthy and harmonious than choosing to negatively project, feel & act offended & accusatory at people for having different openness, boundaries, interests and desires than our own at any moment. I believe.
Its also essential in order to not be hypocritical. And to nourish an alive consciousness, continuing to learn & grow through expanding our perspectives & appreciation beyond the stagnating, oppressive limits of "safe space" comfort zone & familiarity.
The limits of any individual persons, ideologies, religious dogma or groups preferences, experiences and acceptance are not the limits of what exists, is valid, beautiful, loving, healthfully creative and natural. Even our own at any moment.
This is why I discuss such. Because it's an area where such foundational understanding & respect for each others freedom & humanity is often drown out by the loudness of some peoples & ideologies negative projections.
An area where more reflective, non-hypocritical, mutual freedom respecting perspectives and honest open communicating, ways of feeling & relating is a far more healthy, harmonious, honest and loving way of being, relating & contributing to life. 💗☯
Certain belief systems, ideologies & individuals who people who identify with such as their ways of interpreting, feelings & relating, choose to feel appreciative and comfortable or unappreciative and uncomfortable relative to the same experiences.
Same experience - different interpretations and resulting feelings & reactions.
When I began giving massages years ago, I discovered that a large percentage of women ( the majority of people who request & receive massages from me tend to be women ) take a much more open attitude & desires about their natural body & affection than my own default boundaries & comfort at the time, generally or in that context or with them. Or is generally considered "appropriate" or "normal" by more conservative minded people & social attitudes.
Some such women are respectful of my boundaries even when I choose to maintain certain boundaries with them in massage context & generally.
Some unfortunately choose to relate with less integrity, by attempting to make threats, passive aggressively manipulate & lie to try to get what they want and / or hide their behaviors.
Some negatively project, misinterpret & misrepresent as something "offensive" or negative, my loving & integrity affirming mutually respectful open honesty about such facts, about the diversity of perspectives, boundaries & openness and my expressing my boundary requiring mutual open honest communicating generally & about their boundaries & expectations with me before expecting me to understand & thereby equally respect such so that I may.
And some understand & respect my open honesty & request for such about this as the mutually clarifying, respectful, freedom affirming & loving way of being & relating it actually is.
Just because I am not knee jerk negatively reactive to people who express openness to & desires from me for ways of sensual & sexual affection that I may not be open to with them or generally, doesn't mean I choose to give or relate in such ways in massage or any context. With them or anyone.
As long as people are mature & mutually respectfully honest enough to own their projections, feelings, not violate my stated boundaries & attempt to lie ( which I will not tolerate ), I am respectful of many diverse perspectives & people who have them even when different from my own.
Being appreciative of & not reacting negatively, accusatory to offers & ways of relating even such ways are different from ones own personal preferences, boundaries and comfort in any moment, context or with specific person, is a foundational choice of being a sane, non-hypocritical, diversity respecting, loving human being.
And its wise to remember the fact that whatever we choose to believe & feel is natural, good, appropriate, kind to offer, do, experience & explore in specific contexts, there are people who view such as offensive, wrong, uncomfortable, weird, etc..
Do you want them to react with arrogant oppressive hate, negative accusations and demands that you be censored, punished or otherwise negatively treated for daring to be comfortable and open to what they are not?
Likely not.
Likely you want them to respect your freedom?. And for them to own their individual equal responsibility to simply proactively & responsively directly tell you if they have a boundary or preference while relating with you in any way exactly what, when & where it is before expecting you to understand & equally respect such?.
While equally respecting your freedom & not expecting you to be a future predicting mind reader.
Are we relating with such basic open honesty & respect for each others freedom & as we want to receive? In principle. As this is what earns kindred treatment. ☯️💗
This is why I sometimes openly share about topics like honesty, sensuality, sexuality, freedom and even in connection with massages. Not because I have no personal boundaries generally & with individuals.
I do have boundaries for how I relate & give massages & time I charge & accept money for. Generally and relative to synergy with specific individuals.
Such as for anything I consider overtly sexual relating, I prefer reserving giving for & sharing such openness with someone I'm open to & trust is mutually into at least nurturing an ongoing affectionate, honest friendship with me.
Even what I consider sensual relating, still there needs to be some baseline of mutual respect, appreciation, honesty & nurturing an ongoing connection even if primarily in massage contexts.
Open honest, exploratory communicating, discussions & mutual respect for each others equal humanity & freedom is far more healthy and harmonious than choosing to negatively project, feel & act offended & accusatory at people for having different openness, boundaries, interests and desires than our own at any moment. I believe.
Its also essential in order to not be hypocritical. And to nourish an alive consciousness, continuing to learn & grow through expanding our perspectives & appreciation beyond the stagnating, oppressive limits of "safe space" comfort zone & familiarity.
The limits of any individual persons, ideologies, religious dogma or groups preferences, experiences and acceptance are not the limits of what exists, is valid, beautiful, loving, healthfully creative and natural. Even our own at any moment.
This is why I discuss such. Because it's an area where such foundational understanding & respect for each others freedom & humanity is often drown out by the loudness of some peoples & ideologies negative projections.
An area where more reflective, non-hypocritical, mutual freedom respecting perspectives and honest open communicating, ways of feeling & relating is a far more healthy, harmonious, honest and loving way of being, relating & contributing to life. 💗☯
TFL stretch. Foam rolling is not a cure-all.
Tight hips, it band, hip & knee pain? Foam rolling everything is not always the helpful answer.
Foam rolling, using massage tools & pounding away on iliotibial band is something many people assume will help and try to use to resolve hip & thigh pain.
A massage client of mine who daily walks & jogs hilly areas of San Francisco, has had lateral & anterior thigh & iliotibial band pain & excess tension. Eventually they revealed they have been diligently using an electric massage tool along their whole iliotibial band as well as hip & thighs.
However the iliotibial band is mostly dense fascia connective tissue. With the actual muscle belly connecting at the top most portion and the gluteus maximus, posteriorly. Using foam rolling & percussive tools on the iliotibial band can aggravate it, creating more pain, soreness, inflammation and tension than it resolves.
Focusing massage, stretching, strengthening, foam rolling & using tennis balls into the muscles rather than the dense fascial iliotibial band will usually provide more effective treatment.
Foam rolling, using massage tools & pounding away on iliotibial band is something many people assume will help and try to use to resolve hip & thigh pain.
A massage client of mine who daily walks & jogs hilly areas of San Francisco, has had lateral & anterior thigh & iliotibial band pain & excess tension. Eventually they revealed they have been diligently using an electric massage tool along their whole iliotibial band as well as hip & thighs.
However the iliotibial band is mostly dense fascia connective tissue. With the actual muscle belly connecting at the top most portion and the gluteus maximus, posteriorly. Using foam rolling & percussive tools on the iliotibial band can aggravate it, creating more pain, soreness, inflammation and tension than it resolves.
Focusing massage, stretching, strengthening, foam rolling & using tennis balls into the muscles rather than the dense fascial iliotibial band will usually provide more effective treatment.
Mellow taiji sword flow in nature ☯️🌲💗
Harmonizing present moment & expansive awareness.
An essential aspect of enjoying the present, includes nourishing our honest, appreciative awareness of & ways of communicating & relating with beings we connect with.
Even when we are not directly in physical presence with each other at the moment, we still love & respect each other by proactively & responsively appreciatively making time to follow through with communicating, agreements & relating.
Blending honest present moment & place focus with expansive relational awareness. This affirms our own integrity, trustworthiness, empathy, love & beauty as well..
☯️💗
Even when we are not directly in physical presence with each other at the moment, we still love & respect each other by proactively & responsively appreciatively making time to follow through with communicating, agreements & relating.
Blending honest present moment & place focus with expansive relational awareness. This affirms our own integrity, trustworthiness, empathy, love & beauty as well..
☯️💗
💗☯️ Appreciatively receiving attentively slow, loving nurturing touch - massage is a completely natural & healthy need & aspect of thriving. Especially in a consistent, frequent basis.
💗☯️ Appreciatively receiving attentively slow, loving nurturing touch - massages is a completely natural & healthy need & aspect of thriving. Especially in a consistent, frequent basis.
Unfortunately & destructively, some individuals, parts of society, news & other media and social trends directly & covertly promote & even virtue signal dismissive, neglectful & even shaming attitudes, interpretations, feelings & behaviors about such natural affection, our natural sensual bodies, the natural complimentary harmony of appreciative male - female / yang - yin beings & energies, and consistently prioritizing time for such experiences.
However we can choose to be healthier than those unnatural ideas & trends. We are free human beings.
Our freedom is not something we must ask or beg someone else or some institution, religion or other human made organization for, it is our natural life given right.
Remembering & respecting this in how we view & relate with ourselves & each other is a foundation of a healthy, honest, loving & freedom respecting life.
💗☯️🗽
Unfortunately & destructively, some individuals, parts of society, news & other media and social trends directly & covertly promote & even virtue signal dismissive, neglectful & even shaming attitudes, interpretations, feelings & behaviors about such natural affection, our natural sensual bodies, the natural complimentary harmony of appreciative male - female / yang - yin beings & energies, and consistently prioritizing time for such experiences.
However we can choose to be healthier than those unnatural ideas & trends. We are free human beings.
Our freedom is not something we must ask or beg someone else or some institution, religion or other human made organization for, it is our natural life given right.
Remembering & respecting this in how we view & relate with ourselves & each other is a foundation of a healthy, honest, loving & freedom respecting life.
💗☯️🗽
Honesty, authenticity, popularity, integrity ☯️💗
Do we prioritize honesty, authenticity, integrity, love, natural healthy sensual embodiment and freedom of thought more, equal with or less than popularity, lying by omission or commission to present an "acceptable" pc public mask, social climbing & money obtained through the latter?
Does money, social acceptance & popularity matter more than & compensate for sacrificing being & relating with oneself, each other & life overall with trustworthy open honesty, freedom & intimacy?
So much of what is expressed in society, in entertainment & "news" media, by politicians, ideological & religious promoters, in most workplaces, even among individuals generally and in families and other personal relationships, is often posturing.
People presenting a crafted image to display to others. Hiding parts of their true beliefs, feelings, behaviors & intentions to attempt to sway peoples ideas, feelings & behaviors in certain ways.
Motives may be to gain or retain a type of status, jobs, money, social acceptance, avoidance of truth, among others.
How much of such attitudes & behaviors become a baseline of being & relating for individuals, groups & parts of society? For oneself?
It's worth deeply honestly investigating, recognizing, admitting & transforming in ourselves such inauthentic, dishonest & superficial ways of being & relating where they may have developed.
It is worthwhile to risk losing or never receiving popular acceptance & "likes" from the masses, more money, incongruent & dishonest jobs & relationships, to be as honestly, intimately embodyingly present, loving & sincere as possible in the only time that exists - now. In our relationship with ourself, each other & life overall. ☯️💗🗽
Does money, social acceptance & popularity matter more than & compensate for sacrificing being & relating with oneself, each other & life overall with trustworthy open honesty, freedom & intimacy?
So much of what is expressed in society, in entertainment & "news" media, by politicians, ideological & religious promoters, in most workplaces, even among individuals generally and in families and other personal relationships, is often posturing.
People presenting a crafted image to display to others. Hiding parts of their true beliefs, feelings, behaviors & intentions to attempt to sway peoples ideas, feelings & behaviors in certain ways.
Motives may be to gain or retain a type of status, jobs, money, social acceptance, avoidance of truth, among others.
How much of such attitudes & behaviors become a baseline of being & relating for individuals, groups & parts of society? For oneself?
It's worth deeply honestly investigating, recognizing, admitting & transforming in ourselves such inauthentic, dishonest & superficial ways of being & relating where they may have developed.
It is worthwhile to risk losing or never receiving popular acceptance & "likes" from the masses, more money, incongruent & dishonest jobs & relationships, to be as honestly, intimately embodyingly present, loving & sincere as possible in the only time that exists - now. In our relationship with ourself, each other & life overall. ☯️💗🗽
Appreciatively slow, feel & enjoy loving affection.
Extend sexual sensual affection with massage. I recently heard someone mention they typically only relate sexually for 30 minutes to an hour at a time. Not that there is anything wrong with that.
Though in my experience & opinion, especially when blending sensually nurturing massage with sexual affection, relating for 2-5 hours or so at a time with a mutually appreciatively open, resonant woman is deeply nourishing and natural. Preferable.
Part of what is beautiful about giving more time to relate in these ways, is allowing opening more fully into a slow, meditatively relaxing, timeless presence. Releasing any goal focused rushing & anxiousness. Appreciatively being fully present in the fluid moment. Ebbing & flowing. Edging near orgasm and extending the pleasurable energy, allowing this to swell & fill ones whole being & nourish oneself and each other with this. ☯️💗
Though in my experience & opinion, especially when blending sensually nurturing massage with sexual affection, relating for 2-5 hours or so at a time with a mutually appreciatively open, resonant woman is deeply nourishing and natural. Preferable.
Part of what is beautiful about giving more time to relate in these ways, is allowing opening more fully into a slow, meditatively relaxing, timeless presence. Releasing any goal focused rushing & anxiousness. Appreciatively being fully present in the fluid moment. Ebbing & flowing. Edging near orgasm and extending the pleasurable energy, allowing this to swell & fill ones whole being & nourish oneself and each other with this. ☯️💗
Sensually embodying honesty, love, appreciation ☯️💗
💗☯️🌲 Shamelessly enjoy fully merging soul with our beautifully healthy, naturally sensually embodying nature while incarnate.
Contrary to prudish, hypocritical, hateful & fearful shaming & falsely accusatory beliefs, ideologies & people who blindly spew them, including prioritizing abundant lovingly sensually ( and sexually) nurturing experiences is natural, healthy & nurturing.
Both solitarily and with healthy, mutually appreciatively open & honest beings of naturally complimentary ( yin - yang ) gender ☯️💗.
Contrary to prudish, hypocritical, hateful & fearful shaming & falsely accusatory beliefs, ideologies & people who blindly spew them, including prioritizing abundant lovingly sensually ( and sexually) nurturing experiences is natural, healthy & nurturing.
Both solitarily and with healthy, mutually appreciatively open & honest beings of naturally complimentary ( yin - yang ) gender ☯️💗.
Moments of tai chi zhan zhuang standing embodied meditation. Press variation. ☯️
☯️ Moving slowly & standing in smoothly aligned relative stillness, allows time - space for our fascia to adapt, reduces damage - injury to fascia, muscles, ligaments & tendons. And nourishes sensually sensitive present now embodying presence among additional benefits.
Opening latissimus muscles. Release shoulder, neck & back.
One option for helping release excess tightness, pain & off center torsion in latissimus, back, shoulder, neck & hip.
Given the interconnectedness of muscles & fascia affected by this opening positioning- stretch, breathing can become easier. Forward rounding shoulders from tight lats internally rotating the humerus ( upper arm bone ) relaxes.
Opening - releasing pectoral muscles & fascia in front is also usually supportive. Lower rhomboids, infraspinatus, trees minor may also need strengthening? This may also aide release of some overly tight neck muscles, by allowing upper arms & shoulders to release back from overly contracted position to a more neutral position. 💗☯️
This is an area I have a fair amount of tension, as apparent.
( This video is sped up. Go slow & enjoy the process. 💙 )
Given the interconnectedness of muscles & fascia affected by this opening positioning- stretch, breathing can become easier. Forward rounding shoulders from tight lats internally rotating the humerus ( upper arm bone ) relaxes.
Opening - releasing pectoral muscles & fascia in front is also usually supportive. Lower rhomboids, infraspinatus, trees minor may also need strengthening? This may also aide release of some overly tight neck muscles, by allowing upper arms & shoulders to release back from overly contracted position to a more neutral position. 💗☯️
This is an area I have a fair amount of tension, as apparent.
( This video is sped up. Go slow & enjoy the process. 💙 )
Impermanence balanced with love & honesty.
Everything we do and our physical lives will, relatively sooner or later, cease to exist. And still what we do, how we are & relate, matters.
Being honest, loving, nurturing with ourselves and in ways & with whom we mutually choose, still matters as long as we are alive. ☯️💙💙
Being honest, loving, nurturing with ourselves and in ways & with whom we mutually choose, still matters as long as we are alive. ☯️💙💙
Honesty is a choice & process.
Honesty is a choice & process. 💙☯️
Being honest with ourself & each other is both a choice to be, communicate & relate proactively & responsively openly honestly generally & about any questions, feelings, boundaries, needs, preferences, etc. with whoever such is related to.
Honesty is also a process. In the sense that by choosing to be fully honest in exploring our, perhaps multilayered, assumptions, fears, feelings, desires, beliefs, expectations & needs about our life, including with anyone we relate with in any ways, we can develop deepening understanding about our beliefs, feelings & how we are & relate, react & respond to life & individuals.
We can discover if some unconscious or conscious assumptions are accurate or inaccurate. If the intentions someone has are similar or different to what we may think or feel.
Along with discovering nuances and alternatives to our own & others initial interpretations, feelings & behaviors, which may be more authentic and cocreate deeper mutual understanding, love, respect & harmony for ourselves & interpersonally.
This is, in my opinion, also what creates true intimacy including within sensual & sexual affection.
Sexual intimacy that is truly nurturing, healing & healthfully pleasurable, that is worthwhile, arises from & is enriched by both people choosing to appreciatively communicate & relate in such openly honest ways together.
Because both genuinely care about each others being, interests, fears, what they value & enjoy, etc.. And know this mutual openness creates true intimacy, which physical affection is an expression & nourishing of. 💗
By honestly openly proactively & responsively showing up, communicating & relating we dive beneath surface, knee jerk avoidant, fearful and superficial patterns of thoughts, feelings & relating.
Attuning to essence, beautiful vulnerability & authenticity. Discovering & allowing space to nourish what we really believe, feel, want and helping each other in this process.
Being honest with ourself & each other is both a choice to be, communicate & relate proactively & responsively openly honestly generally & about any questions, feelings, boundaries, needs, preferences, etc. with whoever such is related to.
Honesty is also a process. In the sense that by choosing to be fully honest in exploring our, perhaps multilayered, assumptions, fears, feelings, desires, beliefs, expectations & needs about our life, including with anyone we relate with in any ways, we can develop deepening understanding about our beliefs, feelings & how we are & relate, react & respond to life & individuals.
We can discover if some unconscious or conscious assumptions are accurate or inaccurate. If the intentions someone has are similar or different to what we may think or feel.
Along with discovering nuances and alternatives to our own & others initial interpretations, feelings & behaviors, which may be more authentic and cocreate deeper mutual understanding, love, respect & harmony for ourselves & interpersonally.
This is, in my opinion, also what creates true intimacy including within sensual & sexual affection.
Sexual intimacy that is truly nurturing, healing & healthfully pleasurable, that is worthwhile, arises from & is enriched by both people choosing to appreciatively communicate & relate in such openly honest ways together.
Because both genuinely care about each others being, interests, fears, what they value & enjoy, etc.. And know this mutual openness creates true intimacy, which physical affection is an expression & nourishing of. 💗
By honestly openly proactively & responsively showing up, communicating & relating we dive beneath surface, knee jerk avoidant, fearful and superficial patterns of thoughts, feelings & relating.
Attuning to essence, beautiful vulnerability & authenticity. Discovering & allowing space to nourish what we really believe, feel, want and helping each other in this process.
What we know & are facile in. And what is beyond.
No matter what we do, learn & know, there is even more we are not as or at all skilled in, knowledgeable about or experienced with. It's part of the nature of living in a world with such an abundance of expanding potentials, realities & inventions on multidimensional levels.
As long as we are sincerely honest, lovingly intentioned & explore learning & nourishing facility in some realm(s) which harmoniously resonate with us, this is "enough". We & others need not be "perfect", skilled in & know everything.
Sometimes its helpful to remind ourselves and those we love of this truth. ☯️💗
As long as we are sincerely honest, lovingly intentioned & explore learning & nourishing facility in some realm(s) which harmoniously resonate with us, this is "enough". We & others need not be "perfect", skilled in & know everything.
Sometimes its helpful to remind ourselves and those we love of this truth. ☯️💗
Genuinely love.
Who do you genuinely love? Who genuinely loves you? Are you honest with yourselves & each other? The two are intimately intertwined. Emotional - spiritual DNA. ☯️💗
Nourishing heart & body with massages.
Nourishing our wellness by appreciatively receiving slow, attentively nurturing massages on a consistent basis is a healthy, pleasurable compliment to maintaining a healthy - fit body & lifestyle.
Massages support quieting the mind, opening our heart 💗 & body and transforming stress into calm vitality. And help release muscle & fascial excess tension & restrictions.
Along with simply feeling wonderful.
Massages support quieting the mind, opening our heart 💗 & body and transforming stress into calm vitality. And help release muscle & fascial excess tension & restrictions.
Along with simply feeling wonderful.
☯️🍁💗 Be honest. Evolve beyond confirmation bias, lying & hypocrisy.
☯️🍁💗 Be honest. Evolve beyond confirmation bias, lying & hypocrisy.
This includes ones own, and that of any ideology, group, belief system no matter how popular, politically correct, promoted as for social justice or other buzzwords, cherished & self righteous it is.
Evolve beyond oppressive, truth censoring confirmation biased, bigoted assumptions & due process violating demands to just believe in the guilt or innocence of beings of one gender or skin tone less or more than beings of the complimentary gender or other skin tone.
Admit that all beings of both genders & all skin tones are equally human. Equally capable & expressive of honesty & lying, loving & unloving attitudes & behaviors.
This full equal uncensoring, honest unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability ( and equal love, due process, listening to & protection from abusive passive aggressively & directly manipulative lying & liars) of all beings of both genders & all skin tones is foundational sanity.
It is required to be trustworthy, loving, integral, balanced, clear & harmonious human beings.
This includes ones own, and that of any ideology, group, belief system no matter how popular, politically correct, promoted as for social justice or other buzzwords, cherished & self righteous it is.
Evolve beyond oppressive, truth censoring confirmation biased, bigoted assumptions & due process violating demands to just believe in the guilt or innocence of beings of one gender or skin tone less or more than beings of the complimentary gender or other skin tone.
Admit that all beings of both genders & all skin tones are equally human. Equally capable & expressive of honesty & lying, loving & unloving attitudes & behaviors.
This full equal uncensoring, honest unbiased investigation, admission, responsibility & accountability ( and equal love, due process, listening to & protection from abusive passive aggressively & directly manipulative lying & liars) of all beings of both genders & all skin tones is foundational sanity.
It is required to be trustworthy, loving, integral, balanced, clear & harmonious human beings.
What assumptions do we make about life & relating?
What if the way we assume we must be in an intimate relationship with another human being, is not the only healthy option? What if it is simply an under examined belief?
One perhaps arising from a desire to be perceived as "respectable" by society. At least according to the values we believe are or should be universally held.
So many people who enter into an intimate relationship with another person, default to expecting to move into a shared living situation together.
But this is not a requirement. I propose that maintaining separate living arrangements is a healthy option. Even a healthier way of living for many people. One which supports individuals healthy autonomy.
This doesn't mean we should not ever live with someone we are intimately relating with. Sometimes for some people this arrangement is harmonious for both for a while, even for a lifetime.
Just not if it's an unexamined, knee jerk choice which suffocates one or both individuals core needs, desires and balance of solitude & healthy interpersonal intimacy.
What other assumptions do we make about relationships & life? 💗☯️
One perhaps arising from a desire to be perceived as "respectable" by society. At least according to the values we believe are or should be universally held.
So many people who enter into an intimate relationship with another person, default to expecting to move into a shared living situation together.
But this is not a requirement. I propose that maintaining separate living arrangements is a healthy option. Even a healthier way of living for many people. One which supports individuals healthy autonomy.
This doesn't mean we should not ever live with someone we are intimately relating with. Sometimes for some people this arrangement is harmonious for both for a while, even for a lifetime.
Just not if it's an unexamined, knee jerk choice which suffocates one or both individuals core needs, desires and balance of solitude & healthy interpersonal intimacy.
What other assumptions do we make about relationships & life? 💗☯️
Although most everything & experience is temporary, much is still worthwhile.☯️♏
Although most every thing & experience is temporary, there can still be value in appreciatively including them in our lives.☯️♏
We inhale & exhale, and do it again.
We drink water once. Then again.
It is nourishing & balancing to enjoy moments of exercising and rest.
To take time alone & time with mutually honest, appreciative humans.
As is enjoying times of self contained celibacy & mutually loving affectionate relating with additional healthy humans.
Focusing on specific tasks & just being.
Listening & expressing.
And so on.
Appreciation, honesty & fluid balance are what contribute to experiences being healthy.
Yin & Yang. ☯️
We inhale & exhale, and do it again.
We drink water once. Then again.
It is nourishing & balancing to enjoy moments of exercising and rest.
To take time alone & time with mutually honest, appreciative humans.
As is enjoying times of self contained celibacy & mutually loving affectionate relating with additional healthy humans.
Focusing on specific tasks & just being.
Listening & expressing.
And so on.
Appreciation, honesty & fluid balance are what contribute to experiences being healthy.
Yin & Yang. ☯️
Subjective interpretations, sensuality, appreciation, freedom & honesty.
What do you think of & feel when you hear or read the terms sensual and sensuality? Where do your negative, neutral or positive interpretations and resultant feelings of such terms come from?
Through the years of my being involved with the embodied meditation processes of tai chi & zhan zhuang qigong and massage, I have developed an appreciation for the natural sensuality of being honestly, lovingly present in this world and in a human body. And of the fact that the term, idea & experiential appreciation of lifes natural sensuality is by some people & parts of society unnaturally knee jerk negatively projected onto, feared, shamed and treated with suspicion and false accusations.
My interpretation & meaning of sensuality & sensual does not necessarily equate to sexual or relating sexually with anyone. Although sexuality may include sensuality, it is not necessarily so in the reverse. Contrary to the false assumption I see some people rush to make.
Sensuality can simply be a quality of being fully honestly, open heartedly, nurturingly present in our body. Freed of unnatural but sometimes normalized excess mental, emotional and physical tension, anxiety, fear, hate, suspicion and shame about embodying as humans. And about our natural bodies.
Allowing a calm, quietly appreciative quality of feeling awareness to grow & flow throughout our whole being and in connection with the earth.
Standing in zhan zhuang standing meditation postures, moving slowly attentively and smoothly with tenderness and loving kindness is sensual.
Whether we are doing so solitary such as in tai chi qigong, yoga, etc.. Or also in relation with another person or thing such as through massages, petting an animal, enjoying a savory food or a comforting breeze. And in many other activities when we slow our pace and relate with ourself, life and others in appreciatively attentive, slow & calmly nurturing ways.
Recognizing and expanding beyond any negative assumption connotations & resulting feelings around the term & experiences of natural sensuality is an important part of being fully honestly, appreciatively embodying in this world. It neither requires the inclusion or exclusion of any kind of sexual relating or touching of anyone's genitals for instance, in my opinion.
It is more a quality of being quietly open hearted, appreciatively grounded in ones' earthen body & world while we are alive here. Allowing normalized & excess tension, fear, hate, fear and close hearted attitudes & feelings to dissolve and replacing them with balanced relaxation, appreciation, love and wonder at the beauty of being alive in these natural bodies and world.
Through the years of my being involved with the embodied meditation processes of tai chi & zhan zhuang qigong and massage, I have developed an appreciation for the natural sensuality of being honestly, lovingly present in this world and in a human body. And of the fact that the term, idea & experiential appreciation of lifes natural sensuality is by some people & parts of society unnaturally knee jerk negatively projected onto, feared, shamed and treated with suspicion and false accusations.
My interpretation & meaning of sensuality & sensual does not necessarily equate to sexual or relating sexually with anyone. Although sexuality may include sensuality, it is not necessarily so in the reverse. Contrary to the false assumption I see some people rush to make.
Sensuality can simply be a quality of being fully honestly, open heartedly, nurturingly present in our body. Freed of unnatural but sometimes normalized excess mental, emotional and physical tension, anxiety, fear, hate, suspicion and shame about embodying as humans. And about our natural bodies.
Allowing a calm, quietly appreciative quality of feeling awareness to grow & flow throughout our whole being and in connection with the earth.
Standing in zhan zhuang standing meditation postures, moving slowly attentively and smoothly with tenderness and loving kindness is sensual.
Whether we are doing so solitary such as in tai chi qigong, yoga, etc.. Or also in relation with another person or thing such as through massages, petting an animal, enjoying a savory food or a comforting breeze. And in many other activities when we slow our pace and relate with ourself, life and others in appreciatively attentive, slow & calmly nurturing ways.
Recognizing and expanding beyond any negative assumption connotations & resulting feelings around the term & experiences of natural sensuality is an important part of being fully honestly, appreciatively embodying in this world. It neither requires the inclusion or exclusion of any kind of sexual relating or touching of anyone's genitals for instance, in my opinion.
It is more a quality of being quietly open hearted, appreciatively grounded in ones' earthen body & world while we are alive here. Allowing normalized & excess tension, fear, hate, fear and close hearted attitudes & feelings to dissolve and replacing them with balanced relaxation, appreciation, love and wonder at the beauty of being alive in these natural bodies and world.
Natural harmony of yang-yin / male-female ☯️💗
Being honest, balanced & lovingly embodying, includes deeply appreciating the natural, mutually nourishing harmony of complimentary yin - yang qualities in ourself. In life.
And in many ways the uniquely complimentary, nurturing & revitalizing nature of loving sensual relating with mutually honest, healthy & appreciative beings of the complimentary gender.
Contrary to unnatural but sometimes normalized shaming, false accusations, fear & related negative projections of minds blinded by such negative ideas & resultant feelings. Healthy, honest & appreciative men & women naturally subtly energize & nourish each other. Through the innate harmonizing nature of our sensually embodying complimentary yin & yang, female & male polarities. ☯️💗
As we are muscles, fascia, bone, skin...yes.
And also we are at deep levels sensually embodying an internal harmony of polarity. And one polarity & gender primarily relationally in this life to learn to enjoy & to relate mutually honestly, harmoniously & lovingly. 💗😂☯️
Being, exploring & creating love, beauty & meaning 💗☯️
It is a choice. Be honest.
Do you appreciate the natural loving sensuality of embodying in this world?
💗☯️🍁
Do you appreciate the natural loving sensuality of healthfully embodying in this world? 💗☯️🍁
Have you not taken on, or transformed beyond what you did learn from, social, ideological, religious & personal negative projecting shame, guilt,
fear, hate and discomfort?
Related to natural loving, healthy sensual embodiment & affection with mutually appreciatively & honest beings.
The more we appreciate such, the deeper clarity, and more healthful & pleasurable is our spiritual - earthly harmonious embodiment.
Have you not taken on, or transformed beyond what you did learn from, social, ideological, religious & personal negative projecting shame, guilt,
fear, hate and discomfort?
Related to natural loving, healthy sensual embodiment & affection with mutually appreciatively & honest beings.
The more we appreciate such, the deeper clarity, and more healthful & pleasurable is our spiritual - earthly harmonious embodiment.
☯️ Balancing relative stillness with appreciation
Do you allow yourself to enjoy embodying being in focused relative stillness?
Allowing space - time for this is a nourishing balance to a frequently physically & mentally busy lifestyle. And in general.
This hones our quality of focused embodying presence. Allowing us to attune into, feel, deepen and enjoy the essence of being.
Relaxing normalized excess unitive tension & transforming beyond the grip of knee jerk short sighted negative interpretations, feelings & behaviors.
Open heart 💗.
Fluidity balancing with rooted connection with earth.
Allowing space - time for this is a nourishing balance to a frequently physically & mentally busy lifestyle. And in general.
This hones our quality of focused embodying presence. Allowing us to attune into, feel, deepen and enjoy the essence of being.
Relaxing normalized excess unitive tension & transforming beyond the grip of knee jerk short sighted negative interpretations, feelings & behaviors.
Open heart 💗.
Fluidity balancing with rooted connection with earth.
Equality. Honesty. Love.
Do you equally appreciatively view, interpret, give equal uncensored & unbiased listening to, belief, empathy, love, support & protection of boys & men from abusive lying manipulative beings of both genders and society, as you give and demand girls & women receive?
If so, then honesty, true equality, love & clear understanding is what you embody, support and deserve equal love & respect. ☯️💗
If not, then honesty, true equality, integrity, love & clear understanding is what you are against, oppressive & censoring of.
Either way, you deserve to be viewed & treated equally to how you view, listen to, believe, love and support protection of boys & men. ☯️
If so, then honesty, true equality, love & clear understanding is what you embody, support and deserve equal love & respect. ☯️💗
If not, then honesty, true equality, integrity, love & clear understanding is what you are against, oppressive & censoring of.
Either way, you deserve to be viewed & treated equally to how you view, listen to, believe, love and support protection of boys & men. ☯️
Soul, flesh & bone.
Our bodies are not merely flesh & bone. We are sensualizing life, spirit, soul...We embody Love, honesty & creativity when we choose to.
Appreciating this fact enriches our experience of & contributions to life 💙☯️
Appreciating this fact enriches our experience of & contributions to life 💙☯️
Do you give what you want to receive? Be honest, loving, freedom affirming☯️💗🗽
We deserve what we give. To be integral, deserving of trust, love, honesty, care and to be sane, we must equally be & relate fully openly honest, loving, freedom affirming, respectfully with people who have similiar & different lifestyle & relational preferences.
Not negatively projecting, relating in passive aggressively or directly manipulative lying, falsley accusatory, theiving ways. Not knee jerk rushing to negatively project, interpret, feel & claim offense, abuse, etc just because one is faced with facts such as one's own or others personal, religious & ideological assumptions, limits of understanding, appreciation & boundaries are not the only equally valid ones.
.
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Simply self responsibly proactively & responsibly honestly directy stating any preferences, boundaries, feelings, expectations one has with anyone in any specific moment before expecting to have such equally understood & respected.
While equally respecting other different perspectives, defaults, openness, perspectives and people open to & viewing such as natural. ☯️
Tell the full truth.
Tell the full truth about oneself, ones actions, intentions, boundaries, behaviors, assumptions, etc..
This is required to be a trustworthy, integral, loving and sane human being 🌍💗☯️
This is required to be a trustworthy, integral, loving and sane human being 🌍💗☯️
As long as we are openly honest & loving intentioned, we are not responsible for others negative interpretations, feelings & behaviors.
☯️💙Just because we are & relate in authentic honest, loving ways & trust others to be honestly communicative as well, and we respond accordingly in trust of them and that they will respect our clearly stated boundaries & equal humanity, does not mean everyone will appreciate & feel positively all the time about us & experiences.
Some people will unfortunately still negatively project their own changing moods, issues, false negative assumptions, biased beliefs & interpretations. Even relate in passive aggressively and directly misleading, dishonest ways, feel negatively from the effects of doing so & maybe even abusively falsely blame those they relate to in such misleading ways for the effects of such. Sometimes consciously & sometimes subconsciously.
It's unfortunate and needlessly creates problems, misunderstandings, disharmony & negativity when people do so. And when such negative projections are mistaken as being the reality & fault of and from those of us honest, loving intentioned human beings who are subjected to such.
It's co-creates a beautiful, mutually respectful, harmonious synergy when we are and relate with individuals who also are maturely self-responsible, self aware & honest enough for each to own our own equal individual responsibility for our subjective interpretations, preferences, perspectives and feelings.
And for proactively & responsively honestly directly stating any boundaries, feelings, assumptions, preferences & expectations we have with anyone at any time before expecting them to understand & equally respect such. Not doing so passive aggressively or directly creates confusion and abusively misleads honest, trusting, loving human beings accordingly.
Especially when, as I do with everyone I relate with when first meeting in massage and many other contexts, people are directly asked or told to simply communicate in such direct openly honest, mutually respectful ways for mutual clarity & respect. Since of course there are diverse ways of interpreting, appreciating and enjoying the same experiences & people, and I am not a future predicting mind reader.
It is a foundational quality & expression of sanity, mutual respect and clarity for individuals, for all of us, to own any internal wars, conflicts, negative associations, boundaries, feelings, prejudices & projections rather than projecting them out onto & falsely blaming other individuals & experiences for such. As one would likely prefer people do when relating with oneself.
As many experiences & people can be & are interpreted & thus felt & experienced in diverse, neutral to positive ways depending on ones subconscious & conscious associations, preferences, biases, limits or expansiveness of appreciation. This is what allows us all to co-create clear honesty, mutual understanding, respect and harmonious relational experiences of all kinds.
Embodying the fact that life and relational experiences can indeed be & are beautiful, mutually respectful, freedom affirming & diverse.
☯️💗
Some people will unfortunately still negatively project their own changing moods, issues, false negative assumptions, biased beliefs & interpretations. Even relate in passive aggressively and directly misleading, dishonest ways, feel negatively from the effects of doing so & maybe even abusively falsely blame those they relate to in such misleading ways for the effects of such. Sometimes consciously & sometimes subconsciously.
It's unfortunate and needlessly creates problems, misunderstandings, disharmony & negativity when people do so. And when such negative projections are mistaken as being the reality & fault of and from those of us honest, loving intentioned human beings who are subjected to such.
It's co-creates a beautiful, mutually respectful, harmonious synergy when we are and relate with individuals who also are maturely self-responsible, self aware & honest enough for each to own our own equal individual responsibility for our subjective interpretations, preferences, perspectives and feelings.
And for proactively & responsively honestly directly stating any boundaries, feelings, assumptions, preferences & expectations we have with anyone at any time before expecting them to understand & equally respect such. Not doing so passive aggressively or directly creates confusion and abusively misleads honest, trusting, loving human beings accordingly.
Especially when, as I do with everyone I relate with when first meeting in massage and many other contexts, people are directly asked or told to simply communicate in such direct openly honest, mutually respectful ways for mutual clarity & respect. Since of course there are diverse ways of interpreting, appreciating and enjoying the same experiences & people, and I am not a future predicting mind reader.
It is a foundational quality & expression of sanity, mutual respect and clarity for individuals, for all of us, to own any internal wars, conflicts, negative associations, boundaries, feelings, prejudices & projections rather than projecting them out onto & falsely blaming other individuals & experiences for such. As one would likely prefer people do when relating with oneself.
As many experiences & people can be & are interpreted & thus felt & experienced in diverse, neutral to positive ways depending on ones subconscious & conscious associations, preferences, biases, limits or expansiveness of appreciation. This is what allows us all to co-create clear honesty, mutual understanding, respect and harmonious relational experiences of all kinds.
Embodying the fact that life and relational experiences can indeed be & are beautiful, mutually respectful, freedom affirming & diverse.
☯️💗
Loving harmonious relationships
Life, we and human relationships are beautiful, harmonious & loving when we are appreciative & exploratory, respecting of our own & each others freedom, mutually openly honest & self responsibly honestly communicative of our subjective boundaries feelings beliefs & expectations in order to co create mutual understanding. 💙☯️
Moments of zhan zhuang standing embodied meditation ☯️💙
Moments of zhan zhuang standing embodied meditation ☯️💙 Relatively externally simple processes such as zhan zhuang can still nourish core healthful essence, honest awareness, harmony, subtle sensually 💗 loving embodiment and quietly clear balanced awareness. Among additional benefits.
Love & be fully openly honest with ourself and each other in the only time that exists - now. Life is fleeting. 💗♏🌲
Unique in ways as we are, we also share some commonalities.
Including a natural autonomy, affinity for being & sharing loving appreciation, and being a part of universal essence - source - God/dess - Life.
This is a furry friend I met while enjoying some qigong at China Camp park. He or she had been observing me for close to 30 minutes.
Including a natural autonomy, affinity for being & sharing loving appreciation, and being a part of universal essence - source - God/dess - Life.
This is a furry friend I met while enjoying some qigong at China Camp park. He or she had been observing me for close to 30 minutes.
Foundational truth & love.
Honest, sane, true equality supportive, non-racist, non-sexist individuals and belief systems never assume, expect or demand assumption of any individuals innocence or guilt, abusiveness or being a victim, honesty or dishonesty, integrity or lack thereof, because of gossip nor beliefs about their gender or skin tone they were born with.
This is a foundational truth. Love 💜
This is a foundational truth. Love 💜
Horse stance zhan zhuang.
Transcend censorship, personal & ideological biases.
Transcend censorship, personal & ideological biases.
To discover, embody & support truth, honesty, true equality of rights balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts of all beings of both genders & all ethnicities.
And thereby embody & promote true equality, understanding, love 💙 & trustworthiness.
To discover, embody & support truth, honesty, true equality of rights balanced & earned by equal unbiased investigation, responsibility & accountability in all ways & contexts of all beings of both genders & all ethnicities.
And thereby embody & promote true equality, understanding, love 💙 & trustworthiness.
"Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety."
Any individuals, institutions or groups who would attempt to violate - deny any other individuals natural human & constitutional rights & freedoms generally & of association, working, earning income, to try to force anyone to cater to their fears and oppressive demands for "safety" at the expense of our human & constitutional rights & freedom, are abusively oppressively violating of individuals human & constitutional rights, freedom & liberty & deserve to be treated accordingly. This is not up for debate. Only abusively oppressive tyrants & dictatorships pretend otherwise.
Healthy, natural life, creativity & freedom does not meekly tolerate attempts to be bound or controlled by any individuals or ideologies subjective fear and hate based "safe space" oppressive demands.
"Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." - Ben Franklin.
Healthy, natural life, creativity & freedom does not meekly tolerate attempts to be bound or controlled by any individuals or ideologies subjective fear and hate based "safe space" oppressive demands.
"Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." - Ben Franklin.
Appreciation & honesty is foundation of integrity, spiritual maturity & Love.
Appreciating what we do and the many equally valid, loving ways of exploring life, including naturally sensual spiritual being, relating and creativity, reveals & nurtures the heart 💜 of our consciousness & Life.
Choose to appreciate the neutral, loving, beautiful, nurturing, honest and playful exploratory nature of natural sensual - spiritual qualities of being & ways of relating.
Rather than negatively interpreting & projecting & thereby feeing offended, uncomfortable or traumatized ( ultimately really just by ones choice to interpret and react negatively).
For in choosing the former
we become mature, open minded, trustworthy honest, non-hypocritical, emotionally self responsible and loving beings & relate as such.
It's a choice to react with unloving hate, shame and negative accusations to people's expressions, offers & openness of natural, kindly intentioned ways of human relating.
Which is why different people, and same people when choosing to, choose to interpret same experiences neutrally to positively.
Such as shame free embodiment of natural sensual spiritual 💗 qualities of being.
Appreciating the kindness & naturalness of both men & women equally being open to, offering & sharing ( up to any proactively honestly stated boundaries if told them ) nurturing sensual & sexual affection and open honest relating in diverse ways & contexts.
Rather than reacting with unloving hateful, passive aggressive manipulative lying, hypocritical shaming, negative projections & false accusations.
When we open our heart, mind & body to our own direct unity with honest 💗 life source energy & our shared humanity, we naturally transform dogmatic, shame fueled interpretations & feelings, into freedom respecting, loving sensually liberated embodied spiritual luminance for ourselves and each other equally. 🌍
Choose to appreciate the neutral, loving, beautiful, nurturing, honest and playful exploratory nature of natural sensual - spiritual qualities of being & ways of relating.
Rather than negatively interpreting & projecting & thereby feeing offended, uncomfortable or traumatized ( ultimately really just by ones choice to interpret and react negatively).
For in choosing the former
we become mature, open minded, trustworthy honest, non-hypocritical, emotionally self responsible and loving beings & relate as such.
It's a choice to react with unloving hate, shame and negative accusations to people's expressions, offers & openness of natural, kindly intentioned ways of human relating.
Which is why different people, and same people when choosing to, choose to interpret same experiences neutrally to positively.
Such as shame free embodiment of natural sensual spiritual 💗 qualities of being.
Appreciating the kindness & naturalness of both men & women equally being open to, offering & sharing ( up to any proactively honestly stated boundaries if told them ) nurturing sensual & sexual affection and open honest relating in diverse ways & contexts.
Rather than reacting with unloving hateful, passive aggressive manipulative lying, hypocritical shaming, negative projections & false accusations.
When we open our heart, mind & body to our own direct unity with honest 💗 life source energy & our shared humanity, we naturally transform dogmatic, shame fueled interpretations & feelings, into freedom respecting, loving sensually liberated embodied spiritual luminance for ourselves and each other equally. 🌍
What the h#&!are we doing here? Why do we even exist?
What the h#&!are we doing here? Why do we even exist? Are we dreaming? Does it matter? What constitutes a worthwhile, appropriate, meaningful life? Does meaning even matter? And who decides for who? Who decides that? If you decide for me & others than it's non-hypocritically fair & equal that I & others decide for you and vice versa...😮😶🤔🤣🤣😷👍💗💫
Seriously..with a twinkling spacious grin in our vision... We make so much of meaning up.
It's why there is such a creative multitude of different philosophies, religions, views of morality, defaults of sexual & other relational openness, boundaries, desires,, interests, lifestyles, ways of interpreting the same experiences.
In my opinion at the moment of writing this, I believe there are a few core, foundational choices to living a healthy, integral, loving 💗 sane life.
* Honesty. Not relating with manipulative passive aggressive nor direct dishonesty - lying - false accusations & negative projections. Which requires owning ones own negative interpretations, projections & related feelings. Communicating any personal expectations, boundaries, feelings and thoughts self responsibly directly proactively & responsively honestly with anyone one relates with & wants to have such known & respected by. So as to co-create mutual understanding & respect in this diverse reality.
* Respect self responsibly directly clearly proactively stated boundaries of each other when so told & understood.
* Appreciatively taking care of our embodying wellness. We need not be ultra athletes, but at least don't willfully destroy our body with cigarettes, hard drugs, obesity, etc.. Do some kind of healthy exercise. Appreciate the naturalness of our sensualizing being. * Be more inquisitive & curious than dogmatic about most beliefs, attitudes, ways of living, loving & exploring.
* Respect our own & each others freedom to be both kindred & unique. Even when / if we or others choose to interpret other experiences and individuals in ways we feel uncomfortable, foreign, odd, don't like. As we likely want our freedom to be, relate & explore likewise respected by others who feel uncomfortable, offended, negatively about their interpretations of such...
* Be kind to ourself & each other.
Seriously..with a twinkling spacious grin in our vision... We make so much of meaning up.
It's why there is such a creative multitude of different philosophies, religions, views of morality, defaults of sexual & other relational openness, boundaries, desires,, interests, lifestyles, ways of interpreting the same experiences.
In my opinion at the moment of writing this, I believe there are a few core, foundational choices to living a healthy, integral, loving 💗 sane life.
* Honesty. Not relating with manipulative passive aggressive nor direct dishonesty - lying - false accusations & negative projections. Which requires owning ones own negative interpretations, projections & related feelings. Communicating any personal expectations, boundaries, feelings and thoughts self responsibly directly proactively & responsively honestly with anyone one relates with & wants to have such known & respected by. So as to co-create mutual understanding & respect in this diverse reality.
* Respect self responsibly directly clearly proactively stated boundaries of each other when so told & understood.
* Appreciatively taking care of our embodying wellness. We need not be ultra athletes, but at least don't willfully destroy our body with cigarettes, hard drugs, obesity, etc.. Do some kind of healthy exercise. Appreciate the naturalness of our sensualizing being. * Be more inquisitive & curious than dogmatic about most beliefs, attitudes, ways of living, loving & exploring.
* Respect our own & each others freedom to be both kindred & unique. Even when / if we or others choose to interpret other experiences and individuals in ways we feel uncomfortable, foreign, odd, don't like. As we likely want our freedom to be, relate & explore likewise respected by others who feel uncomfortable, offended, negatively about their interpretations of such...
* Be kind to ourself & each other.
Baguazhang Spiraling Coiling Practice
It's been quite a while since I've done much baguazhang circle walking & related baguazhang practices. My main practice is & since 1989 has been tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang.
Although I also did a lot of baguazhang for the first ten years or so after around 1990, not much since 2000ish. The coiling, spiraling energies nourish springiness, elasticity of muscles & fascia, wonderful unique qualities of deepening ones expansive spiritual - earthly grounding embodiment and flowing from the earth.
Many ways we are able to nourish our embodying awareness - tai chi qigong, yiquan, zhan zhuang, baguazhang, yoga, calisthentics, nia, pilates, dance, gymnastics, etc..
Although I also did a lot of baguazhang for the first ten years or so after around 1990, not much since 2000ish. The coiling, spiraling energies nourish springiness, elasticity of muscles & fascia, wonderful unique qualities of deepening ones expansive spiritual - earthly grounding embodiment and flowing from the earth.
Many ways we are able to nourish our embodying awareness - tai chi qigong, yiquan, zhan zhuang, baguazhang, yoga, calisthentics, nia, pilates, dance, gymnastics, etc..
Zhan zhuang.
Zhan zhuang - standing embodied meditation. Also referred to as standing like a tree, standing post,.etc.. This is the core process - practice from which tai chi gigong, baguazhang, yiquan & related arts flow. As a way of harmonizing universal - human consciousness, among additional purposes & benefits.
It can be nourishing, though not necessary, to stand next to a tree. Practicing next to trees can be nourishing as we share space & tune into the nature of trees with their rooting deep into the soil & simultaneous expanding toward the sun.
Like a tree, in zhan zhuang we allow the mind to quiet, heart to be open, crown of head lightly elevating skyward, weight and awareness to sink deep into core of the earth.
Body is intimately unified with the earth, feeling the connection of energy flowing in a circuit through the earth & our body.
Cultivating & nourishing awareness free of comfortable assumptive dogmatic biases, negative projections, knee jerk offendedness, manipulative dishonesty with self & each other which is an expression of low vibrational narcissistic consciousness.
Cultivating & nurturing awareness fueled with integrity & Love from open honesty with self & everyone, exploration, curiosity & appreciation for.the diverse expressions of being, creating & lovingly relating.
Viscerally enjoying experiencing the truth of our embodying soul. And the divinity of this when we choose to be & relate with full open honesty, authenticity, appreciation and playfulness.
With gratitude for the mystery of being and kindredly spiritually mature, integrally honest loving souls.
It can be nourishing, though not necessary, to stand next to a tree. Practicing next to trees can be nourishing as we share space & tune into the nature of trees with their rooting deep into the soil & simultaneous expanding toward the sun.
Like a tree, in zhan zhuang we allow the mind to quiet, heart to be open, crown of head lightly elevating skyward, weight and awareness to sink deep into core of the earth.
Body is intimately unified with the earth, feeling the connection of energy flowing in a circuit through the earth & our body.
Cultivating & nourishing awareness free of comfortable assumptive dogmatic biases, negative projections, knee jerk offendedness, manipulative dishonesty with self & each other which is an expression of low vibrational narcissistic consciousness.
Cultivating & nurturing awareness fueled with integrity & Love from open honesty with self & everyone, exploration, curiosity & appreciation for.the diverse expressions of being, creating & lovingly relating.
Viscerally enjoying experiencing the truth of our embodying soul. And the divinity of this when we choose to be & relate with full open honesty, authenticity, appreciation and playfulness.
With gratitude for the mystery of being and kindredly spiritually mature, integrally honest loving souls.
When we are truly fully honest with ourself and in our communicating & relating with each other, we embody true love, authenticity, trustworthiness, integrity & spiritual beauty.
We do our part to cocreate mutual understanding of & respect for each others diverse being, defaults of openness & self responsibly proactively honestly stated subjective boundaries, feelings and ideas.
Rather than unlovingly, abusively manipulatively negatively projecting, being misleadingly passive aggressive, lying, falsely accusing, gossiping to spread such spiritual - emotional cancer, stealing, ghosting, censoring & pretending to be a "victim" generally & from effects of such or otherwise reacting dismissively & claiming offense if - when someone honestly recognizes & holds one to equal responsibility & accountability for doing so & the effects of such.
Living & relating more healthfully, openly honestly with ourself and each other equally allows the energy which flows into and through us, which we embody, to be trustworthy, loving & worthwhile. Allows us to settle & open more deeply, authentically, free of negative karma created by manipulative passive aggressive, lying, stealing & related attitudes & behaviors.
Harmonizing our being with Truth & authentic Love.
We do our part to cocreate mutual understanding of & respect for each others diverse being, defaults of openness & self responsibly proactively honestly stated subjective boundaries, feelings and ideas.
Rather than unlovingly, abusively manipulatively negatively projecting, being misleadingly passive aggressive, lying, falsely accusing, gossiping to spread such spiritual - emotional cancer, stealing, ghosting, censoring & pretending to be a "victim" generally & from effects of such or otherwise reacting dismissively & claiming offense if - when someone honestly recognizes & holds one to equal responsibility & accountability for doing so & the effects of such.
Living & relating more healthfully, openly honestly with ourself and each other equally allows the energy which flows into and through us, which we embody, to be trustworthy, loving & worthwhile. Allows us to settle & open more deeply, authentically, free of negative karma created by manipulative passive aggressive, lying, stealing & related attitudes & behaviors.
Harmonizing our being with Truth & authentic Love.
How ones relates - with loving trustworthy open honesty / honest communicating, appreciation & respect,
or with unloving negative projection, passive aggressive manipulative, misleading lying, stealing & ghosting choices & abusively reacting offended & dismissive at being honestly recognized & held accountable for such -
reveals ones true character.
More accurately than presenting social facades & proclamations of being loving, "spiritual" and innocent pure faultless beings.
And shows how one likewise
deserves to receive.
Beings embodying authentic love, integrity & spiritual maturity understand & appreciate this truth & relate honestly accordingly.
or with unloving negative projection, passive aggressive manipulative, misleading lying, stealing & ghosting choices & abusively reacting offended & dismissive at being honestly recognized & held accountable for such -
reveals ones true character.
More accurately than presenting social facades & proclamations of being loving, "spiritual" and innocent pure faultless beings.
And shows how one likewise
deserves to receive.
Beings embodying authentic love, integrity & spiritual maturity understand & appreciate this truth & relate honestly accordingly.
A common cause of low back pain other than direct low back injury.
Low back pain is one issue commonly experienced by many people. Causes such as direct injury to the lumbar spine are usually obvious.
There can be many other causes of lower back pain. Also kidney pain can sometimes feel like low back pain.
One cause which is also fairly common, especially among people who sit often at desks, cyclists, etc., is tight quad muscles. Especially the rectus femoris muscle, which originates at the anterior portion of the pelvic bone, crosses the hip - thigh and attaches through tendons around the patella - knee cap.
And likely tight psoas muscles, which attach from the lower spine to the medial superior area of the femur - upper leg bone.
When the anterior leg muscles and / or psoas muscles become tight - shortened they pull the pelvis & lumbar spine into forward anterior tilt. Compressing the posterior lumbar spine and weakening some of the muscles in the lower back.
That creates an exaggerated sway in the lower back, which may be compensated for by further tightening the quad muscles, tensor fascia latae - it band and lower leg muscles to try to stay upright when standing and walking.
How to correct such issues if the pelvis is anteriorly tilted with shortened quads and weak & overly lengthened hamstrings? -
A combination of strengthing the hamstrings muscles to help keep the pelvis in a healthy neutral alignment.
May also need to strengthen the gluteal muscles if they are weak, since weak glutes tend to allow torso to lean forward too much posturally.
Stretching - lengthening the quads and possibly psoas.
Massage sessions addressing these & related issues.
Maintaining awareness of body positioning throughout the day & night.
Sit for shorter periods of time. Take breaks from sitting by standing & moving more frequently.
Do gentle hip tilts anterior & posterior, as well as on hip circling on horizontal plane one direction then the other.
There can be other causes of lumbar pain, of course. This post simply addresses these common factors.
There can be many other causes of lower back pain. Also kidney pain can sometimes feel like low back pain.
One cause which is also fairly common, especially among people who sit often at desks, cyclists, etc., is tight quad muscles. Especially the rectus femoris muscle, which originates at the anterior portion of the pelvic bone, crosses the hip - thigh and attaches through tendons around the patella - knee cap.
And likely tight psoas muscles, which attach from the lower spine to the medial superior area of the femur - upper leg bone.
When the anterior leg muscles and / or psoas muscles become tight - shortened they pull the pelvis & lumbar spine into forward anterior tilt. Compressing the posterior lumbar spine and weakening some of the muscles in the lower back.
That creates an exaggerated sway in the lower back, which may be compensated for by further tightening the quad muscles, tensor fascia latae - it band and lower leg muscles to try to stay upright when standing and walking.
How to correct such issues if the pelvis is anteriorly tilted with shortened quads and weak & overly lengthened hamstrings? -
A combination of strengthing the hamstrings muscles to help keep the pelvis in a healthy neutral alignment.
May also need to strengthen the gluteal muscles if they are weak, since weak glutes tend to allow torso to lean forward too much posturally.
Stretching - lengthening the quads and possibly psoas.
Massage sessions addressing these & related issues.
Maintaining awareness of body positioning throughout the day & night.
Sit for shorter periods of time. Take breaks from sitting by standing & moving more frequently.
Do gentle hip tilts anterior & posterior, as well as on hip circling on horizontal plane one direction then the other.
There can be other causes of lumbar pain, of course. This post simply addresses these common factors.
Creating time.
We can usually create some space - time in our daily living to enjoy more, focused meditative embodiment engagement. Whether tai chi qigong, baguazhang, yiquan, zhan zhuang, yoga, calisthenics, cross fit, or whatever else we enjoy regardless of what name we do or do not label it as.
After teaching tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang class this morning and doing some related business tasks, I noticed this park across from the post office.
The brilliant lush green grass and relatively mellow, sparsely populated space of the park felt like a lovely place for a qigong siesta of sorts. And so it is...
This is one of my favorite flows. Blending tai chi qigong, baguazhang after zhan zhuang....
After teaching tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang class this morning and doing some related business tasks, I noticed this park across from the post office.
The brilliant lush green grass and relatively mellow, sparsely populated space of the park felt like a lovely place for a qigong siesta of sorts. And so it is...
This is one of my favorite flows. Blending tai chi qigong, baguazhang after zhan zhuang....
Including wellness nurturing experiences in what we schedule in our lives
is a simple, worthwhile choice.
Yes, simple. And often helpful when done consistently. Many options supportive of our well being are very simple. Its in choosing to do them that we benefit. So often when I provide massages to people who have not scheduled & received sessions from me in a while, during or after their massages they express wishing they would be more consistent in receiving them more frequently. As they feel so much better, relaxed, healthy & enjoyable when receiving them.
Sometimes it can become a pattern to dismiss and not make time for choosing the simple things like meditating, stretching & strengthening, massages, hydration, alone time as well as relating with others, etc.. Thinking we are too busy for taking care of our well being with such simple, healthy experiences.
Yet it is in choosing to equally prioritize including these experiences in our daily - nightly living that we nourish our wellness, feel more enjoyable in our body and calm & clarify our mind & healthy priorities.
This simple opening for anterior torso helps release accumulated tension in the back, neck and jaw ( sometimes extending to hips and legs ) developed from holding our body somewhat upright as head, shoulders, neck, areas of spine contract forward of center.
As often happens when we get over focused on looking, hunching & leaning forward & down using phones, computers, reading, writing and many other activities. This is one of the most common issues & sources of tension & discomfort for many people in modern life.
Even using pillows under head when resting or otherwise lying down, pushes the neck & head forward out of healthy alignment.
This opening & variations of it bring deepening balance to our body. Helping release muscles & fascia from their accustomed shortened, contracted positions. Allowing us to realign through our center more comfortably & naturally. This reduces the amount of energy we expend compensating for unbalanced posture, thus increasing our energy. It also allows our lungs to expand more fully, deepening our breathing & vitality. And opening our heart.
Sometimes it can become a pattern to dismiss and not make time for choosing the simple things like meditating, stretching & strengthening, massages, hydration, alone time as well as relating with others, etc.. Thinking we are too busy for taking care of our well being with such simple, healthy experiences.
Yet it is in choosing to equally prioritize including these experiences in our daily - nightly living that we nourish our wellness, feel more enjoyable in our body and calm & clarify our mind & healthy priorities.
This simple opening for anterior torso helps release accumulated tension in the back, neck and jaw ( sometimes extending to hips and legs ) developed from holding our body somewhat upright as head, shoulders, neck, areas of spine contract forward of center.
As often happens when we get over focused on looking, hunching & leaning forward & down using phones, computers, reading, writing and many other activities. This is one of the most common issues & sources of tension & discomfort for many people in modern life.
Even using pillows under head when resting or otherwise lying down, pushes the neck & head forward out of healthy alignment.
This opening & variations of it bring deepening balance to our body. Helping release muscles & fascia from their accustomed shortened, contracted positions. Allowing us to realign through our center more comfortably & naturally. This reduces the amount of energy we expend compensating for unbalanced posture, thus increasing our energy. It also allows our lungs to expand more fully, deepening our breathing & vitality. And opening our heart.
Gratitude & honesty expands our appreciative awareness, respect & capacity to love.
Choosing to be respectful, honestly openly communicative & appreciative ( rather than choosing to negatively project, relate misleadingly passive aggressively and directly dishonestly, feel & act offended & hatefully accusatory ) of the validity of diverse ways of exploring, offering & sharing kindness & loving ways of being & relating in diverse contexts, opens our being to & embodies appreciation, beauty, love, harmony & clarity.
We can still have boundaries & preferences for how we live and how & who we relate with, of course. As long as we own our equal responsibility for simply proactively honestly directly stating to whoever we relate with if we have boundaries & preferences with an individual exactly what, when & where such are in any context before expecting to have them understood & equally respected. So such can be understood & mutually respected.
Appreciation, open honest communicating - relating & curiosity can wisen our consciousness to respect the fact that the limits of what an individual ( including ourself ) or ideology understands, appreciates, feels comfortable with & chooses personally at any moment are of course not the limits of what is natural, loving, respectful, worthy of appreciation, good & kind.
Gratitude for the beautiful creativity & freedom of natural life & open honest relating opens our hearts to the truth that we can appreciate & relate as we prefer while being mature enough to respect the equal validity & love available in many unique, other ways of exploring, learning, being & relating.
This also frees us from the unloving blinders of dogmatic ideas & unloving intepretations - reactions ( even if they are popularly held by groups & ideologies one may associate with ) to different experiences & people open to, offering & sharing them who appreciate & thus experience kindness, love, integrity & freedom in such.
Which is necessary to mature & expand our own loving consciousness & appreciation beyond comfortable familiar limits.
Yin & Yang.
We can still have boundaries & preferences for how we live and how & who we relate with, of course. As long as we own our equal responsibility for simply proactively honestly directly stating to whoever we relate with if we have boundaries & preferences with an individual exactly what, when & where such are in any context before expecting to have them understood & equally respected. So such can be understood & mutually respected.
Appreciation, open honest communicating - relating & curiosity can wisen our consciousness to respect the fact that the limits of what an individual ( including ourself ) or ideology understands, appreciates, feels comfortable with & chooses personally at any moment are of course not the limits of what is natural, loving, respectful, worthy of appreciation, good & kind.
Gratitude for the beautiful creativity & freedom of natural life & open honest relating opens our hearts to the truth that we can appreciate & relate as we prefer while being mature enough to respect the equal validity & love available in many unique, other ways of exploring, learning, being & relating.
This also frees us from the unloving blinders of dogmatic ideas & unloving intepretations - reactions ( even if they are popularly held by groups & ideologies one may associate with ) to different experiences & people open to, offering & sharing them who appreciate & thus experience kindness, love, integrity & freedom in such.
Which is necessary to mature & expand our own loving consciousness & appreciation beyond comfortable familiar limits.
Yin & Yang.
Foundational practices & process are core.
The foundational, basic practices are the core, the root from which quality is born. These and related processes are worth engaging daily.
Quality of focus, not flash, is what is most deeply fulfilling, imo.
Abiding in center with relative stillness of zhan zhuang.
Rooted, relaxed connection with & moving from the earth.
Head gently suspending from above.
Dynamic balancing of relaxed suppleness with just enough refined tension to be upright & aligined.
Unifying feeling awareness.
Exploring interplay of yin & yang.
Slow, full inhaling & exhaling.
Expanding & contracting.
Forward & backward.
Rising up & sinking down.
No matter how much experience & skill we develop, as in much of life we are engaging the process of exploration of being. Some moments we may skip a beat, so to speak. Yet we continue enjoying process & being. Regaining & honing focus, balance & flow in each new now.
Nurturing regeneratively fresh & alive embodying consciousness in the now.
Honest, exploratory, appreciative, present and quietly aware.
Solitude.
Solitude. What comes to mind & how do you feel when you think of solitude? Of being by yourself for a day? For a week?
Is this something you enjoy as a frequent part of your life?
Do you feel nervous, uncomfortable or confused if not relating with other people, the internet or television for more than one or two days? Or is this something you relax into and feel nourished by? Perhaps some combination?
For many of us living in modern urban areas, daily life usually includes plenty of external stimulation. We are routinely saturated with the energies of others from computers, vehicle traffic, coworkers and people we pass and meet in public, news, tv for those who watch it, music, family members and / or housemates if we dont live alone, and other sources.
While this can of course be informative and enriching when we enjoy & learn from these experiences, it is also beneficial for most of us to take some time & space away to be by ourself.
Especially when basking in the biologically natural rhythms of enviornments like forests, the beach, oceans, lakes, rivers, meadows and other such places. Away from other people. Relatively alone with our own unique individuating being.
This solitude allows us space, if we choose to consciously use it, to recognize & transform beliefs, feelings & patterns of behavior which we may have acquired by adapting to ideological, familial, social & other assumptions & biases, that no longer truly serve us & clarity. Or never truly did.
Especially when we maintain a daily meditative practice which quiets internal chatter & allows our awareness to harmoniously blend relaxed nondogmatic exploratory openness with focused attentiveness.
When is the last time you next to a stream, river,etc., and quietly appreciatively observed the flowing water? Feeling the misty breeze or relative stillness in the air?
Did you notice any resonance with the liquids flowing through your heart, arteries, veins, capillaries and organs of your body?
If you choose, make a point to reserve some time within this coming week & take yourself to a natural area where there are no buildings, people or technology. Even if just for 30 minutes. Longer if you choose. Of course it is your life so you get to decide.
Give yourself time & attentive focus in the ever present now to attune to the natural enviornment. Soaking in the reality that you are a vibrant part of nature.
Remembering that we all have vast freedom to choose how we regeneratively cocreate our lives.
Is this something you enjoy as a frequent part of your life?
Do you feel nervous, uncomfortable or confused if not relating with other people, the internet or television for more than one or two days? Or is this something you relax into and feel nourished by? Perhaps some combination?
For many of us living in modern urban areas, daily life usually includes plenty of external stimulation. We are routinely saturated with the energies of others from computers, vehicle traffic, coworkers and people we pass and meet in public, news, tv for those who watch it, music, family members and / or housemates if we dont live alone, and other sources.
While this can of course be informative and enriching when we enjoy & learn from these experiences, it is also beneficial for most of us to take some time & space away to be by ourself.
Especially when basking in the biologically natural rhythms of enviornments like forests, the beach, oceans, lakes, rivers, meadows and other such places. Away from other people. Relatively alone with our own unique individuating being.
This solitude allows us space, if we choose to consciously use it, to recognize & transform beliefs, feelings & patterns of behavior which we may have acquired by adapting to ideological, familial, social & other assumptions & biases, that no longer truly serve us & clarity. Or never truly did.
Especially when we maintain a daily meditative practice which quiets internal chatter & allows our awareness to harmoniously blend relaxed nondogmatic exploratory openness with focused attentiveness.
When is the last time you next to a stream, river,etc., and quietly appreciatively observed the flowing water? Feeling the misty breeze or relative stillness in the air?
Did you notice any resonance with the liquids flowing through your heart, arteries, veins, capillaries and organs of your body?
If you choose, make a point to reserve some time within this coming week & take yourself to a natural area where there are no buildings, people or technology. Even if just for 30 minutes. Longer if you choose. Of course it is your life so you get to decide.
Give yourself time & attentive focus in the ever present now to attune to the natural enviornment. Soaking in the reality that you are a vibrant part of nature.
Remembering that we all have vast freedom to choose how we regeneratively cocreate our lives.
The basic, foundational, core principles, practices & processes of zhan zhuang & tai chi qigong ( as with much of life and arts ) are such because, even though simple in ways, they develop & nurture our root.
The basic, foundational, core principles, practices & processes of zhan zhuang & tai chi qigong ( as with much of life and arts ) are such because, even though simple in ways, they develop & nurture our root.
Like trees need strong, deepening healthy roots & trunk in order to thrive, focusing on these core processes & principles with full focus & appreciative attentiveness nourishes deepening clear embodying awareness, understanding & creative freedom.
They need not be experienced as boring, trivial, etc..
When we are present & engage with focused, freshly curious & exploratory, appreciative awareness, we experience & nourish the expansive depth, beauty, creativity, love and pleasure available.
Like trees need strong, deepening healthy roots & trunk in order to thrive, focusing on these core processes & principles with full focus & appreciative attentiveness nourishes deepening clear embodying awareness, understanding & creative freedom.
They need not be experienced as boring, trivial, etc..
When we are present & engage with focused, freshly curious & exploratory, appreciative awareness, we experience & nourish the expansive depth, beauty, creativity, love and pleasure available.
Nurturing appreciation & wonder through moments of slowness.
In addition to dedicated daily practice times such as during tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang classes, integrating slow, conscious ways of moving as we do some of the other practical tasks in our lives can be additional enriching.
Of course there are some things where faster activity is balancing and most appropriate. Quickly moving out the the way of a vehicle speeding as we cross a street, rapidly catching a mug accidentally toppled from a counter, needing to be at appointments by a specific time, etc., benefit from rapid, responsive movement.
Other moments of our life when we have or create even just a few minutes of spaciousness, we can more readily explore deepening our sense of appreciation, wonder and attentively relaxed presence by nurturing these qualities while reducing the pace - speed which we may normally do something. Actions such as moving across a room, picking up a utensil, drinking water, eating food, slipping into a snuggling nestle under the covers into our nightly slumber, and so many more we can deepen our perceptual & feeling enrichment by slowing the pace which we engage them by half or more.
At first it may feel odd, frustrating, inefficient or boring, especially if we are wound up mentally & emotionally. As we breathe more deeply into our body, opening our appreciative heart awareness we can use this slowing down to enhance our sense of wonder. Wonder at being an embodying soul. At space and the subjectivity, relativity & ghost like nature of an eternally vast, amorphous sea of ideas which seem to fill areas of space with more or less solidity & fluidity. Recognizing & releasing any tight grasping of associations with dogmatic assumptions, beliefs & feelings.
In order to feel at peace, to open into genuine experiencing this with enjoyment, peace, depth & authenticity, we discover that as much and more focus is worth giving to enjoying the immediate fluid present now for its own sake. Letting any emotions and thoughts ebb and flow, without grasping to identify with & calcify them.
Allowing ourselves quiet to attune to and dive more fully into the vaster heart opening spaciousness of appreciative, exploratory awareness deeper than the noise of familiar patterns of associations.
No longer pushing toward an end point, physical destination or other goal orientation. At least not at the expense of being fully, honestly attentive with refreshing wonder in the now of the fleshing home of our body.
Deepening & extending our inhalations & exhalations of life giving air - prana - qi can naturally blend with the contractions into & expansions from our center as we flow our body weight from leg to another in stepping. When we bring our arms in toward & away from our torso. Feeling ourselves expanding our kinesthetic awareness into the earth, and the earth breathing through our deeply rooting body - mind from below our feet through our legs, hips, waist, spine, torso, internal organs, arms, neck and head.
When we focus on cultivating our natural sensually embodying awareness with appreciation, ageless amazement, curiosity instead of negative assumptive projections & dogma, gratitude and loving authenticity, we become like a phoenix. Refreshing, regenerating, rebirthing & transforming our experiencing of & contributions to life, ourselves & each other in beautifully appreciative, loving, authentic & freedom affirming ways.
As we move slower, sometimes we may discover we are moving so slowly that our movement is nearly imperceptible. Even slowing into relative stillness in any mid flow. A bit like the game freeze tag you may have played as a child, albeit the stillness is internally inspired. And unlike being frozen, we are still very much alive, warm, feeling our whole being deeply.
Allow yourself to savor it. Attunement with life essence. With your soul source in fleshing reality.
Of course there are some things where faster activity is balancing and most appropriate. Quickly moving out the the way of a vehicle speeding as we cross a street, rapidly catching a mug accidentally toppled from a counter, needing to be at appointments by a specific time, etc., benefit from rapid, responsive movement.
Other moments of our life when we have or create even just a few minutes of spaciousness, we can more readily explore deepening our sense of appreciation, wonder and attentively relaxed presence by nurturing these qualities while reducing the pace - speed which we may normally do something. Actions such as moving across a room, picking up a utensil, drinking water, eating food, slipping into a snuggling nestle under the covers into our nightly slumber, and so many more we can deepen our perceptual & feeling enrichment by slowing the pace which we engage them by half or more.
At first it may feel odd, frustrating, inefficient or boring, especially if we are wound up mentally & emotionally. As we breathe more deeply into our body, opening our appreciative heart awareness we can use this slowing down to enhance our sense of wonder. Wonder at being an embodying soul. At space and the subjectivity, relativity & ghost like nature of an eternally vast, amorphous sea of ideas which seem to fill areas of space with more or less solidity & fluidity. Recognizing & releasing any tight grasping of associations with dogmatic assumptions, beliefs & feelings.
In order to feel at peace, to open into genuine experiencing this with enjoyment, peace, depth & authenticity, we discover that as much and more focus is worth giving to enjoying the immediate fluid present now for its own sake. Letting any emotions and thoughts ebb and flow, without grasping to identify with & calcify them.
Allowing ourselves quiet to attune to and dive more fully into the vaster heart opening spaciousness of appreciative, exploratory awareness deeper than the noise of familiar patterns of associations.
No longer pushing toward an end point, physical destination or other goal orientation. At least not at the expense of being fully, honestly attentive with refreshing wonder in the now of the fleshing home of our body.
Deepening & extending our inhalations & exhalations of life giving air - prana - qi can naturally blend with the contractions into & expansions from our center as we flow our body weight from leg to another in stepping. When we bring our arms in toward & away from our torso. Feeling ourselves expanding our kinesthetic awareness into the earth, and the earth breathing through our deeply rooting body - mind from below our feet through our legs, hips, waist, spine, torso, internal organs, arms, neck and head.
When we focus on cultivating our natural sensually embodying awareness with appreciation, ageless amazement, curiosity instead of negative assumptive projections & dogma, gratitude and loving authenticity, we become like a phoenix. Refreshing, regenerating, rebirthing & transforming our experiencing of & contributions to life, ourselves & each other in beautifully appreciative, loving, authentic & freedom affirming ways.
As we move slower, sometimes we may discover we are moving so slowly that our movement is nearly imperceptible. Even slowing into relative stillness in any mid flow. A bit like the game freeze tag you may have played as a child, albeit the stillness is internally inspired. And unlike being frozen, we are still very much alive, warm, feeling our whole being deeply.
Allow yourself to savor it. Attunement with life essence. With your soul source in fleshing reality.
Why rush through life?
Why rush through life? Sometimes focused speed is useful and beneficial, but not necessarily as a main way of being & relating. For much of worth is missed, rushed past, overlooked & unappreciated in such haste.
One of the main reasons & benefits of the relatively slow, fluid movement of tai chi qigong & stillness of zhan zhuang standing meditation is the opening out of the fight or flight sympathetic nervous system quality into a more parasympathetic rejuvenating, calm relaxing yet focused vitality. ( This also applies to & is how I give massage sessions. )
Enjoying the process, the transitions of movement & life which really is every now instead of just an isolated assumed end posture & time. It's all now.
Which allows us to cultivate deepening appreciating, loving, honest & focused embodying presence & awareness in the fluid present.
Harmoniously blending positive kindness with honesty about ourself, each other & life in its wholeness ( light & shadow, positive & negative ). And clearly proactively honestly communicating any boundaries we have with individuals so they may understand. Such cocreates mutual understanding, respect & love for ourself & each other equally.
While nourishing a strong rooted foundation through our lower body and central channel, from which we stand & move with graceful, sensual smoothness, love, authenticity & feeling aliveness.
One of the main reasons & benefits of the relatively slow, fluid movement of tai chi qigong & stillness of zhan zhuang standing meditation is the opening out of the fight or flight sympathetic nervous system quality into a more parasympathetic rejuvenating, calm relaxing yet focused vitality. ( This also applies to & is how I give massage sessions. )
Enjoying the process, the transitions of movement & life which really is every now instead of just an isolated assumed end posture & time. It's all now.
Which allows us to cultivate deepening appreciating, loving, honest & focused embodying presence & awareness in the fluid present.
Harmoniously blending positive kindness with honesty about ourself, each other & life in its wholeness ( light & shadow, positive & negative ). And clearly proactively honestly communicating any boundaries we have with individuals so they may understand. Such cocreates mutual understanding, respect & love for ourself & each other equally.
While nourishing a strong rooted foundation through our lower body and central channel, from which we stand & move with graceful, sensual smoothness, love, authenticity & feeling aliveness.
Autonomy, Interrelating & Authenticity.
There is such a rich diversity of ways of interpeting, being & relating in life. Its quite spectacular how people can choose to interpet & engage the same exact real or imagined experiences in diverse ways.
Personally, I prioritize honesty, integrity, autonomy, solitude in balance with mutually appreciative honest interrelating & freedom.
So when I relate with people I do so with a foundation & nurturing of integrity, open honesty & authenticity with myself and each other. Since this is a necessary foundation for being & relating with authentic love integrity, trustworthiness & maturity
The more we choose this fully open honest communicating & relating with each other, rather than deafly projecting at, being passive aggressively or directly misleadingly dishonest and flaky, the more integrity, mutual understanding & respect, love and trustworthiness we co-create. In ourself and in all our relationships.
Personally, I prioritize honesty, integrity, autonomy, solitude in balance with mutually appreciative honest interrelating & freedom.
So when I relate with people I do so with a foundation & nurturing of integrity, open honesty & authenticity with myself and each other. Since this is a necessary foundation for being & relating with authentic love integrity, trustworthiness & maturity
The more we choose this fully open honest communicating & relating with each other, rather than deafly projecting at, being passive aggressively or directly misleadingly dishonest and flaky, the more integrity, mutual understanding & respect, love and trustworthiness we co-create. In ourself and in all our relationships.
Cultivating embodied honesty, authenticity, appreciation, equilibrium, love, freedom,
nondogmatic open exploration and curiosity in the eternally flowing now,
is what we nurture through tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang when we focus on such.
nondogmatic open exploration and curiosity in the eternally flowing now,
is what we nurture through tai chi qigong & zhan zhuang when we focus on such.
Moments of Balance.
Major events such as vehicle accidents, falls from heights, impact traumas, and congenital physical conditions such as skeletal abnormalities are obvious causes of misalignment and pain in the body. Given their overt nature they are commonly considered when assessing individuals complaints of pain & mobility issues.
What is often overlooked are the rather mundane aspects of daily living. Like how we walk, sit, sweep, rake grass, write, type, read, etc.. Yet the way we do these basic actions effects the alignment of our body, stress patterns, strength & weakness of various areas, range of motion and more.
A simple, supportive choice is to do our best to balance our movements and use of left and right, upper and lower portions of our body. If for instance, we tend to sweep from right to left, make a point of spending half the time sweeping from left to right as well.
If we tend to cross our legs when sitting, cease doing so. Or if we continue to, switch it up by crossing the legs the other leg on top half the time.
When standing, allow yourself to settle into a center alignment & the springs of our legs and spine. Weight distributed evenly between left and right feet.
A common complaint of many people is neck back and hip pain, often caused from sitting hunching over a computer or desk for hours a day. That creates a forward hunching, contraction of the anterior torso, chest, shoulders and hips. And compression of the vertebrae, especially the lumber area. Leading to back pain, headaches, stiff neck and back, spinal degeneration, blood pressure issues and other complications.
Aside from changing to careers that allow more balance of standing, moving and sitting, less than 8 hours a day and naps ( seriously ), at least stand up for 5 minutes or more every hour will help. And do stretches to open up the anterior chest, torso & hip for a few minutes a couple times per day.
When using a computer, alternate between standing and sitting. And use a large balance ball as a sitting surface, which helps keep our core active in subtle ways to stay balanced on the ball. Also having the monitor set at a level height and angle for the eyes, not tilting head down or up or to either side - but straight ahead is best. And give the eyes a rest throughout the day as well. Remember the eyes have tiny muscles as well.
Being mindful of these and the many other basic things we do with our body, and focusing our mind & emotions to relate with honesty, appreciation, kindness and respect for our own & each others freedom & equal humanity, goes a long way in nurturing our overall wellness, vitality and enjoyment in life.
What is often overlooked are the rather mundane aspects of daily living. Like how we walk, sit, sweep, rake grass, write, type, read, etc.. Yet the way we do these basic actions effects the alignment of our body, stress patterns, strength & weakness of various areas, range of motion and more.
A simple, supportive choice is to do our best to balance our movements and use of left and right, upper and lower portions of our body. If for instance, we tend to sweep from right to left, make a point of spending half the time sweeping from left to right as well.
If we tend to cross our legs when sitting, cease doing so. Or if we continue to, switch it up by crossing the legs the other leg on top half the time.
When standing, allow yourself to settle into a center alignment & the springs of our legs and spine. Weight distributed evenly between left and right feet.
A common complaint of many people is neck back and hip pain, often caused from sitting hunching over a computer or desk for hours a day. That creates a forward hunching, contraction of the anterior torso, chest, shoulders and hips. And compression of the vertebrae, especially the lumber area. Leading to back pain, headaches, stiff neck and back, spinal degeneration, blood pressure issues and other complications.
Aside from changing to careers that allow more balance of standing, moving and sitting, less than 8 hours a day and naps ( seriously ), at least stand up for 5 minutes or more every hour will help. And do stretches to open up the anterior chest, torso & hip for a few minutes a couple times per day.
When using a computer, alternate between standing and sitting. And use a large balance ball as a sitting surface, which helps keep our core active in subtle ways to stay balanced on the ball. Also having the monitor set at a level height and angle for the eyes, not tilting head down or up or to either side - but straight ahead is best. And give the eyes a rest throughout the day as well. Remember the eyes have tiny muscles as well.
Being mindful of these and the many other basic things we do with our body, and focusing our mind & emotions to relate with honesty, appreciation, kindness and respect for our own & each others freedom & equal humanity, goes a long way in nurturing our overall wellness, vitality and enjoyment in life.
Creating space - time to open in relative stillness allows layers of accumulated tension to become conscious and release.
Giving - creating space - time to open in relative stillness allows layers of accumulated tension to become conscious and release.
Rather than forcing ourselves to open & deepen our root and stance, opening in stillness and movement with appreciation, honesty and alignment allows release and deepening to organically emerge.
Rather than forcing ourselves to open & deepen our root and stance, opening in stillness and movement with appreciation, honesty and alignment allows release and deepening to organically emerge.
Simplicity is sometimes underrated.
Simplicity is sometimes underrated. Even in relatively simple, slow movement and stillness we can experience deep pleasure, awareness, harmony and growth when we engage with honesty, appreciation & curiosity.
Tai Chi Qigong & Zhan Zhuang is enriching for young & middle age adults,
not only elderly.
A common misconception about Tai Chi qigong & zhan zhuang I've noticed many people have is that it's just for elderly people. Unfortunately that assumption deters many people from engaging these practices - ways of embodied meditation until they are nearing the end of their life.
Many people practice and teach Tai Chi in a super casual way & just repeat long preset forms & focus on preventing falls for elder people.
However these arts can also be engaged, practiced & taught ( as I do ) with lower postures, longer zhan zhuang standing meditations, focused slower short movement flows to hone focus, foundational strength & principles rather than repeating the same long forms over & over like a musician who just plays a cover of someone else's song repeatedly.
I began practicing these arts at age 17 consistently through my life. And I intend to continue until I transition out of this body.
So if you are in your early 20s on up, these arts can still be positively challenging, enriching and worthwhile.
Many people practice and teach Tai Chi in a super casual way & just repeat long preset forms & focus on preventing falls for elder people.
However these arts can also be engaged, practiced & taught ( as I do ) with lower postures, longer zhan zhuang standing meditations, focused slower short movement flows to hone focus, foundational strength & principles rather than repeating the same long forms over & over like a musician who just plays a cover of someone else's song repeatedly.
I began practicing these arts at age 17 consistently through my life. And I intend to continue until I transition out of this body.
So if you are in your early 20s on up, these arts can still be positively challenging, enriching and worthwhile.
An elemental meditation.
One way of enjoying embodied meditation includes imagining with feeling the energies of water, earth, air and fire during zhan zhuang standing meditation.
While in a symetrical zhan zhuang posture, allow ones consciousness to be quietly aware, feeling ones whole body - being. Letting excess tension in attitudes & body dissolve away.
Now imagine whichever elemental energy of water, earth, air or fire you feel drawn to.
We can choose to focus on just one elemental quality, several or all 4 during each session. Whichever feels most balancing & nourishing at the moment.
While standing in supple, quiet relative stillness ( there are subtle micro balancing movements still occurring in our body muscles, organs, blood & lymph flow as we are alive beings, not actually stone ), begin imagining water, for example.
Allow the mental idea & visual sense of water to also be a sensually alive visceral experiencing of water permeating ones whole body - being. Feel the suppleness, flowing nature of being water - while still standing balanced in one's center through balancing intention.
Soak in permutations, variations of watery qualities for as long as you choose.
Calm, relatively still water .
Rippling water radiating in circular waves from ones center. And radiating from other locations.
Powerful, massive waves.
Water flowing steadily in one direction, radiating in all directions, or sloshing to and fro.
Allow your mental imagination, emotions blend into a deeply sensually vivid embodying experiencing of the nature of water. Nourishing your whole being with water love.
Transitioning back, or to another elemental quality, when you choose.
For fire, focusing imagination into viscerally feeling embodiment of whatever types of fire energy which emerge and you choose.
A slow, deep burning ember quality. Sparks flicking light.
Fire growing in intensity and size like a giant sun burning luminously...
For air, feeling the spaciousness and lightness of one's body as air. Wisping and gusting.
Gently, calmly present.
Currents & condensing of air into whirling spirals & tornados.
Gale forceful winds clearing the air with powerful intensity.
Warm & cool breezes tenderly caressing.
For earth, feeling this relative stability, groundedness, abiding and fertile nature permeating ones whole being. Roots firmly uniting ones body with the surrounding earthen environment. Feeling movements of the many creatures burrowing homes, passageways, storing foods, etc., in the ground.
Noticing the unique feelings of being moist & fertile, dry and hard, crumbly or cohesive clay, etc..
Feeling the occasional micro movement and stronger earthquakes as they adjust to accommodate pressure changes throughout the whole earth of which we are for now an integral part of.
Nourishing the growth of plant life from the soil of ones loving heart...
These are just suggestions, of course. Not dogmatic rules or limits of how we can engage these experiences & creative explorations.
Allowing ourselves to be focused, spontaneous and playfully creative with this process is what is enriching. Feel free to use this process as a springboard so to speak for diving into creative exploring sensual, experiential awareness.
While in a symetrical zhan zhuang posture, allow ones consciousness to be quietly aware, feeling ones whole body - being. Letting excess tension in attitudes & body dissolve away.
Now imagine whichever elemental energy of water, earth, air or fire you feel drawn to.
We can choose to focus on just one elemental quality, several or all 4 during each session. Whichever feels most balancing & nourishing at the moment.
While standing in supple, quiet relative stillness ( there are subtle micro balancing movements still occurring in our body muscles, organs, blood & lymph flow as we are alive beings, not actually stone ), begin imagining water, for example.
Allow the mental idea & visual sense of water to also be a sensually alive visceral experiencing of water permeating ones whole body - being. Feel the suppleness, flowing nature of being water - while still standing balanced in one's center through balancing intention.
Soak in permutations, variations of watery qualities for as long as you choose.
Calm, relatively still water .
Rippling water radiating in circular waves from ones center. And radiating from other locations.
Powerful, massive waves.
Water flowing steadily in one direction, radiating in all directions, or sloshing to and fro.
Allow your mental imagination, emotions blend into a deeply sensually vivid embodying experiencing of the nature of water. Nourishing your whole being with water love.
Transitioning back, or to another elemental quality, when you choose.
For fire, focusing imagination into viscerally feeling embodiment of whatever types of fire energy which emerge and you choose.
A slow, deep burning ember quality. Sparks flicking light.
Fire growing in intensity and size like a giant sun burning luminously...
For air, feeling the spaciousness and lightness of one's body as air. Wisping and gusting.
Gently, calmly present.
Currents & condensing of air into whirling spirals & tornados.
Gale forceful winds clearing the air with powerful intensity.
Warm & cool breezes tenderly caressing.
For earth, feeling this relative stability, groundedness, abiding and fertile nature permeating ones whole being. Roots firmly uniting ones body with the surrounding earthen environment. Feeling movements of the many creatures burrowing homes, passageways, storing foods, etc., in the ground.
Noticing the unique feelings of being moist & fertile, dry and hard, crumbly or cohesive clay, etc..
Feeling the occasional micro movement and stronger earthquakes as they adjust to accommodate pressure changes throughout the whole earth of which we are for now an integral part of.
Nourishing the growth of plant life from the soil of ones loving heart...
These are just suggestions, of course. Not dogmatic rules or limits of how we can engage these experiences & creative explorations.
Allowing ourselves to be focused, spontaneous and playfully creative with this process is what is enriching. Feel free to use this process as a springboard so to speak for diving into creative exploring sensual, experiential awareness.
Honesty, Boundaries & Diversity.
The blue sign is one I have prominantly posted in my office
in support of mutual honesty, clarity & respect.
One foundational fact of life is that we live in a world full of diverse individuals with diverse perspectives, defaults of openness and lifestyles. The limits of our personal preferences, boundaries and ways of relating are, of course, not the same for many other women & men.
One requirement for us all to do our part in co-creating mutual understanding and respect for each others equal humanity and freedom, is to simply own our personal responsibility for proactively directly honestly stating if & when we have boundaries, expectations, feelings & preferences with anyone in any context.
Before expecting to have such understood & thereby equally respected in this diverse world. And respecting such if & when honestly directly specifically clearly told & understood.
A major source of disharmony and divisiveness among people is the refusal to recognize & own ones negative assumptions that the limits of ones own understanding comfort & boundaries are or should be oppressively forced to be the default of all other women & men. And not owning ones' own related projections, passive aggressive and directly dishonest misleading behaviors and the effects of such.
Combined with the passive aggressive or direct refusal to proactively directly communicate ones boundaries and preferences & relate directly openly honestly with each other in order to co-create clear mutual understanding & thereby respect.
The fear of being fully openly honest with oneself and each other in a nondogmatic, exploratory way is, unfortunately, a normalized way of relating for many. As we learn to evolve beyond that pattern of relating, we greatly increase our capacity for authenticity, mutual respect, freedom & humanitarian love.
This first image ( blue marble background with blue border ) above this text, is a sign I made and have posted prominently in my office. Which I also always verbally state for mutual clarity & respect when first meeting people, because of these facts.
Through the years I've experienced countless women, and occassionally some men, indirectly & directly express desire for, and do things indirectly and directly during massages I give and in other contexts, which are within and beyond my personal preferences, boundaries or comfort for what I'm open to giving or doing during paid massage sessions or generally. Or at least more open than the most conservative attitudes.
A large percentage of women I meet relate with what could be considered fairly open, european attitudes about their body during sessions & generally.
As have some of the massage teachers in schools I learned from.
These are facts which many people wonder about but are self conscious, ashamed or fearful to openly honestly ask about & discuss.
Yet that fear, reluctance or taboo about such non reactive open honest discussion just creates & perpetuates needless fear, confusing behaviors, multi-layered assumptions, dishonesty and shame in people.
Creating a barrier to true wellness, honesty, mutual understanding, love & respect.
I have my personal boundaries and preferences relative to paid massage sessions and generally in life with individuals. Still, I respect other people's ranges of defaults of openness, desires & comfort even when different than my own. Even if I am not comfortable with such.
As long as my boundaries are also respected, including for open honest direct mutually respectful communication. And I am not abusively negatively projected onto, passive aggressively or directly misleadingly lied to or about, which I do not meekly tolerate.
The fact of such diverse preferences & defaults is why I am open to honestly discussing such truths.
To be mutually respectful & non shaming of the diverse range of humans default openness, boundaries, interpretations, desires, appreciation and preferences.
Because I care equally about women and men and individuals freedom to explore, appreciate, have boundaries, desires & ways of learning & relating both similarly and diversely from my own preferences at any time.
As long as people equally respect my boundaries and preferences when I tell them and dont lie, there is no real reason to feel offended.
Thankfully many women & men I meet and provide sessions for relate in mutually respectful, openly honestly communicative ways with me.
And unfortunately I have also experienced some women violate my stated boundaries, including by being - relating misleadingly passive-aggressively & directly manipulatively, dishonestly, negatively projecting. Some aggressively pushing past & acting vindictive when told my stated boundaries and having their desires declined for more than I was open to giving or relating with them. To try to steal and in other ways project their own shadow, dishonest issues onto me & the world.
And some people have chosen to abusively project negatively, act offended & misinterepret as expectations or demands for relating with them, my simply honestly mentioning these facts and asking for open honest communication for clarity and honesty.
( Those behaviors are actual abuse & disrespect. Which I do not meekly tolerate. )
Openly honest, authentic communicating & relating with people is a strong preference & my default. Beyond the blinders of personal, ideological and related biased assumptions. Which is why I include open honest discussion also of these aspects of human beings & life.
Rather than skirting around such subjects as many people do but quietly hold layers of assumptions, beliefs & questions which they do not ask & communicate openly honestly with each other about.
Mutually open honest, direct communicating about these & other aspects of life, with each other is essential to co-create mutual understanding, respect, freedom & care in this world with so many diverse default ranges of openness, boundaries, related interpetations, preferences & appreciation.
While I am not shaming of individuals desires & openness even when beyond my own boundaries & comfort, as to do is unhealthy, unloving, hateful & hypocritical, I still have my own boundaries & preferences.
Friendships are far more important and prefered by me than sexual relating without such, for many reasons.
The point of sharing about such aspects of life so openly - honestly is to support us all in remembering that we are equally human & have diverse defaults of boundaries & openness, interpretations & preferences.
And mutual openly honest, proactively direct communicating with each other about our personal boundaries, preferences, expectations & feelings is essential for co-creating mutual understanding, respect and harmony.
As is respecting each others diverse ranges of default openness, and boundaries once directly honestly told & thereby understood exactly what, when and where they are.
Just because people have different defaults of openness, interests, ways of exploring and learning different than our own preferences, does not invalidate our own or theirs.
Rather than devolving into abusive knee jerk negative assumptions of peoples intentions, feeling offended or angry at people for not mind-readingly knowing & sharing our limits of comfort & interpretations at some moment in time, we can choose sane, mutually respectful & non hypocritical ways of being and relating.
Choosing instead to be & relate with maturity. By contributing to the healthy freedom, harmony & kindness in life by respecting each others equal freedom to be, offer, explore, relate and interpret life and relating both kindredly and differently without jumping to feel hateful, offended or blaming for not being mind readers of our own limits of appreciation and preferences.
Treating each other with equal respect for our shared humanity & freedom to live & explore similarly and diversely.
This is how we co-create heaven on earth, so to speak.
Not by dogmatically attempting to oppressively force one religion, ideology, belief system or personal preference onto everyone else.
But by communicating our boundaries & preferences with each other honestly proactively for mutual understanding & respect.
Respecting each others boundaries once clearly told what they are.
And by respecting each others freedom to be both kindred & different, as we want our freedom to be equally respected.
Living & relating with this mutual kind regard & appreciation frees our consciousness from the stunting blinders of dogmatic thinking. Opening our heart & mind to more clearly love & respect each other. While also allowing for more freedom & growth in our own appreciative awareness.
Another positive effect of this is a gradual releasing, relaxing of mental & emotional tension. And an expansion of our capacity for appreciation and open honesty.
One requirement for us all to do our part in co-creating mutual understanding and respect for each others equal humanity and freedom, is to simply own our personal responsibility for proactively directly honestly stating if & when we have boundaries, expectations, feelings & preferences with anyone in any context.
Before expecting to have such understood & thereby equally respected in this diverse world. And respecting such if & when honestly directly specifically clearly told & understood.
A major source of disharmony and divisiveness among people is the refusal to recognize & own ones negative assumptions that the limits of ones own understanding comfort & boundaries are or should be oppressively forced to be the default of all other women & men. And not owning ones' own related projections, passive aggressive and directly dishonest misleading behaviors and the effects of such.
Combined with the passive aggressive or direct refusal to proactively directly communicate ones boundaries and preferences & relate directly openly honestly with each other in order to co-create clear mutual understanding & thereby respect.
The fear of being fully openly honest with oneself and each other in a nondogmatic, exploratory way is, unfortunately, a normalized way of relating for many. As we learn to evolve beyond that pattern of relating, we greatly increase our capacity for authenticity, mutual respect, freedom & humanitarian love.
This first image ( blue marble background with blue border ) above this text, is a sign I made and have posted prominently in my office. Which I also always verbally state for mutual clarity & respect when first meeting people, because of these facts.
Through the years I've experienced countless women, and occassionally some men, indirectly & directly express desire for, and do things indirectly and directly during massages I give and in other contexts, which are within and beyond my personal preferences, boundaries or comfort for what I'm open to giving or doing during paid massage sessions or generally. Or at least more open than the most conservative attitudes.
A large percentage of women I meet relate with what could be considered fairly open, european attitudes about their body during sessions & generally.
As have some of the massage teachers in schools I learned from.
These are facts which many people wonder about but are self conscious, ashamed or fearful to openly honestly ask about & discuss.
Yet that fear, reluctance or taboo about such non reactive open honest discussion just creates & perpetuates needless fear, confusing behaviors, multi-layered assumptions, dishonesty and shame in people.
Creating a barrier to true wellness, honesty, mutual understanding, love & respect.
I have my personal boundaries and preferences relative to paid massage sessions and generally in life with individuals. Still, I respect other people's ranges of defaults of openness, desires & comfort even when different than my own. Even if I am not comfortable with such.
As long as my boundaries are also respected, including for open honest direct mutually respectful communication. And I am not abusively negatively projected onto, passive aggressively or directly misleadingly lied to or about, which I do not meekly tolerate.
The fact of such diverse preferences & defaults is why I am open to honestly discussing such truths.
To be mutually respectful & non shaming of the diverse range of humans default openness, boundaries, interpretations, desires, appreciation and preferences.
Because I care equally about women and men and individuals freedom to explore, appreciate, have boundaries, desires & ways of learning & relating both similarly and diversely from my own preferences at any time.
As long as people equally respect my boundaries and preferences when I tell them and dont lie, there is no real reason to feel offended.
Thankfully many women & men I meet and provide sessions for relate in mutually respectful, openly honestly communicative ways with me.
And unfortunately I have also experienced some women violate my stated boundaries, including by being - relating misleadingly passive-aggressively & directly manipulatively, dishonestly, negatively projecting. Some aggressively pushing past & acting vindictive when told my stated boundaries and having their desires declined for more than I was open to giving or relating with them. To try to steal and in other ways project their own shadow, dishonest issues onto me & the world.
And some people have chosen to abusively project negatively, act offended & misinterepret as expectations or demands for relating with them, my simply honestly mentioning these facts and asking for open honest communication for clarity and honesty.
( Those behaviors are actual abuse & disrespect. Which I do not meekly tolerate. )
Openly honest, authentic communicating & relating with people is a strong preference & my default. Beyond the blinders of personal, ideological and related biased assumptions. Which is why I include open honest discussion also of these aspects of human beings & life.
Rather than skirting around such subjects as many people do but quietly hold layers of assumptions, beliefs & questions which they do not ask & communicate openly honestly with each other about.
Mutually open honest, direct communicating about these & other aspects of life, with each other is essential to co-create mutual understanding, respect, freedom & care in this world with so many diverse default ranges of openness, boundaries, related interpetations, preferences & appreciation.
While I am not shaming of individuals desires & openness even when beyond my own boundaries & comfort, as to do is unhealthy, unloving, hateful & hypocritical, I still have my own boundaries & preferences.
Friendships are far more important and prefered by me than sexual relating without such, for many reasons.
The point of sharing about such aspects of life so openly - honestly is to support us all in remembering that we are equally human & have diverse defaults of boundaries & openness, interpretations & preferences.
And mutual openly honest, proactively direct communicating with each other about our personal boundaries, preferences, expectations & feelings is essential for co-creating mutual understanding, respect and harmony.
As is respecting each others diverse ranges of default openness, and boundaries once directly honestly told & thereby understood exactly what, when and where they are.
Just because people have different defaults of openness, interests, ways of exploring and learning different than our own preferences, does not invalidate our own or theirs.
Rather than devolving into abusive knee jerk negative assumptions of peoples intentions, feeling offended or angry at people for not mind-readingly knowing & sharing our limits of comfort & interpretations at some moment in time, we can choose sane, mutually respectful & non hypocritical ways of being and relating.
Choosing instead to be & relate with maturity. By contributing to the healthy freedom, harmony & kindness in life by respecting each others equal freedom to be, offer, explore, relate and interpret life and relating both kindredly and differently without jumping to feel hateful, offended or blaming for not being mind readers of our own limits of appreciation and preferences.
Treating each other with equal respect for our shared humanity & freedom to live & explore similarly and diversely.
This is how we co-create heaven on earth, so to speak.
Not by dogmatically attempting to oppressively force one religion, ideology, belief system or personal preference onto everyone else.
But by communicating our boundaries & preferences with each other honestly proactively for mutual understanding & respect.
Respecting each others boundaries once clearly told what they are.
And by respecting each others freedom to be both kindred & different, as we want our freedom to be equally respected.
Living & relating with this mutual kind regard & appreciation frees our consciousness from the stunting blinders of dogmatic thinking. Opening our heart & mind to more clearly love & respect each other. While also allowing for more freedom & growth in our own appreciative awareness.
Another positive effect of this is a gradual releasing, relaxing of mental & emotional tension. And an expansion of our capacity for appreciation and open honesty.
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Shame, Guilt, Projection. Freedom, Honesty & Love.
Shame, guilt, fear & negative projection are unfortunately common attitudes & feelings many people view & relate at life and each other through. This is something that often shows up for many people in their knee jerk subconscious & conscious beliefs and resulting feelings & behaviors about lifestyles, the natural body, real or imagined offers & openness from other people about & ones own feelings & desires for natural affection with people in all but the most tightly constrained contexts.
It is also something some people struggle with during massage sessions. Recognizing they are safe with me in that I won't shame them, and that I ask for, do & will respect if they have any boundaries which they directly honestly state to me at the time, they often begin releasing their social mask & armoring enough to feel the beauty of vulnerability - authenticity, tenderness and appreciation for the natural beauty of being.
Sometimes when some people go back to their regular lives they may fall back into old shame, worry, tension & fear fueled patterns of interpreting, feeling & reacting. Which can be perpetuated by relating with others who interpret life & people through lenses of shame, guilt, fear & negative assumptions.
When the driving force in a society, ideologies and individual beliefs is to project fear, shame and guilt ( including when masked as dogmatic morality ) onto real or imagined experiences & individuals which are or are simply assumed to perceive, appreciate, offer & open to share beauty, love, exploration and growth through the same & different experiences, that needlessly creates divisiveness, fear & hate. It distorts perception & feelings.
When we expand our capacity for & express deeper love, openly honest communicating with each other ( rather than deafly or misleadingly passive aggressively, dishonestly at & ghosting ), respect & appreciation for the many creatively diverse ways which we and others can interpret, perceive, experience & share loving kindness, beauty, meaning, we mature in wisdom and respect for our shared humanity & freedom.
This especially includes even when different from our own or another s personal limits of understanding & comfort at any moment,
Respecting each others freedom as we want our own freedom respected.
Many people have feelings and desires which they are ashamed & fearful to admit. Sometimes those desires & feelings get projected outward onto "others". Other individuals or groups of people, and real or made up experiences.
Owning our feelings & desires honestly is essential to being whole, loving beings.
This involves recognizing, shedding & transforming beyond the shoulds, the constraints and fears of social. familiar, personal and ideological biased beliefs & assumptions. Doing so with kindness for ourselves and each other allows this process to be smoother. And even enjoyable.
No longer hating, fearing and projecting outward negative, offended feelings about our and / or other beings natural desires, about our natural body and emotional desires for intimacy with ourself, life and each other in many diverse contexts, we allow space for love, peace, freedom & empathy to grow.
With dogmatic clenching & passive aggressive & direct dishonesty dissolving from & no longer being motivating energies in our embodying psyche & emotions, we can relax at deeper levels. Our hearts blossom more fully with tenderness.
We are able to remain openly vulnerable, fully honest - authentic with ourself and when relating in all ways with each other. Communicating our subjective personal boundaries directly mutually respectfully clearly in any contexts we are relating with each other before expecting to have such understood & respected, and respecting any boundaries of each other if they exist if - when we are directly mutually respectfully clearly told what, when & where they are.
While still respecting & appreciating our equal humanity, divinity, freedom & diverse ways of perceiving & sharing loving kindness.
Life, and we as unique embodying expressings & experiencings of life, thrive with freedom, vulnerable intimacy, authenticity - honesty and loving appreciation as our core attitudes & ways of being.
Our preferences for exploring & enjoying our lives & relationships in any now are not negated by the freedom of others kindred & different choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying their lives & relationships.
Just as others choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying their lives & relationships are equally valid even as we choose different choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying our lives & relationships.
Yin & Yang. We are kindred source, exploring being in many creatively unique and kindred ways.
It is also something some people struggle with during massage sessions. Recognizing they are safe with me in that I won't shame them, and that I ask for, do & will respect if they have any boundaries which they directly honestly state to me at the time, they often begin releasing their social mask & armoring enough to feel the beauty of vulnerability - authenticity, tenderness and appreciation for the natural beauty of being.
Sometimes when some people go back to their regular lives they may fall back into old shame, worry, tension & fear fueled patterns of interpreting, feeling & reacting. Which can be perpetuated by relating with others who interpret life & people through lenses of shame, guilt, fear & negative assumptions.
When the driving force in a society, ideologies and individual beliefs is to project fear, shame and guilt ( including when masked as dogmatic morality ) onto real or imagined experiences & individuals which are or are simply assumed to perceive, appreciate, offer & open to share beauty, love, exploration and growth through the same & different experiences, that needlessly creates divisiveness, fear & hate. It distorts perception & feelings.
When we expand our capacity for & express deeper love, openly honest communicating with each other ( rather than deafly or misleadingly passive aggressively, dishonestly at & ghosting ), respect & appreciation for the many creatively diverse ways which we and others can interpret, perceive, experience & share loving kindness, beauty, meaning, we mature in wisdom and respect for our shared humanity & freedom.
This especially includes even when different from our own or another s personal limits of understanding & comfort at any moment,
Respecting each others freedom as we want our own freedom respected.
Many people have feelings and desires which they are ashamed & fearful to admit. Sometimes those desires & feelings get projected outward onto "others". Other individuals or groups of people, and real or made up experiences.
Owning our feelings & desires honestly is essential to being whole, loving beings.
This involves recognizing, shedding & transforming beyond the shoulds, the constraints and fears of social. familiar, personal and ideological biased beliefs & assumptions. Doing so with kindness for ourselves and each other allows this process to be smoother. And even enjoyable.
No longer hating, fearing and projecting outward negative, offended feelings about our and / or other beings natural desires, about our natural body and emotional desires for intimacy with ourself, life and each other in many diverse contexts, we allow space for love, peace, freedom & empathy to grow.
With dogmatic clenching & passive aggressive & direct dishonesty dissolving from & no longer being motivating energies in our embodying psyche & emotions, we can relax at deeper levels. Our hearts blossom more fully with tenderness.
We are able to remain openly vulnerable, fully honest - authentic with ourself and when relating in all ways with each other. Communicating our subjective personal boundaries directly mutually respectfully clearly in any contexts we are relating with each other before expecting to have such understood & respected, and respecting any boundaries of each other if they exist if - when we are directly mutually respectfully clearly told what, when & where they are.
While still respecting & appreciating our equal humanity, divinity, freedom & diverse ways of perceiving & sharing loving kindness.
Life, and we as unique embodying expressings & experiencings of life, thrive with freedom, vulnerable intimacy, authenticity - honesty and loving appreciation as our core attitudes & ways of being.
Our preferences for exploring & enjoying our lives & relationships in any now are not negated by the freedom of others kindred & different choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying their lives & relationships.
Just as others choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying their lives & relationships are equally valid even as we choose different choices & preferences for exploring & enjoying our lives & relationships.
Yin & Yang. We are kindred source, exploring being in many creatively unique and kindred ways.
Cultivating appreciation nurtures enjoyment in the present.
Nourishing deep rooted unity, facility with foundational, core principles & embodying pleasure this nurtures is supported by focused, attentively conscious & appreciative practice of slow movement flows & standing. Honing our feeling awareness of the subjectivity of beliefs & attitudes, curiosity, appreciation & balancing of embodying relaxation with focused intention.
To stand in stillness for a while, and to move slowly and enjoy it, we cultivate qualities of appreciative embodying presence in the now. Nourishing love, honesty, open minded ( non-dogmatic ) exploration in the eternal present.
To stand in stillness for a while, and to move slowly and enjoy it, we cultivate qualities of appreciative embodying presence in the now. Nourishing love, honesty, open minded ( non-dogmatic ) exploration in the eternal present.
Tai Chi Qigong & Zhan Zhuang can be enjoyed anywhere.
One of the aspects I appreciate about Tai Chi qigong & zhan Zhang is the ability to enjoy being - practicing in these ways even with minimal space. Whereas long Tai Chi forms tend to require more space, diving into & embodying essence & principles with these methods can be enjoyed fully pretty much anywhere we can stand and move a little.
Conveniently nurturing a quietly aware mind, open heart embodying presence. Unity of inhaling & exhaling air with contraction & expansion of movement, refining sensitivity & smoothness of embodying awareness, explorational curiosity & appreciation, graceful flow...
Conveniently nurturing a quietly aware mind, open heart embodying presence. Unity of inhaling & exhaling air with contraction & expansion of movement, refining sensitivity & smoothness of embodying awareness, explorational curiosity & appreciation, graceful flow...
Why the slow movement of tai chi qigong & stillness of zhan zhuang?
One aspect of Tai Chi qigong & zhan zhuang which some individuals find curious and is less common among movement arts, is the relative slowness and stillness which they are engaged with.
Why do we move so slowly and just stand for a while?
One reason is that by slowing the pace which we move, we are challenged to pay more focused attention to & feel what we are doing, our structural alignments and the quality of our embodying presence and movement.
And to the quality of awareness & content of our beliefs, assumptions, our leaning forward into an imagined future or back into an imagined past.
When we rush through movements, as through the rest of life and relationships with ourself and each other, often it perpetuates simply reacting on automatic pilot so to speak. Based more in the comfortably familiar, worn grooves of ones preconceived & sometimes unrecognized biases, assumptions, projections, fears, prejudices, limits of appreciation, lack of empathy & facility and other attitudes & behaviors.
Such beliefs, emotional reactions & ways of being & relating can become dogmatic and blinding if held to as the only valid options.
If one does not recognize & respect the reality that many additional options ( and people who appreciatively default to them ) for being, learning, loving, exploring embodying life & relating in all contexts, equally exist & are equally valid.
This includes options which we or some others may choose to dislike, feel uncomfortable with, offended by & not truly understand if expecting everyone & life to submit to different personal limits of appreciation & comfort, be unfamiliar with, etc..
When we slow our movement even more than we are use to, focusing our attentive awareness into our body and content & quality of our thinking & feelings, we sensitize our awareness to such patterns, dogmatic beliefs & assumptions. And to their effects on interpretations & feelings. Creating space to quiet the mind into clearer, curious & exploratory awareness, open our heart & transform our consciousness beyond patterned chatter & reactionary, dogmatic blinding ways of interpreting, behaving & relating.
In the relative stillness of zhan zhuang standing embodied meditation, we have a cauldron of sorts to recognize, accept & refine our responsibility for awareness generally & of our ideas, beliefs & resulting feelings, reactions, responses. And how these manifest in our body & emotions. And in our feelings about human relational & additional life experiences.
As comfort or discomfort.
Suppleness or rigidity.
As respecting that many women & men interpret differently & appreciatively the same words & experiences which one or some others may interpret negatively or uncomfortably, or negatively projecting & misinterpreting peoples' kindly intentioned real or imagined invitations & openness with us in any ways, as if they are demands or expectations for anything other than direct open honest communication of our subjective boundaries, preferences & generally for mutual clarity & respect.
Smooth & sensitive or rigid & clunky movement.
In the present moment appreciation & loving presence or frustration & dishonesty.
The quality of our experiences is ultimately up to us to choose. To create. By how we subconsciously and consciously choose to focus our attention & interpretations.
If we want to feel good unitively, be healthy, supple and loving we focus on nurturing open honesty, authenticity, appreciation and curiosity in our attitudes & behaviors, rather than calcifying dogmatic beliefs, passive aggressive & direct dishonest & negative projections. And respecting our own & each others freedom equally.
- Aaron
The following quotes from other people affirm kindred healthy, loving, exploratory perspectives, ways of being & relating.
Why do we move so slowly and just stand for a while?
One reason is that by slowing the pace which we move, we are challenged to pay more focused attention to & feel what we are doing, our structural alignments and the quality of our embodying presence and movement.
And to the quality of awareness & content of our beliefs, assumptions, our leaning forward into an imagined future or back into an imagined past.
When we rush through movements, as through the rest of life and relationships with ourself and each other, often it perpetuates simply reacting on automatic pilot so to speak. Based more in the comfortably familiar, worn grooves of ones preconceived & sometimes unrecognized biases, assumptions, projections, fears, prejudices, limits of appreciation, lack of empathy & facility and other attitudes & behaviors.
Such beliefs, emotional reactions & ways of being & relating can become dogmatic and blinding if held to as the only valid options.
If one does not recognize & respect the reality that many additional options ( and people who appreciatively default to them ) for being, learning, loving, exploring embodying life & relating in all contexts, equally exist & are equally valid.
This includes options which we or some others may choose to dislike, feel uncomfortable with, offended by & not truly understand if expecting everyone & life to submit to different personal limits of appreciation & comfort, be unfamiliar with, etc..
When we slow our movement even more than we are use to, focusing our attentive awareness into our body and content & quality of our thinking & feelings, we sensitize our awareness to such patterns, dogmatic beliefs & assumptions. And to their effects on interpretations & feelings. Creating space to quiet the mind into clearer, curious & exploratory awareness, open our heart & transform our consciousness beyond patterned chatter & reactionary, dogmatic blinding ways of interpreting, behaving & relating.
In the relative stillness of zhan zhuang standing embodied meditation, we have a cauldron of sorts to recognize, accept & refine our responsibility for awareness generally & of our ideas, beliefs & resulting feelings, reactions, responses. And how these manifest in our body & emotions. And in our feelings about human relational & additional life experiences.
As comfort or discomfort.
Suppleness or rigidity.
As respecting that many women & men interpret differently & appreciatively the same words & experiences which one or some others may interpret negatively or uncomfortably, or negatively projecting & misinterpreting peoples' kindly intentioned real or imagined invitations & openness with us in any ways, as if they are demands or expectations for anything other than direct open honest communication of our subjective boundaries, preferences & generally for mutual clarity & respect.
Smooth & sensitive or rigid & clunky movement.
In the present moment appreciation & loving presence or frustration & dishonesty.
The quality of our experiences is ultimately up to us to choose. To create. By how we subconsciously and consciously choose to focus our attention & interpretations.
If we want to feel good unitively, be healthy, supple and loving we focus on nurturing open honesty, authenticity, appreciation and curiosity in our attitudes & behaviors, rather than calcifying dogmatic beliefs, passive aggressive & direct dishonest & negative projections. And respecting our own & each others freedom equally.
- Aaron
The following quotes from other people affirm kindred healthy, loving, exploratory perspectives, ways of being & relating.
" I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few. " - Brene Brown
" If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don't tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate.
Even if we hear something and we don't understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions.
We make all sorts of assumptions because we don't have the courage to ask questions ( and to communicate directly openly honestly with - rather than deafly at, gossiping about & ghosting - each other. " ) - Miguel Ruiz
" In any kind of relationship, we can make the ( erroneous & misleading ) assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want & don't want.
We assume they are going to do what we want because they know us so well.
If they don’t do what we want, we feel hurt and think, How could you do that? You should know. "
- Don Miguel Ruiz. Author of The Four Agreements.
" We never look beyond our assumptions and what's worse, we have given up trying to meet others; we just meet ourselves. " - Muriel Barbery
Emotional & Spiritual Integrity and Open, Honest Communication & Lasting Relationships of Diverse Kinds.
The significance of the quote is true for many kinds of human relationships.
It is a main reason that nurturing mutually openly honestly communicative, appreciative lasting relationships of many kinds & contexts is worthwhile.
And why I prefer such in many contexts.
It is unfortunately ( in my belief ) common in our society for many people to view & relate at - rather than openly honestly with - each other more as temporary disposable utilitarian objects & subjects of their own ( sometimes negative ) assumptive projections and stories.
Rather than relating with curiosity, appreciation of our shared humanity and diverse interpretations & views, and communicating directly openly honestly with each other to develop deepening accurate mutual understanding, respect & harmony in our ways of being & relating.
It seems it's become normalized for some people to choose to jump to negative assumptions based in their own subjective biases, beliefs, limits of appreciation & resulting feelings.
And to ghost people to avoid simply directly openly honestly communicating with people generally and if one doesn't like & doesn't understand some experience or intention assumed & interpreted in certain ways.
In attempt to falsely convince themselves or oneself that assumptive ideas & feelings about themselves, experiences and / or individuals are true and the only possible interpretations & intentions. Dehumanizing & blinding perceptions.
Yet most of us can empathize with the desire for more open honest communicating & mutual understanding when we have experienced misunderstandings, been negatively or otherwise inaccurately assumed about & projected onto and ghosted by people.
Hopefully we mature to equally include each other in our empathy. To recognize, admit and transform where & when we have done such in our ways of viewing & relating with people.
When we choose to remain mutually openly honestly communicative, curious rather than dogmatic assumptive with each other, we develop clearer understanding, appreciation & respect of each others equal humanity.
And of the beautiful, natural diversity & nuance of human interpretations, boundaries, default openness & appreciation, feelings & being.
Opening space in our psyche for expanding & clearing our own awareness, empathy, beliefs, appreciation and love of many kinds.
This enables us to release our false - mistaken, tension producing narratives & related feelings. Rather than simply assuming about & flippantly discarding people & human relationships of various kinds, developing calloused hearts & closed, dogmatic beliefs in the process.
This viewing & relating with each other with equal kindred human empathy, kindness, open honest communicating and care enables us to co-create authentic, mutually respecting, appreciative, lasting & harmonious ways & kinds of being & relating with each other and with life.
Balancing posterior with anterior for alleviating posterior torso & neck pain.
Part of the beauty of this world is the complimentary nature of life. How the movement of earth & sun flow life on this planet through darkness & light.
How our breathing in life energy as oxygen is balanced with exhaling carbon dioxide.
Body nourishing blood circulates through our body via contractions & releasing expansion of our heart muscle.
Male & female beings compliment & harmonize with each other when relating with mutual appreciation & honest open communicating with each other .
Movement of our body is enabled by refined contractions and releasing of muscle fibers.
Etc..
Likewise, one of the most common issues people refer to wanting assistance alleviating with massages, is back and neck stiffness & pain.
And one of the most common causes of such symptoms is created & perpetuated by forward hunching of shoulders, chest, pectorals, neck and head.
Given our eyes face forward and many of us spend a lot of time looking & manipulating objects with hands in front of us, at computers, using phones, driving, etc., over time the fascia, muscles, body memory become habituated to such forward rounding & leaning positions. This of course contracts - shortens the muscles & fascia in the anterior torso, especially the chest, pectorals, anterior neck. Which creates a blend of chronic extension in some posterior torso & neck tissues as they are pulled forward by the contracting muscles & fascia, as well as tightening of posterior muscles to try to maintain a somewhat upright posture and not topple forward.
An importance point about this is that only addressing the symptoms of tension & pain in the posterior side of the body is often not enough to give fully, causally effective wellness support. It is important to develop & maintain consistent postural awareness.
Keping the gravitational flow as vertically aligned as possible through the crown of head, spine, pelvis, legs, feet and into the earth. Finding positions which use the least amount of strain as possible to stay balanced upright when standing and sitting.
While including stretching and massage of the anterior torso, chest and neck muscles. Helping to relax and elongate, release excess contraction & adhesions in those muscles & fascia. When stretching, ideally releasing gradually into each stretch - opening position for at least a few minutes - as this will allow for deepening release.
This also helps to free the rib cage & diaphragm. And open the heart center. Allowing for easier, fuller inhalations and feelings, transforming and harmonizing of emotions.
Which promotes deeper, slower breathing and calming of nervous system. Something very beneficial in a society where there is a lot of external stimulation, rapid changes and busyness at the expense of balancing slowness, self care and nurturing experiences.
As we give ourselves and each other appreciation & space to breathe, literally and metaphorically, we nourish our individual & interrelated well-being, peace & enjoyment of being alive.
How our breathing in life energy as oxygen is balanced with exhaling carbon dioxide.
Body nourishing blood circulates through our body via contractions & releasing expansion of our heart muscle.
Male & female beings compliment & harmonize with each other when relating with mutual appreciation & honest open communicating with each other .
Movement of our body is enabled by refined contractions and releasing of muscle fibers.
Etc..
Likewise, one of the most common issues people refer to wanting assistance alleviating with massages, is back and neck stiffness & pain.
And one of the most common causes of such symptoms is created & perpetuated by forward hunching of shoulders, chest, pectorals, neck and head.
Given our eyes face forward and many of us spend a lot of time looking & manipulating objects with hands in front of us, at computers, using phones, driving, etc., over time the fascia, muscles, body memory become habituated to such forward rounding & leaning positions. This of course contracts - shortens the muscles & fascia in the anterior torso, especially the chest, pectorals, anterior neck. Which creates a blend of chronic extension in some posterior torso & neck tissues as they are pulled forward by the contracting muscles & fascia, as well as tightening of posterior muscles to try to maintain a somewhat upright posture and not topple forward.
An importance point about this is that only addressing the symptoms of tension & pain in the posterior side of the body is often not enough to give fully, causally effective wellness support. It is important to develop & maintain consistent postural awareness.
Keping the gravitational flow as vertically aligned as possible through the crown of head, spine, pelvis, legs, feet and into the earth. Finding positions which use the least amount of strain as possible to stay balanced upright when standing and sitting.
While including stretching and massage of the anterior torso, chest and neck muscles. Helping to relax and elongate, release excess contraction & adhesions in those muscles & fascia. When stretching, ideally releasing gradually into each stretch - opening position for at least a few minutes - as this will allow for deepening release.
This also helps to free the rib cage & diaphragm. And open the heart center. Allowing for easier, fuller inhalations and feelings, transforming and harmonizing of emotions.
Which promotes deeper, slower breathing and calming of nervous system. Something very beneficial in a society where there is a lot of external stimulation, rapid changes and busyness at the expense of balancing slowness, self care and nurturing experiences.
As we give ourselves and each other appreciation & space to breathe, literally and metaphorically, we nourish our individual & interrelated well-being, peace & enjoyment of being alive.
Reach out to meet, give for & relate with mutually appreciative people.
I've learned over years the value of reaching out to offer connecting with people through social media, in person and other ways. As this is what creates opportunities for meeting people we often would not have met otherwise.
Who may, and do, choose to interpret & respond with curiosity, appreciation & openness to ways of caring, services and natural, kind & authentic human relating which I and some additional beings are open to offer, and give & share when discovering mutually appreciative beings.
Just because some people may not understand, may negatively project suspicious, fearful, misintepretive assumptions & limits of appreciation when we are authentic, kind & vulnerably courageous to reach out and offer human connections of various kinds, our skills and humanity, doesn't mean we should stop being open and exploring life, offering ( and accepting when mutually desired ) invitations and relating with each other.
Of course if we don't want to do something someone offers us we can simply mutually respectfully honestly respond thanking them and letting them know we are not interested, or if we may be and have questions.
And vice versa for those we open to offer for & communicate with, if they say thanks, but they aren't interested, we simply accept they aren't the ones to relate with and move on with our life and those who do appreciate.
If people don't reply I've learned sometimes they just haven't read or remembered the communications. Or they weren't in a space at that time to accept it but can be at another time. So it's worth checking in and offering again at other times.
As many people appreciate, desire and choose to accept the same, similar & diverse invitations & ways of kind human meeting, relating, nurturing embodying wellness we offer, give & share.
And these are the people we are doing it for. Opening ourselves for. Who match a demographic most likely to appreciate, enjoy and thereby benefit from the unique ways & perspectives we can & do embody, give & share. Who we are able to meet, communicate with, give for & relate with in any ways we discover are mutually appreciative by reaching out to people.